You may get flamed for your post, but not from me.
I agree. And for another reason.
You will always come in second to her child. Always.
And when that child resents you for coming inbetween you and her mother; when that child openly rebels against you because her mother is now sharing her love....
You will be sorry.
I’m sure there are other good reasons why you should not date a single mother, but what about single dads.
Should a woman date a single dad???
I figured I would, but my purpose of my post was to help a freeper see a mistake and not make it again, not start a flame war so I'm not going to respond to any flames. However, if you look at those responses and what's in them and more importantly what's not in them they are actually making my case.
Another piece of advice that will likely get me flamed, is
Rule #3 - A Church is the worst place to meet a woman.
Again, not my intent to start a flame war just I've moved around a lot, and in my experience in every town/neighborhood I lived in there's been 1 constant and that is there is always a church where single people congregate and the doings & shenanigans that take place at that church would make any veteran Hollywood soap opera writer blush. So I would be very cautious with any woman I met in a church.
And when that child resents you for coming inbetween you and her mother; when that child openly rebels against you because her mother is now sharing her love....I’m sure there are other good reasons why you should not date a single mother,
True, and you always have to worry about false abuse allegations and in Washington and maybe other states if the child comes to see you as a father figure you could end up still be financially responsible for the kid(s) if you break it off with the mother.
but what about single dads. Should a woman date a single dad???
I'm not a women or a single dad so I don't know, I would think it's different though, yeah, yeah double standard and all but that's life.
I got flamed before b/c I think the same but from the other end of things. If I were to become a single mother I would never, ever date until my kids were grown. For the emotional reasons (it is too difficult on the kids no matter how great the guy is) and for the predator reasons. Ever notice how many little kids are beaten or killed by “mom’s boyfriend”?
Not worth the risk.
If I was able to do it all over again?
No.
Exactly why I, as a divorced mom of twins, decided to not date or remarry until my girls were grown and on their own. I didn’t want that whole “blended” family scene. I didn’t want to have to choose everyday between a new spouse and my girls in every situation. I also didn’t want anyone interfering in how I raised them. I think my girls turned out the better for it.