Definitely can’t figure out what is ‘wrong’ with boys these days.
My oldest Grandson, (HS Senior) will graduate on time and has played Baseball going back to TBall.
He is NOT interested in College (I am following my Grandfathers complaint over my going in Navy by definitely NOT encouraging either one in the Military though the Sr would probably qual for one of the Acadamys) but is leaning towards a trade school. He has also held a job the last few years.
The youngest Grandson (HS Soph) also has played ball since ‘day 1’ but his mother ‘complains’ he games to much BUT his grades are up and the only real gripe I had(have) with him is I found him wearing an Obama tshirt under his Baseball Uniform shirt.
However, my ‘anger’ turned to absolute JOY JOY JOY when I noticed the shirt read
One
Big
A$$
Mistake
America
So all is ‘well’ to say the least.
The go out for the team, make the team no matter how bad, and the trophys and such for anything other than 1st place disgusts BOTH the boys + their Older sister.
Guess I am ready to ‘go’ as my ‘work’ here is almost complete.....
I don't belittle or bully my players, but I've been focusing on holding them accountable: getting to practice and games on time, hustling/giving their best effort, etc. My wife says I'm too impatient, yet every dad tells me to keep up the good work.
There's 2-3 weeks left in the season, so it can go either way (for next year).
I’m 63. About 2/3 of the boys I grew up with broke an arm or a leg in childhood at least once. We did this by doing something stupid, daring, exciting and dangerous. Most of these guys had access to a BB gun, a pellet gun or a real .22lr rifle. Many had all three. We rode bike or walked when we wanted to go somewhere. We slept in the woods, built fires, swam in ponds, smoked cigarettes we didn’t actually enjoy and grew up to be responsible adults. I see my daughters boyfriends and am pretty sure I could kick their asses even today.
Maybe it’s estrogen in the water supply from birth control pills. Maybe it’s feminized education. Maybe I’m just an old fart who misremembers. I think I grew up with better men.
I have read every comment in this thread....and everyone is correct with their observations. We have emasculated todays young male
It’s not just the public schools. My son graduates next week from a small Christian high school. I don’t think any of the girls in his class have ever been on a date. The boys were not seen as potential mates, but as competition for scholarships. There is no teenage pregnancy, but there’s also really no friendship. Everything is about the girls getting jobs. And the female teachers have no concern for the boys. We paid a lot of money for him to go to a school where they can pray, but you don’t see much of “the fruit of the spirit”.
“This eye-opening study served as a wake-up call, exposing the systematic bias that girls face in education.”
Wow. Systematic bias - and yet girls get better grades and more go on to college - despite scoring lower on tests of intrisic academic/mental ability.
Moreover this “sytematic bias” would mostly be PERPETRATED by women - the majority of school teachers being women.
So despite lower test scores, they get better grades, and more go on to college - and they are being systematically discriminated against by women!
Yeah.........
I’ve read all the comments on this thread.
When do fathers who used to be married or never bothered to marry step up and take responsibility for abandoning their sons to be raised exclusively by women?
I know one thing discouraging good boys is the knowledge that no matter how hard they work and make the government will take all they can and cause inflation to get the rest.
Just the other day I was amazed that my son said kids he graduated college with just a couple years ago are expecting to make $80K plus out of school because they cannot live on entry level wages. I didn’t make that until I was in my 40’s.
Boys are the future of Western society. Western society is being attacked in its entirety. Therefore, boys are being attacked and reduced to impotency. It will be conveyed in word and deed that Western boys of European ancestory are inferior to Third World children and in time they will be inferior.
I spent many hours as a young boy in the basement by myself, setting up HO scale trains, towns, etc. then blowing them away with a canister vacuum cleaner in “Sandy” mode. BWAHAHAHAHAH! Mom kept telling me to play outside, but the basement was cooler. Decades later I’d could easily piss on a Boston bomber’s grave while standing upright.
Doctorates in Social Justice, Victims’ Studies, Womyns’ Studies.
It’s everything on here AND ... In my case..
I raised my 3 kids in So Cal and they DID go outside a lot. They went out after dark and played in the yards..
Brad came along and it was no longer SAFE for he & his buds to play outside in the same neighborhood. For this reason I DO blame the open border crowd.
The education establishment has pushed the males to the sidelines in order to beat them, drug them, and cajole them into submission. Feminization of the country first, and now we enter the age of homosexualization of same.
among the factors cited - “teaching methods, prescription drugs, environmental toxins, devaluation of masculinity.” -
I put my bet, my priority, on two - teaching methods and devaluation of masculinity, though one not mentioned I would rank just as high - the feminization of popular culture.
I would suggest that boys increasing retreat into video games is aided by the zealous almost anti-male teaching agenda in schools and the increasing feminization of many other cultural factors outside of school.
When you diminish what it means to be a boy in school and in popular culture the developing immature boy sees less clearly where he ought to be headed, as a boy, and he becomes adrift.
Studies show he boys are cognitively no worse off than their female peers on average - female SAT scores are not a lot higher, but boys K9-12 GPA is lower - they’ve been less unengaged and more distracted in the classroom. That might be one of the causes behind the fact that more girls than boys now decide to and get into college than boys.
“The male-female ratio in higher education has been steadily moved in favor of the females ever since the 1970s. Total enrollment figures show that females outnumbered their male counterparts for the first time in the late 1970s, and they have steadily increased their numerical advantage ever since. The superiority first came in public universities, but soon private universities saw female enrollment surpass male enrollment.”
from: http://www.forbes.com/sites/ccap/2012/02/16/the-male-female-ratio-in-college/
If you don’t think “culture” is to blame, note this stat from the same report:
“For example, Utah is the only state with more males than females in its public colleges, and it is very close to a 50-50 split in its private colleges.” And Utah ranks among the top five in the male-to-female in-college ratios for private schools as well. Gee, I wonder who most the people in Utah are??
The video game issue is to me a symptom not a cause; it is a “virtual substitute” for the masculine world view the boy does not find enough respite for in the real world.
One of my first solutions - gender segregate the K-12 schools at about the age 12. Get feminine issues out of boys competing with boys, in and out of the classroom.
Because women are well organized by feminists who hate men.
Pray for America to Wake Up
What happened?
Beta male politicians discovered appeasing the numerically superior female vote was their ticket to power.
Simple as that.
Men/fathers who capitulated while the feminists and the biased school system ran roughshod over them.
“econd, not only are boys kept passively inside, they are forced to deal almost the entire day with reading, writing, and arithmetic, probably not their own first choices. “
Wait just a minute. I thought boys were always better in math or science than girls. Now they are telling me boys don’t want to do that? I don’t buy it. If they are not interested then I have a feeling it is because they are not actually learning math or science.
Our boys are rather masculine. Must be their dad’s influence.
Clearly, America has become a nation of weenies such that being a boy these days is considered either immoral or illegal or both.
That’s what happened.