Posted on 09/09/2016 5:37:46 PM PDT by Chickensoup
My son 21 is courting a wonderful young woman20. She is educated, motivated, traveled, religious, warm, intelligent, thoughtful and attractive.
My son likes her very much. She likes him very much.
They both are hearing family and friends tell them not to marry so early. She will have a great job with a great future. My son will have a baseline investment income and can work full or part time as the family needs.
He is disorganized and would do well yoked. She seems to enjoy his eccentricities. I am encouraging early marriage. Would like to hear Freeper opinion on early marriage in today's marriage marketplace.
Both of my grandmothers were married by 14.
for how long?
I say go with it. I would have benefited from a more routine life where I had to answer to people day to day. Both should still be able to have good employment as they save for a house and other things. Let there be love!!
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They will have a house and some land in a few years. They can save now for a vacation house. I just love them both!
YMMV.
——My son 21 is courting a wonderful young woman 20——
The key word here is “courting”
If they are still courting, it too early to get married...
I got married at age 20 in 1969 and 47 years later I’m still married to her
They have been involved since last Christmas, and she graduates in 18 months.
I have a very "corporate" successful female friend who waited until 37 and she is hating life with her two-month-old right now. I have other female friends who are still single in their early to mid-40's and can't yet manage to admit to themselves that it is too late.
God provides your answer in 1 Corinthians 7, King James version.
If there’s no pressing urgency, they should wait and continue to get to know each other better. If there’s a valid reason for getting married soon, I wish them the best.
Older kid got married at 19 because her husband got his orders to ship off to Afghanistan. They’re still happily married and he’s off on another deployment, though it’s non-combat this time.
There are plenty of good reasons to say yes and there are plenty of good reasons to say “wait”.
If they want to get married, then they should get married. She sounds like a gem. Protect his premarital assets, though. Remove that incentive for her to want a divorce.
no man needs a mother as a wife. If he can’t discipline himself it will be trouble.
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He needs a secretary. LOL
Today is a complex world, and people need to learn more now than ever. My saying is “25 is the new 18”.
When I was 16 I started dating a girl, and we broke up when I was 30. When we were 30. We were good together, but we were with each other during times we should have been learning lessons.
There is good, and there is bad. Much of it has to do with their environment.
Get married. There’s nothing better then maturing with your spouse....I was 20 and my wife was 21...that was 35 years ago wouldn’t trade it for the world.
There is that major issue.
They will have time to do all the stuff they would have done as a single but with their best friend by their side.
The main caution is that enough time passes so that the infatuation phase can pass and they both can honestly evaluate the idea that marriage was intended to last for life. If you find the right mate, why wait, at least why wait too long?
I was 20 when I married....and that was 38 years ago. Keep God first and you can face/go through any thing together!
We live in a day when real marriage and family are under attack. That is why people are so down on marrying at a young age.
The Bible instructs believers to “not be unequally” joined together in marriage with unbelievers. So, in this category I would encourage any young couple contemplating marriage to make sure they know what they believe and are in agreement on the fundamentals of their faith.
The Bible also reveals that God’s will is to abstain from sexual immorality, AND that marriage is one way to be obedient to God in this regard. So, in this category, I think that anyone who is unable to practice abstinence should get married in obedience to God.
Why marry? To get away from something? To have children?
It doesn’t sound like he is ready to support a family.
Minimal income, immature (”disorganized”), and soon she will tire of supporting him. Especially if a child comes into the picture.
I married at 21 to a 20 year old girl. It didn’t work.
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