Posted on 08/13/2009 9:40:05 AM PDT by nickcarraway
I’m a nice looking guy and when I was single, I could not buy a date. At one point I was tempted to pay for an escort to go to a function but decided against it.
I worked a lot and spent a lot of time shooting and golfing on weekends so I managed to stay busy.
After I got engaged, I had to call the cops on one woman who was stalking me at my fiance’s house (a friend of a friend that all but ignored me before that) and another kept tabs on me by popping into work or going to my favorite deli at lunch (which just so happens to be about 45 minutes from her job) and one I worked with wrote me a long letter about her feelings of displeasure towards my wife right after she quit.
If you can figure this out, let me know because I have two little girls now and i don’t want to see them do this.
Ok, as a single woman, I’ll explain this:
First, says my very Catholic mother, a man is not taken until the wedding ring is on his finger, and I agree with that. Once a man is married, he’s totally off limits, but if a man is just in a relationship with someone, and I’m interested in him, that relationship is not a deterrent to getting to know him (meaning: NOTHING physical, no hugging, no kissing, just talking to someone), because there is no indicia of permanence. It’s just a relationship, and relationships break up - often because people find someone else whom they think is better suited to them. So I’d talk to the guy, get to know him, etc. and then he gets to make his own decision - stay in the relationship he’s in because it’s working out or not.
Second, it’s an indication that a man is not a total horndog. He’s not yet really taken, but he’s interested in something stable and perhaps lasting. And that’s attractive to nearly all women and, from what I can tell from my skewed NYC perspective, not very attractive to a whole lot of men.
The study was all done on single people - the men were NOT married.
I look at it more as why it’s easier to get hired when you already have a job, than when you are out of a job.
Yes, but the behavior is the same, at least in my experience. Others may differ.
But what are you “ruining” when you pursue a single man? Like I said, relationship isn’t marriage. One’s considered permanent, the other is temporary.
I hate tats. Besides, a tat is permanent, marriage isn't.
How did you stay with a socialist for 5 years? I can’t imagine what that would have been like.
“How did you stay with a socialist for 5 years? I can’t imagine what that would have been like.”
I’d guess it was pretty taxing.
Women generally have a hard time thinking for themselves, in as far as choosing a man.
You might consider wearing a wedding ring on a necklace and putting it on your finger during certain social occasions.
Alternately, you could just put the wedding ring on your key chain so that you always have it with you.
Does your wife know you feel this way?
The really bad part is I had to allow space on my bookshelf for noam chomsky books. I got to hear how wonderful fdr was and the constant term “social safety net” policies quite often. She is a big believer in the 2nd Amdendment, though. I just could never get her to buy in on the other truth.
Not Lorena Bobbitt.
I just refused to go out with a guy who quoted Noam Chomsky to me on the phone. I guess I saved myself the trouble you went through. :-)
What kind of douchebag would quote noam chumsky over the phone?
I was the same way
My wife and I have titanium wedding rings. They are so light I hardly know it is on my finger. I just hope I never have a problem with my finger I would never be able to cut it off. Haha
....constant term “social safety net” policies ...
Which have now evolved into permanent entitlement hammocks policies...
Damn you! Damn you to hell!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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