Posted on 12/08/2011 11:52:02 AM PST by AUJenn
We have a close family member who decided a few years ago that she was gay. I say 'decided' because up until then, she had always dated men and was actually about to get married. It came as a huge shock to everyone and has taken a while to get used to. She has had the same partner since she announced her lifestyle change. It has been difficult for me and other family members to accept and get used to their living arrangements, lifestyle, etc, especially on holidays. But as time has gone on, I have accepted this is how she is going to live and there is nothing I can do about it. But I don't like it.
I have always been polite and cordial because I see no sense in being rude or hostile. And if I were hateful, it would just give conservatives/Christians a bad name IMO, and would add fuel to their fire. That being said....she has announced that she and her partner are having a baby. The partner is pregnant. This has really thrown us for a loop, as we never expected this to happen.
It so happens that I have a small child and am expecting again, so it really makes me think. I am completely against their doing this. But I have no idea how to publicly act or respond to this situation - especially at upcoming family holiday events. I don't feel like happily telling them 'congratulations!' or talking about baby things. I think about how this poor kid is going to feel about his/her parent situation, or how I'm going to explain to my children why this baby 'has two moms' and on and on.
If anyone has a gay family member or has been in a similar situation, I'd love to hear how you handle it. Thank you -
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Due to this thread FreeRepublic’s self-appointed moral police have a lot of new names to add to their List.
Really? lol
Hint...you didn't even get within a century.
And that link...that isn't the Communist Manifesto.
it was a congressional report , yes back in 1963 on the communist manifesto
do you not have a problem with their goals.
For a couple of years you seem to be the only person which has a problem with what I said, why is that?
How often did this kind of familial situation occur in our recent past?
Noticing that the FReeper you referred to has been warned.
Good. The “I don’t care what anyone does in the privacy of their own bedroom” mentality is just wrong. Sooner or later - these social liberals always out themselves.
Agree. Without these traditional values and morality, the economy and national security won’t even matter for long.
Leftists usually fall into one of these categories: 1)indoctrinated/ignorant 2) malcontent/envy/anger, always feels society has wronged and owes them 3)Evil. Desires power and control, knows exactly the destructive nature of the agenda. Relies on groups 1 and 2 to help get the job done, and then....(surprise!for 1 and 2)
Vlad, most excellent response!
Shelterguy’s “advice” is not only bad, it’s hypocritical for the reason you say. Shelterguy actually acts as a booster towards homosexuality by applying rebuke only on one side of the issue.
One should express one’s awful feelings and sense of moral outrage towards such a family member, although that rage part “outrage” must be clamped down and converted to clear measured words spoken to one whose love and regard we expect to keep long term.
We must not give the sense that such immoral behavior is “okay”, that we condone it, or respect it. We respect the sinner not the sin.
Nice response.
had a libertarian tell me the other day we don’t need laws for morals.
MMMMMMMM OK then should we do away with murder, rape, incest etc?
Then I got a reply saying well Govt should not be involved with sex or marriage.
OK lets go by that then.
Govt should not be involved in incest, sex with little kids, etc.
Funny when you ask them do you want fathers marrying their daughters or sex with dogs in public they never reply back.
Yes it all sounds well no Govt laws until you go more in depth with it.
The left also if you do not mind me adding like to put a positive word on their agenda, example.
Amnesty is the dream act.
Homosexuals are gay.
they have sites called American values.
Groups which say they are for gun owners are really liberals trying their lies again.
It goes on and on with them.
The family is what got us a great country , for instance behind every great man is a great woman, they then pass their genes onto their children and give them those morals.
How tragic. :( I am so sorry. Homosexism is a horrible, horrible and deadly perversion.
You are seriously confused about what a society that will have a future must do to maintain itself.
What in the world ever gave you the idea that free speech exists on private property? Like most leftist-libertarians you obviously have no clue what free speech even means.
Why do you think you should be allowed to be on a conservative forum and push the left's homosexual agenda?
Exactly. Sex has consequences, and sexual perversion has many victims. Why are the animal rights people not outraged at bestiality?? Surely that is a form of animal abuse.
They always use Orwellian names for their groups, for example, “People for the American Way” is anything but American. And for their causes and evil legislation as well. I know full well their intentions are always the opposite of what they openly speak.
The family is the backbone of any free and decent society. The family is the best educator, the best provider, the best inventors, etc.
agree wholeheartedly
What a sleazy, underhanded, condescending statement. Lots of people who know perfectly well what year it is also know that boys dating boys is not a good thing.
Indeed. It’s a sad state of affairs today.
Thanks for telling me about your friend. There is hope for all, including homosexuals.
If you have something to say, say it. If you want to debate me on live or unedited tv, let’s go.
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