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What happens when the woman of your dreams is a nightmare?
Apr 23, 2008 | By Lazamataz

Posted on 04/23/2008 9:56:59 AM PDT by Lazamataz

I've been trying to cope with life as it is today. It's different than it was, that's for sure.

About July of 2006, I met the woman of my dreams. Intelligent, very pretty, highly sexually-charged, professional, able to understand my offbeat humor, seemingly very compatible with me in every way. Soon after starting to date, we began to plan to marry. Our target date was June of 2007.

Some things began to bother me, however. She seemed to make major changes, quickly. She converted in levels of religious fervor, and seemed to change in core directions, too quickly. I began to see various, if small, lies.

Too, I had my problems. I was beginning to become judgemental about her. I wasn't accepting who she was, but who I wanted her to be. She was judgemental and controlling in return.

I noticed she had a huge low self-esteem, and I also have been cursed with that -- although I am working on myself, diligently. She admitted to me that she had bulimia, but then lied about individual episiodes. There were times she smelled like vomit, but swore she hadn't acted out.

Well, around about October of last year, she hooked up with the father of her child, a 5x convicted felon and currently-active crackhead.

She called me last week because she needed groceries. Apparently, she started using crack with him, picking up this habit at the age of 42. She lost her job. Her car's about to be repossessed. She has no electricity. She's fallen apart. Her skin tone, normally beautiful, is ashen. She looks about 10 years older than she did. Her hair was a mess. She had bruises all over her. She's gained 20-30 lbs, and has a big belly now, and fat legs. She wasn't attractive any more. She just wasn't.

Her house is trashed. There is damage to many of the interior door jams, like someone busted in. There is trash on the floor everywhere. There doesn't appear to be a clean dish in the house. The hallways had empty crack bags in them. The clothes they wore looked unwashed.

Ray had a big bite mark on his arm where she bit to the muscle. She's become an animal -- an animal who bites. She was spiritually vacant. Her eyes had no soul.

She's absolutely not for me. She hates herself. She's incapable of love. She doesn't even give a *** about her daughter. That's the toughest part to see. She says her daughter is a typical rebellious teenager. MAYBE it has a LITTLE to do with the fact that the house is falling into a pit of horror, and her Mom is high on crack, drunk out of her mind, fighting and biting her husband until he bleeds.

She's dangerously insane. I will never consider being with her for a minute. I cannot believe I almost married this nutcase. I need better discernment.


TOPICS: Cheese, Moose, Sister; Weird Stuff
KEYWORDS: addiction; alurvanitesrblong2us; crack; dearabby; drugs; icanhazavanity; lazdrama; libertarians; societyistoblame
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To: Lazamataz
Especially wish me luck with the upcoming triple-murder trial.

I know you're goofing around, but there ain't nothing in the world that's worth your soul---'tang least of all.

Check out what this psycho up here in MA just did:

Relative: Slain mom was leaving hubby

221 posted on 04/24/2008 7:42:33 AM PDT by Hemingway's Ghost (Spirit of '75)
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To: Lazamataz
I have about 3 more months to go.

For your sake I hope that 3 months doesn't feel like an eternity in passing.

I'm still waiting for the wishes for hot, really obscene, sweaty sex!!!

Hey, wishes don't cost 'nuthin'. I wish you all the luck. Be careful lotsa stuff floatin around today.

I feel in love with this song the first time I heard it. Once I saw the video, it cracked me up.

With your sense of humor you'll appreciate the ending of this video. Somewhat torrid sex scene in the swimming pool. Enjoy.

You Shouldn't Kiss Me Like This

222 posted on 04/24/2008 7:47:25 AM PDT by processing please hold ( "It is dangerous to be right when the government is wrong.")
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To: Lazamataz

Well, I can empathise with that one. Seriously.

And another, equally serious statement: Read The Problem of Pain, by C. S. Lewis. I am not as sanguine about recommending his stuff to women as I am to men, but you being a man, I think you would get a lot - I mean A LOT - out of it.

I do not need to insult your intelligence with statements like “read Job”, etc., and I may be pushing it even recommending this book, but you need more than empathy and I am trying to offer it.


223 posted on 04/24/2008 7:50:38 AM PDT by RobRoy (This is comical)
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To: Lazamataz

Well, it sure reflected how I felt when it happened to me.


224 posted on 04/24/2008 7:51:28 AM PDT by RobRoy (This is comical)
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To: Hemingway's Ghost
I know you're goofing around, but there ain't nothing in the world that's worth your soul---'tang least of all.

Ya mon.

TANG is readily available.

TANG ain't worth killing over.

Now, HONOR.... RESPECT.....CONTROL..... *THESE* are worth killing over, but not tang.

Jees, you know, with every one of these off-beat messages, it makes it more impossible for me to EVER act out. I mean picture it: "... and he wrote many bizarre messages on a Conservative web forum named 'free republic'... " I mean, how embarassing, right? lol

I just need to get a new tumble and forget about that crazy crackhead. Then I can get ready to give the REAL me to someone who's REAL.

225 posted on 04/24/2008 7:52:14 AM PDT by Lazamataz (Secondhand Aztlan Smoke causes drug addiction obesity in global warming cancer immigrant terrorists.)
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To: Lazamataz

I’m not a particularly religious person, but I think I would kneel down and give thanks to whomever was watching out for me.


