Posted on 10/17/2016 4:04:26 AM PDT by Morgana
When I imagined my wedding, I pictured a destination wedding that everyone and their plus-ones couldn't wait to get to — something European and chic, in a gothic church with al fresco photos on cobblestone streets. I also wanted a couple hundred guests. In Paris. Or Ireland. A place from where my fiancé and I could just jet off into the sunset afterwards and disappear on the continent for a few weeks.
For multiple reasons (like, reality), my fiancé and I ended up planning a state-side affair, but the sophistication remained. We're getting married on a Saturday in New York City, at — in my opinion — one of the city's most stunning churches, followed by a reception at one of the world's top restaurants. A jazz quartet will serenade our guests with classics. The food and champagne will be French. Our palette is white on white on white (or ivory). The words I've used with countless vendors from my jeweler to my florist are, "Crisp. Elegant. Modern."
One thing that definitely won't be at my wedding? Kids.
That's not to say I don't like kids. I have seven kids under the age of 15 in my extended family, and my fiancé has around 35 (!) kids on his side. And nearly half of our friends have one or more kids under the age of three. But neither of us loves being around children that much, and we knew as soon as we got engaged that those kids would definitely not be invited to our wedding.
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Maybe. Or maybe she is a spoiled millennial princess.
People who believe they are entitled to bring their kids with them everywhere are nuts. If your children are not invited to the wedding, don’t bring them. If your children are invited, but start acting up, scoop them up and take them home.
Question is, If they hate kids.....and won’t have them.....it’s the whole ‘Idiocracy’ thing....the future of America is President Mountain Dew Camacho..... and lawyers graduating from Costco Law School.
BS!
I love seeing children at a wedding. Had children at my wedding. However, every bride has a right to the wedding she envisions. If that means no children, then so be it.
“If your children are invited, but start acting up, scoop them up and take them home.”
If only more parents did that in public in general.
poor girl seems to have only bad taste
This snobs dream wedding is a destination wedding.
My second cousin’s kid had one in the Caribbean somewhere. I, thankfully wasn’t invited (of course I wouldn’t go anyway). My parents (read, Mother ) would have gone, but their fixed income status made that impossible. So few people made the trip, that the cousin had a party, locally, for family a month later (probably to garner more presents).
My daughter just got married last weekend. She and her husband footed the entire bill. It cost about $130 per person. And this was one of the better prices she could get.
At $130 a head, they decided not to invite children.
The youngest person to attend was a fourteen year old cousin who behaved as if he were 20.
Every time I go shopping with Mom, we encounter a child having a tantrum, whining, bawling, disrupting.
Mom always says some variant of:
You never did that.
You never would have.
You never did that even at home.
Now I find myself hoping that she will always remember this and return the favor. :D
That said, I find the writer, on the eve of matrimony, uncommonly sour on one of life’s greatest blessings.
Unless she's buying plane tickets and paying for hotel rooms for all her guests, that's just rude. Get married at the courthouse for fifty bucks, and then take yourself on a nice vacation.
We never did that as kids because we would have got our butts busted if we did. Come on admit it! These kids don’t know the meaning of the word.
Oh girl I have one better...my dad said once “if you want to elope I’ll hold the ladder”.
We set up a daycare for my wedding back in 81. No one had an issue with it, but then we didn’t send out an email, just a note on the bottom of the invitation.
Not just a destination wedding, but with hundreds of people there. At several thousand dollars per person in travel and food just getting there. I can understand wanting to restrict the guests to those who are mature enough to behave. I can understand destination weddings when such a thing is more important than family and friends. But she should not expect hundreds to be willing to shell out for her fantasies.
That would be my guess.
When I marry it will not be posh, for my clan is not wasteful as a rule. May there be many children attending, and none mine.
I'm saving them for the funeral.
Does that mean that every groom, potential guest, vendor, etc., has a duty to make the Princess Bride's vision a reality, regardless of every other consideration?
Honestly, I think it's possible to agree that a couple may invite those whom they choose - adults only, if that's their wish - without positing an absolutely absurd "right" to Dream Wedding Perfection.
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