Posted on 05/28/2010 5:23:34 AM PDT by Diana in Wisconsin
Well, addiction has reared its ugly head again in our household. Had to kick Husband out this week. It appears that he has been 'doctor shopping' for prescriptions, and has gotten involved with some other relapsing druggies.
*SIGH*
It's been ten years since he got SOBER, but since he's on prescription drugs for back pain, he never really did get 'clean.' I gave it all I could. The kids are grown, I'm requesting my freedom from this madness. I matter little to him; I'm sure you know where his priorities lie.
I won't bore you with the details; this happens every day. My priorities have now shifted greatly; I'm in survival mode and I could really use some prayers...prayers that I stay strong. Prayers that I stay focused. Prayers that I will eventually see some light on the other side of this mess.
Thanks in advance.
Freedom and accomplishment
What are you resisting? What are you fighting or avoiding?
Would it be so bad to simply let it unfold? Would it be so bad to go ahead and deal with it?
Think of how good it will feel to stop fighting, to stop hiding, to stop avoiding. Imagine how great you'll feel when you deal with it and get it behind you.
Procrastinating, fighting and avoiding will only make it more difficult. The way out is to get it done.
Instead of feeling constantly drained, you can be positively energized. Instead of wasting your effort on running away, you can enjoy the satisfaction of getting it resolved.
Get it done. And enjoy the glorious feeling of freedom and accomplishment.
~ Ralph Marston
http://greatday.com/motivate/100527.html#ixzz0pE5XpMRT
Please take care.
I’m sorry you’re going through this. I went through a somewhat similar situation a couple years ago after 25 years of marriage. It was painful, but I have grown and am now happier than I ever was before. Best of luck to you AND your husband. May he find relief from his addictions and may you find peace.
Sometimes prayers are answered in ways we don’t expect. Put your trust in God and pray, pray, pray.
My prayers are with you.
Al-Anon is the support group for families of addicts.
It is a great organization, even for those trying to move on.
I pray you get through this too. Divorce is a hard road.
Thank you! My best friend runs the psych ward at our local VA Hospital. I have plenty of resources to draw upon; it does help. :)
And the friends coming out of the woodwork to take me aside and say, “FINALLY, GIRL!” have been amazing.
Freepers will hold me up, too. :)
I pray your transistion will be smooth, that you shall be well, relieved and happy.
I’m very sorry to hear this. I have great admiration for you and always enjoy your postings. You will be in my prayers, and I hope that God allows a new and better chapter to open in your life.
I hear that. We just had our 15th Wedding Anniversay; been together 18 years. No acknowledgement from him at all. His problems started in earnest about 5 years into our marriage when he had his first surgery.
We split up once before, and I thought we had gotten past this, but I guess not.
I have my own thinking to do, too. Why I let this go on right under my nose for so long is my own issue to deal with.
Thank you for the reassurance, it’s hard to know what’s available in many rural areas. Now.... have you made an appointment with a TOP NOTCH divorce attorney? SERIOUSLY. You do not need to actually take action in court, but you definitely need a superb lawyer to advise you, and if necessary professionally represent all your interests. This is crucial for you and the kids.
I’m betting He will. He has NEVER let me down in a crisis situation before.
There are angels all around me these days. :)
Yep. Got a good reference yesterday from a respected local lady lawyer for another local lady divorce lawyer.
I’m hoping to get together as early as next Thursday with her to get the ball rolling.
No little kids at home anymore. ;)
Prayers for you, Diana
Oh no. So sorry to hear that, Diana.
Prayers up for you. Stay strong. It will turn out for the best.
FRegards
Basically, please be sure to do EVERYTHING that you, yourself, would instruct a severely battered woman to do --- NOT that you are battered, but rather, if you procede VERY seriously in this manner, you will leave no bases uncovered, okay??
It's exceptionally easy to be "slipshod" about one's own interests at junctures like this, and it can be very very very self-destructive, particularly in years to come.
Prayers for both of you.
Prayers up.
I’ve never had to deal with addiction in my family, so have no real clue what you are going through. Hope you get whatever help and support you need locally.
May God give you the strength to face each day as it comes and may He open your heart to someone worthy of you.
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