226 posted on 04/24/2008 7:52:43 AM PDT by listenhillary (There's more people in the wagon, than there is pushin')
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To: RobRoy

Tell ya what? Let’s not do the Economic Gloom and Doom for a few days. I’m gettin’ past the relationship Gloom and Doom for now. :)


227 posted on 04/24/2008 7:54:14 AM PDT by Lazamataz (Secondhand Aztlan Smoke causes drug addiction obesity in global warming cancer immigrant terrorists.)
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To: Hemingway's Ghost

Excuse me. I think you meant to post your liberal pro-drug response over here....... http://www.democraticunderground.com/


228 posted on 04/24/2008 7:55:12 AM PDT by Responsibility2nd (Typical White Person)
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To: listenhillary

Yeah. God definitely spared me. Life with her would have been a f***ing nightmare.

No, probably not drugs, because I am SOOO dead set against them, but.... nightmarish nonetheless. She would have acted out in bulimia, in lying, in cheating on me, to the point that I would have left her.

In the short 18 months we were together, I suspect her of cheating on me twice. And I have a decent sized unit and know how to use it. It’s not me. It’s her.


229 posted on 04/24/2008 7:58:10 AM PDT by Lazamataz (Secondhand Aztlan Smoke causes drug addiction obesity in global warming cancer immigrant terrorists.)
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To: Lazamataz

OK.

I just put my hair out...

http://blog.lowesoftware.com/wp-content/uploads/2007/12/ist2_2190957_hair_on_fire.jpg


230 posted on 04/24/2008 7:58:28 AM PDT by RobRoy (This is comical)
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To: Responsibility2nd
Excuse me. I think you meant to post your liberal pro-drug response over here....... http://www.democraticunderground.com/

Holy smokes . . . a predictable, totally uncreative and unoriginal newbie response! Who woulda thunk it?

231 posted on 04/24/2008 7:58:31 AM PDT by Hemingway's Ghost (Spirit of '75)
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To: Lazamataz

Gee, Laz, all these years I never knew. Is it also true that you are the illegitimate son of Buffalo Bill? ;)


232 posted on 04/24/2008 7:59:35 AM PDT by mywholebodyisaweapon
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To: mywholebodyisaweapon
Gee, Laz, all these years I never knew. Is it also true that you are the illegitimate son of Buffalo Bill? ;)

In fact, I am.

Dad's teaching me how to skin, tan, and sew leather.

233 posted on 04/24/2008 8:04:07 AM PDT by Lazamataz (Secondhand Aztlan Smoke causes drug addiction obesity in global warming cancer immigrant terrorists.)
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To: Hemingway's Ghost

Holy smokes . . . a predictable, totally uncreative and unoriginal newbie response! Who woulda thunk it?

_______________________________

That’s what I thought when you first attacked my post as being “hyperbole”. Typical liberal reaction. No substance. No rational dissection of my points.

You want to engage me? Go back to my original point on how I hate drugs. And how the WOD is worth it.

If you like drugs, then explain why. If you think we should quit the WOD, then explain why.

Just don’t throw down an insult like a liberal and think you can get away with it.


234 posted on 04/24/2008 8:09:17 AM PDT by Responsibility2nd (Typical White Person)
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To: Lazamataz
I just need to get a new tumble and forget about that crazy crackhead. Then I can get ready to give the REAL me to someone who's REAL.

Here's hoping you get a "Rub & a Tug" soon Brother!

8^)

235 posted on 04/24/2008 8:12:25 AM PDT by The SISU kid (I feel really homesick all the time & so do all the other aliens.....)
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To: The SISU kid

Whatchya doin’ Tuesday?


236 posted on 04/24/2008 8:15:44 AM PDT by Lazamataz (Secondhand Aztlan Smoke causes drug addiction obesity in global warming cancer immigrant terrorists.)
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To: Responsibility2nd
You want to engage me? Go back to my original point on how I hate drugs. And how the WOD is worth it. If you like drugs, then explain why. If you think we should quit the WOD, then explain why.

See any one of the thousands of WOD threads on Free Republic since its inception.

Just don’t throw down an insult like a liberal and think you can get away with it.

Way to "hit back" with such strong material, tough guy. If what I posted insulted you so deeply, I suggest you put some ice on it.

237 posted on 04/24/2008 8:16:58 AM PDT by Hemingway's Ghost (Spirit of '75)
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To: Lazamataz
Jees, you know, with every one of these off-beat messages, it makes it more impossible for me to EVER act out. I mean picture it: "... and he wrote many bizarre messages on a Conservative web forum named 'free republic'... " I mean, how embarassing, right? lol

Heh!

I just need to get a new tumble and forget about that crazy crackhead.

PRECISELY. Just like alcohol, tang is often the cause of, and the solution to, all of life's problems.

238 posted on 04/24/2008 8:21:17 AM PDT by Hemingway's Ghost (Spirit of '75)
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To: Hemingway's Ghost; Responsibility2nd

Llllllllllets get ready to rummmmmble! Remember, the Marquess of Queensberry rules apply at all times. ;)


239 posted on 04/24/2008 8:34:13 AM PDT by processing please hold ( "It is dangerous to be right when the government is wrong.")
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To: Lazamataz

240 posted on 04/24/2008 8:56:00 AM PDT by The SISU kid (I feel really homesick all the time & so do all the other aliens.....)
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