Will do.
Ping.
I don’t know if you know anything about NY child custody law.
At this point, I think your daughter’s only hope is to get the very best (and likewise expensive) attorney possible.
The attorney may be able to get an emergency order based on the abuse. I hope she took pictures of the bruises and has a witness to what her daughter’s told her.
LEGAL help needed.
Most States have ‘something’ which does not require $$$.
Prayers sent. I hope to G-d your daughter’s situation improves. Especially for those kids sake.
Take photos. Take kids to local Social Sevices to give statement. Take statements, photos, and Social Services report to local judge for temporary custody order. Don’t forget to get a lawyer.
What IS it with men and skanks!!?? Why can’t they just say “Eeww! A SKANK! Better not touch it- you don’t know WHERE it’s been!” Oy vay....
BUMP and prayer for mom, daughter, children.
Will pray for your family.
O G-D, the Creator and Preserver of all mankind, we humbly beseech thee to protect the innocent, awaken the guilty; and forasmuch as thou alone bringest light out of darkness, and good out of evil, grant to these thy servants, that by the power of thy Holy Spirit they may be set free from the chains of sin, and may be brought to newness of life. Amen.
I can’t give you legal advice, but, I’ll certainly pray for the well being of your daughter, your grandchildren, your family, and for a good resolution to the whole sad situation.
May God bless and guide, and keep you all - especially those precious little ones - safe within His providential care.
Tell your daughter to go slow with legal stuff and let nature take its course. The dad sounds unstable and their may be alcohol or other drug abuse happening and the kids are just pawns.
Unfortunately, the more your daughter is angered over their treatment the more control her husband has over her.
The one thing your daughter did that often pisses off the courts is to move so far away. Bad move. It is presumed that kids need access to both parents.
Just go slow and let her husband show his hand by his actions and not by his words.
Prayers for your daughter and her children.
hang in there mom...prayers up.
She needs to call the cops and file a report IMMEDIATELY at any sign of abuse. The judges don’t give a crap about pictures or stories- they only care about convictions of child abuse. I am sorry for the situation she is in- I am only cynical, because I went through a nasty divorce with courts who didn’t care about an abusive ex with a skank girlfriend (now wife).
First of all, don’t get over-anxious. Scumbags like your former son-in-law usually aren’t very smart, are lazy, and don’t make plans. This eventually all comes out in the end. If he has really hit the kids, that is a huge mistake on his part, and you should use it.
Get a good lawyer - interview a few first to see how they would handle the case. Take the kids to a doctor to get their wounds seen by a 3rd party ASAP. Voice concerns over abuse to the doctor. Esp. in NY, he/she will have to register them.
When you say the courts “look the other way” - is that really the case? Or do they have no proof of what your daughter claims? Or is it just that you aren’t happy they aren’t giving you the answer you want?
Your daughter is in a battle now - and it will be longer and more expensive than you expect, but she can win. Deal in facts, don’t get emotional, document everything, don’t take NO for an answer.
Your state bar association should have references for attorneys to handle her case well.
Happy to pray for her, and the kids especially.
I’d take the bruised child to a doctor each time any allegation or evidence of abuse appears. Keep that professional record.
A judge on your side is worth more than a thousand lawyers.
A bit of advice. You and your daughter are in a situation in which you absolutely must keep your wits about you. Any action which enables them to cry 'foul' in court will work against you. Find out the laws involved, what evidence is needed, how to date that evidence in a way which cannot be debated. Remain as calm as possible and build the case. Remember that you have to keep cool, because the welfare of the girls is at stake.
May God Bless you all, especially the children, who are caught in the middle somewhere.
Without legal help, your daughter’s cause is toast. I recommend communicating through the courts and attorneys, exclusively.