Prayer on it's way. Kind of know how that feels.
Posted on 05/28/2010 5:23:34 AM PDT by Diana in Wisconsin
Well, addiction has reared its ugly head again in our household. Had to kick Husband out this week. It appears that he has been 'doctor shopping' for prescriptions, and has gotten involved with some other relapsing druggies.
*SIGH*
It's been ten years since he got SOBER, but since he's on prescription drugs for back pain, he never really did get 'clean.' I gave it all I could. The kids are grown, I'm requesting my freedom from this madness. I matter little to him; I'm sure you know where his priorities lie.
I won't bore you with the details; this happens every day. My priorities have now shifted greatly; I'm in survival mode and I could really use some prayers...prayers that I stay strong. Prayers that I stay focused. Prayers that I will eventually see some light on the other side of this mess.
Thanks in advance.
We’ll pray for you and your transition. One day at a time, and keep focused. What’s worthy in life isn’t always easy, but it’s worth the effort.
Jim
its clear that addiction doesn’t hurt just the addict.
God bless you.
Again, so sorry to see this. I really hope you build a much happier new life free of the pain that's been inflicted on you.
I don’t think I have ever posted to you before but have read a lot of yours. My prayers are with you, you really will be happy and content when this is all over, I was married for 44 yrs to an alcoholic and raised 5 kids as the only one working, I never had the courage to kick him out and stick with it, he died two yrs ago and after I got over feeling guilty about being happy he was gone life has been wonderful. Hang in there and don’t let yourself feel sorry for him or make excuses for his addiction, it is not your fault. I know this is too long, but I do hope you find peace and happiness.
Really, hanging around this crap long enough to raise children and see them grow and build lives of their own? Time served...you’re free to go.
You have my prayers and best wishes for God to guide you into a successful future.
Prayer on it's way. Kind of know how that feels.
I know from your posts that I’ve read here and there that you are a smart, tough cookie. Keep your head up, make sure you have some moral support and stay strong. Sorry for your problems. I wish you the best in this challenging time.
I'm requesting my freedom from this madness. I matter little to him; I'm sure you know where his priorities lie.Please don't do that.
Here's some 'good news'. The detox time for prescription 'opiates' is only 3 Days (becasue they ain't pure opiates, they're synthetic). And its nothing like 'hard', real, opiates like Heroin. There is no violent illness, vomiting or uncontrollable bowel movements. You feel 'icky' on day one, crappy on the 2nd day, like a mild flu, on day three you're almost 100% back. On day four its over, your clean. And there is no 'monkey', like with 'H'. Once you're clean that's it. No cravings.
The trick is to make him stop taking the pills. But if he is in pain, that's the tough objective. If you are are in perpetual pain, you'll do 'almost' anything to make it stop. (I once 'joked' about taking my Sawsall to me leg and cutting it off). (pretty bad joke)
And fwiw, addiction to barbiturates is much harder, and longer to kick. Those pills are little devils. So be thankfull he isn't taking those.
So keep the faith. And don't you give up. He needs you, really..
May the Peace of The Lord encompass you and give you rest and renewal.
It's time for you now, you gave it your all. Go with God he will point you in the right direction.
God Bless.
I hate painkillers, I know they are necessary but I have seen too many people - young and old - get addicted to them. When they get addicted they go into a self-justifing zombie mode that rejects all reason.
Thanks for the reminder, but I’m a street fighter. All bases will be covered. In some ways I’m certain he thinks he can just waltz away from this.
It ain’t gonna necessarily be so!
Wow. *SNIF* Thanks! :)
I’ve always loved your contributions here. Hope all goes well. Hugs and prayers for now.
Thank you for sharing that and for your insight. My SIL just divorced my husband’s brother for these very same reasons.
She called me last night to tell me that she, too, had to get over the guilt she felt for leaving him (after nearly 30 years) and the happiness she feels now that she’s out of that situation seems endless.
God Bless You! Thanks again for your kind words. :)
In my experience it starts with ignorance of the problem and as we realize there is a problem that we don’t really define, we try to fix it, sometimes consciously. Then the denial sets in but it is often replaced with real hope even when you see reality and you seesaw back and forth until the anger and despair creep in and finally, you’re done.
BTDT, happy ending. When you are living it you can’t see what is ahead you only feel the misery but trust in God, learn from your own mistakes, the sun will shine again.
Thanks, Warden! It WAS a self-imposed sentence for sure, LOL! Gotta make sure that doesn’t happen again.
Praying that God’s will be done in both you and your spouse’s lives. - OB1
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