Posted on 07/31/2012 5:07:35 AM PDT by Sir Napsalot
A new study suggests that—no matter how platonic you imagine a relationship may be—every man you know but aren’t related to is trying to sleep with you. And what’s worse, they think you’re trying to sleep with them right back.
Yes, really.
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And while this unique insight into the male brain is troubling for male-female friendships around the world—including your insistence that you “stay friends” with all of your exes—the findings are much more disturbing when put into the context of the workplace. What about the platonic relationships you have with your male colleagues? Do male supervisors believe their female subordinates are in love with them? How does that shape corporate culture, the assessment of female employees and women’s advancement in the office?
(Excerpt) Read more at forbes.com ...
Asinine comment. (not yours, the so-called designation)
Anyway, I still think the ‘young adults’ are influenced way too much by tv shows.
It seems every tv sitcom/drama/reality show, every one is sleeping/attracted to every one else, esp. in work environment.
There were certainly rumors of such romantic flings at my work place(s), but very rare considering the large number of employees. As for fantasizing .....
I did not get the impression that the research was limited to “friendships” between coworkers, so it’s probably applicable generally, to the extent it’s accurate at all.
The “Forbes” article seems to be discussing single adults, so it makes sense to me that they would be checking one another out as sex partners.
“I have polite working relationships with men in Scouts and church ministry ... it’s very difficult to believe that any of them thinks a 46-year-old married woman with ten children, including a 6-month-old baby, is interested in sex with them.”
They don’t rationally believe it could possibly happen but the thought of fantasy exists. Someone with self control doesn’t act on his thoughts but it is impossible to not have them in the first place.
I call BS. I don’t want to with any of them, and I am sure they don’t want to with me either.
” Asinine comment. (not yours, the so-called designation) “
Not an incorrect designation of this generation’s 20-30 year olds, unfortunately.
If that’s the way people think of themselves - and I assume the author does, since she used the term - it seems to me that they are giving themselves permission to act in stupid and immature ways that contemporaries who define themselves as “adults” would not.
My 18-year-old might be considered an “emerging adult,” although I’m more inclined to say “teenage pain-in-the-neck.” However, a 30-year-old man had better have arrived at unqualified adulthood.
It is one thing for a man to consider me as a possible sex partner, although I rather hope they wouldn’t, but it’s something else again if any of them thought I was considering them back, as it were.
I’m out of the age range of the study, anyway, although many of the men I see are in their 20s and 30s - because their children are the age of our younger ones - while my husband and I are in our late 40s.
You’ve worked late nights and even weekends to show your supervisor he can count on you. But your boss hasn’t gotten the message; instead, he’s filed those nights and weekends under “romantic pursuit” and your hard-work as pleas for his attention.
As the current big fish in a small pond, the last thing I want to deal with is a harassment lawsuit because I'm in the position of authority creating a "hostile work environment". Business stays business. It keeps me safer.
They JUST figured this out?!
“Anyway, I still think the ‘young adults’ are influenced way too much by tv shows.”
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I agree....but I see such influence across all age brackets. The more secularized we become as a culture....the worse it will be. Our *authentic* quality of life deteriorates in direct relationship with our secularization.
Considering that I'm in my 30's and own two businesses, Meghan Casserly's number won't be going in my little black book anytime soon.
If men are such pigs, then who are all these men sleeping with?
I’d say you have emerged!
Like I said - asinine!
My 14yo considers herself and emerging-adult......I think of her more a brat! She did however get on an airplane in Norfolk, change planes in Baltimore and arrive safely on her own in Tampa yesterday. I wanted to cry when she walked passed those TSA agents yesterday. One o them smiled at me and said “She’ll be fine, Mom.”
It is one thing for a man to consider me as a possible sex partner, although I rather hope they wouldn’t, but it’s something else again if any of them thought I was considering them back, as it were.
When a woman responds to a man with a friendly “c u soon :)” text message, he will take it all the way in his mind.
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