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Posted on 04/13/2007 5:53:23 PM PDT by DollyCali
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Yes, that's the problem we all face. Feelings don't just happen because two people "look like a good match on paper." I haven't met anyone in years who really interested me.
Bill
Sorry you're dealing with this. It seems to happen quite a bit....but I think it's because "new" relationships are an unknown...and they gravitate back to the old "familiar" because it doesn't require the time to get to know each other.. and they think they can fix it.
If someone tells me they are fresh out of a relationship, I lay low for quite awhile to see if they are predisposed to this behavior. (*hint* most of the time they aren't...especially if they are the ones that got dumped)
IIRC, a shot in the beer is the reference to a regular Boilermaker.
Lunch Box is a specific kind of boilermaker.
Oh, no you don’t dump them.
Drop and go.
The thing is that you don’t want to let it sit for more than a couple of minutes, lest the Baileys in the drink starts to curdle—and then it doesn’t taste as good.
Yeah, a man who could make and appreciate a good (vodka, please!) martini would likely get my attention, initially, anyway. ;)
Guess you know it would take more than that to maintain my interest, though...
GOP, are you really that far out in the middle of nowhere?! ...or are you just kidding?
[don’t tease me now, I am very gullible...and even I have a hard time making that boxed macaroni stuff taste good ;) ]
I'm not that far out in the middle of nowhere, but I do live in a fairly rural area of SW Idaho. Even though Boise itself is a city that is growing rapidly, there's still a LOT of farmland and rural parts of the Boise area.
But if you would tell that little story I just rattled off to anyone from Washington or Oregon that wants to move here, that would be great. ;)
You poor soul...I had a bad week, but I think yours was worse...wish I knew what to say to help you feel better.
Try a martini? :)
I did have a “new” twist with my preferred vodka martini this evening. A gentleman suggested I try the green olives stuffed with blue cheese...they proved to be very yummy!
Nancy
I'll bet the storms weaken considerably before they hit in your area... but keep your eyes open, you never know. I'm taking a break from the books tonite. I have 4 weeks until graduation (nursing school again) and am looking forward to having a life again. Actually... I think I could SLEEP for a few months, instead. :)
Hi Phil,
I live in the northeast corner of FL...does that qualify as southeast? :)
are you working on a specialty in nursing or advanced degree?
I liked school & studying as an adult.. as a teen & college not as much. I really didn’t know how to study & didn’t understand the dynamics of education(like the lib agenda) as I do know.
I am so impressed with the college age people at FR. They are so intelligent, full of common sense & focused so much more than I was. I know for me a big part was/is the ADDH... but in college I majored in the minors & minored (if I even learned) the majors.
That’s so very nice of you to say...in the short-term, it’s just very hard to see beyond the short-term...
night ladies & everyone else.
I did get my emails exchanged & plans are set for tomorrow.
I will now seek some sleep..
Gotcha! ;)
‘Nite Dolly and sweet dreams.
I know tomorrow will be a difficult day for you—another friend lost.
I think as you get older... you really appreciate education more and understanding how to study makes the academics a bit easier. I hated the intensity of this particular program because I think it's counter-productive. We had several drop out because of it.
The people on FR are indeed educated....whether they have a degree or not. It's one of the few places I know I can come for intelligent conversation and never leave disappointed! :)
I’ve been disappointed a time or two.. but looking back, I realized I was trying to make something work....that just wasn’t in my best interest. Fate sometimes has a way of protecting us from an even greater heartache in the long-run. You deserve better. :)
Bill you said an awful lot in that post that rings true...likely more for men than women.
I think it is usually men who hear the “let’s be friends” response, so you know better than I how that feels...
On the other hand, women want to say something that they think will minimize the upset for the guy.
Seems that more openness, all the way around, would serve everyone better.
Of course, the chemistry thing can’t be forced. It is there or it isn’t. When it isn’t, no amount of wishing it were so will make it happen. I remember, a long time ago, hanging in there for a year waiting for a particular guy to notice me... thinking that eventually familiarity would breed interest. It didn’t. One more lesson learned. :)
You, and stout, and anyone else who wants to chime in, can tell me what to do.
I had a date last Saturday night. He was a very nice guy; I really did enjoy myself. He asked if he could call me again and I said, “Yes.” Really, at that point, I was unsure whether or not I wanted to see him again. I wasn’t prepared to say, “No, I’m just not interested in pursuing this.”
Next day he called and wanted to get together. I had legitimate reasons not to and, to buy time, I told him I was going out of town (true, at that point...little did I know) He insisted that I agree to call him when I returned. I said I would. Now, he’ll be expecting a call and I really don’t want to call him.
When I’m hesitant like this something isn’t clicking...even tho’ I can’t quite put my finger on it.
What should I say/do? Right now, I am inclined to lie—I hate to admit that but it will make it easier for me if I just make up something...
Lainey,
That’s a very healthy way to look at things. What is good and likely good for you will happen, just naturally.
I meant to ping you to post #116 if you want to comment...
Just saw the time...forget discussion...lol...time for bed!
I’ll check back tomorrow if you have something you want to offer...I do appreciate hearing a man’s perspective on this guy/girl relationship stuff...it’s the kind of truth we share more readily with those we’ve gotten to know a bit and grown to trust.
Being upfront doesn’t hurt.
Yeah, it’s a shock and a sting initially. But it’s better than silently backstabbing somebody.
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