I hope so!
Or you can get raw with these strings. Either way, the violin is sweet yet lethal.
Do it!
Posted on 06/17/2011 7:45:25 PM PDT by chasio649
We have moved far past the time when an unmarried woman over 35 was branded an "old maid" or when unmarried men were "swinging bachelors," but after seeing the disaster of the marriage between Huma Abedin and Congressman Anthony Weiner, one does have to wonder if the old adage about men over 40 who have never been married is true. Is it a dating red flag?
There is something to be said for marriage. Being in a marriage, whether it ends or stays together, usually means you have some experience with compromise, the ability to love and be loved, and some familiarity with the concept of sharing. "Never-marrieds" on the other hand? Who knows why they're unmarried?
In asking around, it seems the cutoff age between it being cool and it being a red flag is roughly 35 for men and 40 for women.
Of course, nothing is sure-fire and there are as many extenuating circumstances as there are marriages on Earth. But it's a good rule of thumb, when dating, to recognize that a person who has reached a certain age and never had a relationship last longer than a couple months is probably harboring some issues.
Marriage? Maybe not. Maybe they don't want to get married or just don't play musical chairs all that well. There are reasons they may not have walked down the aisle, though in Weiner's case, it probably WAS a red flag. Still, most men over 40 who have had at least one or two long-term relationships that haven't worked out are still marriage material, but those who haven't even had a girlfriend? It's a problem.
We learn something with every relationship we're in. No one would argue that the older you get, the harder it is to compromise. It is. So if you marry young and you compromise together, you get used to that. Someone who has made it to 40 without having to make those compromises and learn and grow with someone would likely be much more rigid in their thinking.
Women over 30 complain all the time that there are few good guys without baggage who are over 30 out there. And it's likely true. There are some good men who stay single, but coupling off whether by marriage or just a long-term relationship is kind of the "norm." So stepping outside of that does make you a bit of a freak.
That said, it isn't fair to not give a guy a chance because of some arbitrary cutoff. There is always the exception to every "rule," right?
Do you think a man or woman over 40 who has never been married is a freak?
I think somebody has issues.
Guilty. What I want I can’t get. What I can get I don’t want. Stalemate.
The desire and ability to maintain a marriage is subjective to so many factors you can't possibly set a reasonable standard for it's conditions outside of "man + woman + commitment before God = marriage".
The age thing isn't even something I would consider debatable. If I was a young man, there's probably a very small pool of young conservative American women to choose from. Probably best to wait until you find the right one. 40 years might not be enough for some people.
Not that I married a “naturally born” American woman. I married a Colombian import American who’s extremely politically conservative. Faith and values go along way towards a wonderful relationship, and I truly love hearing her scream at O’Reilly in Spanish to shut up and let his guests talk...
My personal hero is a college classmate of my mother’s who married for the first time at the young age of 69. She met a widower at her 50 year high school reunion that she didn’t know in school since they had no classes together. She retired (planned to work into her 70’s), married him and they are very happy together.
Married at 17 and still going strong 25 years later
Your tagline rocks.
Your brother and his wife could adopt. We had two of our own and adopted two more.
Thanks!! I got it from you tube. I forget his name but he makes great Conservative videos.
This one was about Islamophobia. I should have put his name after it.
News flash: You can NEVER afford a family. No one can. No matter how much $ you make. But it’s worth being broke.
“If You’re Not Married by 40, You’re a Freak”
Whatever. Perhaps I just don’t like lowering my standards. I’ve worked hard and done everything I know to do that’s right. Pardon me if I don’t like the thought of raising someone else’s child (I do that enough at work) or that I don’t think that staggering around drunk is fun, or that I don’t find tattoos and a face full of fishing tackle attractive. Mayhaps the fact that I read and find others who don’t ignorant and dull has something to do with it, also. In short, being my wife would not be a job for just anybody. If that makes me a freak, so be it.
Another freak here. Early 40’s, never married, no kids. Almost got engaged when I was 29, but got out right before he started getting physically violent. Everybody thought I was crazy for breaking up with him. Otherwise, I know lots of people who didn’t get married until after 40. I have several platonic male friends who will never be more than that for a variety of reasons. Still hoping to get married someday, if I find the right guy. Need to get to a 2nd date first;-)
Diagnosed with bi-polar disorder, has to take lithium in order to live outside of a mental institute. That’s crazy.
Believe me, your wife is not crazy.
Oh my, an Islanders fan. Of all the franchises that were once great, yours is the one I see and wonder ‘what the heck did they do that team?’ A former Bruin takes some credit for running them into the ground (Milbury) with some of his bizarre trades and deals.
Thanks for the congrats, it feels really good. I couldn’t get up to Boston for the parade, but have a caught a bit of it on TV and will watch it later after I get some yard work done.
Why, yes. Yes, I am a freak. And I’m available, ladies.
I hope so!
Or you can get raw with these strings. Either way, the violin is sweet yet lethal.
Do it!
No, but married women with hyphenated last names usually are.
The quote comes from Andrew Klavan of PJTV. It is an awesome quote.
Thank you! Now that I know his name I can bookmark it!
Thank you! Now that I know his name I can bookmark it!
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