Cleaning your house with your kids awake is like brushing your teeth with Oreos
I got this from a Freeper who also on facebook.
Posted on 04/02/2012 12:33:56 PM PDT by trailhkr1
Cops: Accused Prostitute Offered Undercover Officer Sex For Cheeseburgers Off McDonald's Dollar Menu
The woman, the detective reported, replied that the pair “could go have sexual intercourse if I bought her two double cheese burgers off the dollar menu at McDonald’s.” The cop added, “I agreed to the deal and purchased the hamburgers for $2.75.”
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There's no magic involved. Whatever funeral arrangements and costs you want to make, and have an influence on, have to be spoken about now.
If you don't care, it can wait.
On the other hand, if you discover that someone wishes to insure your life for a million dollars, I would ...
... wait ...
... I would want to be named as one of the beneficiaries.
Bob...if they can afford to insure me for $1 million, you will be on my list of “Friends Who Can’t Be Ignored.” I can’t do any better than that!
A “burial policy” - “whole life,” we life insurance types say - is a nice thing to have. DP has one with the Knights of Columbus, which also lets the council list him as an “insured member” and makes them look good to the National Office. On the other hand, one could have pre-paid “arrangements,” or cash savings to cover costs.
I think it’s a little daring of your DIL - of such recent vintage! - to be asking about this, but on the other hand, I now wonder about my mother-in-law’s preparations. Not that her children can’t, as a group, handle expenses when they arrive. I’m not going to call and ask if we can take out a policy on her!
Your choice how to play it. It’s a bit morbid, but another way to say that is, “We all die, and then something has to be done with us.” At your age and state of health, a policy to cover final expenses is all that would be available, so you needn’t worry that they want to hasten your demise for financial gain.
If you don’t like the suggestion of their getting an insurance policy, could you discuss with them a pre-paid funeral which you would plan, and for which they would make installment payments? Or maybe you’d like to leave yourself for research into CFIDS or Utah genetics or other scientific matters. Perhaps that could be set up through UNLV or a major hospital in your area.
My mom bought a million dollar policy on DP - 20-year term, until most of the kids are grown - and set up a single-purpose trust to pay for it. She didn’t want her grandchildren in poverty if something happens to him, and it was an efficient way to leverage some of the cash Mom and Dad got when the misers in his family died and left him everything.
The insurance company - my former employer! - insisted that we cancel an earlier policy I’d bought on him, because the total insured amount would have reached “worth more dead than alive.”
Hmmmm...I will review this in the AM. It sounds very intelligent, and strikes me as allowing me to have the final say. While I like my DIL, I think she is “pushy.”
But you didn’t hear that from me!
XOXO
There’s only the one you, so you should be in control of the disposition of you. Get it all in writing - standard forms are available online, so you don’t have to pay a lawyer.
I understand how you feel but as the Greeks said "All men are mortal" preplanned is not a bad idea with a small policy to take care of any debts.
If they try to take a million dollar policy out on you it is time to worry. :)
Preplanned though lets you decide what is done with you. You can decide where you want to be buried and how or even if you want to be buried.
I wish Sionnsar had done some planning beyond the insurance policies. There is no life insurance on the mortgage which is in his name only.... He had no DNR or Living Will or Medical Power of Attorney or even Durable Power of Attorney in place for someone to handle his affairs. It was all left to me. He died unexpectedly and I am living with the aftermath. In addition to immense and sometimes crippling sadness I have a royal mess to deal with - and none of his family are offering to help. They have been stone cold silent since the investigation. They were part of the decision to terminate life support, but they have done nothing since except talk trash about me to the investigators. I am just sick about it.
So, I alone get to decide what happens to his science fiction collection (fills most of one large room in our home), the boxes of photographs of relatives several generations dead, the piles of CD’s with back-ups of stuff he considered important, and drawers of files... articles to consult “later”..... the vinyl.... I am so overwhelmed I have no idea where to even start.
I hope all who read this post will think about how their loved ones will struggle should they die suddenly and leave no plans in place to help the grieving deal with it all. If you love your family, please make plans so they don’t have to guess what it is you want done with you and your stuff. Spare them the agony.... please.
Oh, my. So many things I’ve left undone.
And “later” runs away even faster than good health and stamina.
No time like the present to fix that, is there?
There is no time like the present for anything.
And there is no present like time. (That’s one reason I always fasten my seat belt when I drive. You won’t have time when you need it later.)
He definitely does that!
I see you still have that ineffable sense of timing.
It is always spookily silent in here at this time of night.
When I croak I want my body taken out into the desert and blown up with C4. I don’t think there’s any way for me to insure that happens unless I really, really infuriate somebody, and then they won’t want to wait until I croak.
These are the kind of paradoxes that go through my mind all the time.
What? It is only around 9:42 if I post fast enough.
Maybe you could say something in your will to infuriate someone. The reading of a will starts many movies and stories.
I always liked, "Being of sound mind, and sound body -- I spent it all."
Cleaning your house with your kids awake is like brushing your teeth with Oreos
I got this from a Freeper who also on facebook.
We have wills, powers of attorney ... and a habit of getting rid of stuff rather than accumulating ... but it’s probably time for an update. The documents were done when we moved here, which was four children ago.
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