The Official Weekend Singles Thread—July 28-30

OhioWfan, Kate of Spice Island, Maximus Ridiculousness

[snugs]

Museum Curators are very analytical though labeling everything and knowing exactly where it is :0)

[proud_yank]

LOL, I know where my stuff is. In my apartment, in a pile somewhere!!

[darkangel82]

It could be worse! Hillary could be president!

Heaven forbid.

[snugs]

I came from a very conservative church background and whilst it was not said in as many words the thought of pursuing a partner would not have been acceptable.

On the other hand I was enjoying myself with various church activities and getting stuck into my job and pursuring my soccer interests (watching) to think about dating when I was in my 20s.

Probably if I had thought more about it and got involved with different church activities where there were more people of my age - maybe some volunteer work away from home I would be married now but I did not and in many ways I do not regret it because it has enabled me to be there for looking after my parents. In some ways I feel as an only child maybe this was God's plan for me.

Yes life might have been different but I have done many things that if I had been married with children in my 20s and 30s I would not have, (visited the US and Egypt among others).

I suppose I am very much a make the best of things you have and do not dwell on what might have been. Often then I find the what might have been would probably not have been either right or I would probably have found in the long run not that great.

I feel accept what for you have got is important, try to achieve more if you feel something is missing but bottom line to me acceptance is that God knows about it and has not abandoned me even if maybe I have him at times.

God is still in control even if I cannot see it always and that is why I suppose I feel overall contentment when others look at my situation and think that it is bad I can always see good things and enjoy and appreciate what I have got.

Like today the weather was warm but not too hot, had a successful grocery shop, got some lovely raspberries, made some pancakes with them and had a nice pleasant meal. Spent the rest of the evening watching, TV, talking to dad and doing various bits on the computer. Overall not an exciting but a pleasant day.

Had a long chat with Phil this morning about his new job and arranged to go out for meal to celebrate it also for him to come round for meal on Tuesday.

Acceptance on where you are gives one IMHO an inner peace and hope that the future will hold things that at present we cannot even dream of.

[snugs]

That sounds like me

[snugs]

Well I am off to be now the birds are twitting and dawn is here.

Night all

[proud_yank]

Good night! Can't believe you're up so late.

I'm heading home now too.

[Kate of Spice Island]

Bill, Hey!

I just got a chance to sit down and read. It sounds like you are about as uptight as I am/was about religion/church and so forth.

The truth is, you have to feel comfortable in your own skin and not worry about things so much.

I am wondering if you have a decent confidant that you share on a regular basis with.

One of the biggest mistakes that many people make is to hope to find "the one" to pour out all of their thoughts and energies to. Until then, you "bottle up" and keep too much to yourself.

Who do you talk to just for fun AND understanding?

Kate

[bannie]

I was'a plannin' on engineerin' me some stuff. Jes t'other day I engineered me outta' some big ol' mess.

[bannie]

I've spent most of my life in surreal worlds.

:-)

It's better that way.

[Rca2000]

I guess me and you are VERY different, after all!!!

(And I though I was the writer....I am, in fact...But it looks like you are a pretty good writer, too!!)

TO begin with, I do NOT "hate" God at all. Unlike you, I rarely have a day go by nowdays, where some "religious" or "moral" topic is not discussed between me and the people I work with. God has been blessing me a lot lately. if you follow this thread, you will know what I am talking about. I do feel that this is,at least in part, a reward for all of the years of "clean living" and my never-ending habit of trying to educate the uneducated that I come cross, on subjects like abortion, stem-cell research, homosexual marriage and "lifestyles", Staying sexually pure, abstaining from drugs and other such moral and ethicial matters. Unlike many I am NOT shy about those "hot button" subjects--UNLESS I am aware that I am in some situation that it would be better to stay silent.

As for the "other part" of my life--yes, I am still single. I may always be that way-or it COULD change anytime. Either way-I will NOT tell others that leading the true, , pure,Christian-based lifestyle is a waste of time. NOTHING could be farther from the truth!! I feel that as a Christian it is my DUTY to try and spread the truth that sexual immorality and such is NOT acceptable to God. Sure, some churches may be "relaxing their standards" nowdays, and becoming "tolerant and inclusive", as far as the ways of sin are cocerned. However, the bible does NOT say that "we must change for the world". We are to stand FIRM AGAINST the ways of the world!!

Of course, there are some things I would do differently, if I could do it all over again---BUT-- "selling out" would NOT be one of them!!

I do not know what the rest of this year holds. I have already seen a lot of surprises this year, that I could NOT have envisioned. VERY soon, I will again try and get some interest in the novel/script I wrote. I may again be in for another disappointment.but maybe not??

I could talk for many paragraphs about how I have been wronged over the last 25+ years--MANY times, by "Christians", who were either too short-sighted, or foolosh, and caused me a lot of heartache. One example---I have led a TOTALLY drug-free life. However, in the fall of 1985, I was labelled a "drug mule" at my church-- by a YOUTH LEADER-- to COVER UP the truth about the REAL mule-- a college-age girl who was a close friend of the leader, and "loved" by many kids, because she would "get them what they wanted". I was not able to clear up this lie, and was pretty much shunned by the youth group from then on-EXCEPT when they needed to borrow audio equipment or VCR's from me--or wanted advice on how to hook them up. This was for "youth parties" I was NOT invited to, of course--and found out about them later. I dropped out of the youth group, and soon after-the church.

There are MANY other similar, painful events beside this one. However-I will NOT allow all of that to make me resentful at God, because I am alone today. For some reason-this is the way he wants it. Perhaps it is to be an example to others , including some here. To show them that one CAN live a pure life nowdays, and be a witness for God wherever one goes.

DO I feel that I "missed my chance", Yes--I do.kinda........I missed a great opportunity many years ago to have a woman in my life who cared about me, as I was distracted by others. By the time I realized that she wanted more than the surface friendship that we had.........it was too late.

But who knows..maybe things would NOT have worked for us. I do wish things had gone differently, and that I had not been the "pawn" of many cruel women since that time, who only wanted to be a "friend" to me--for a selfish reason, and then, of course, ignore me as soon as they got what they wanted. I do wish that I had not allowed this all to cause me to become hard towards the whole dating scene, and basically ignore that whole part of my life-while pursuing more electronics/computer/science knowledge, and collecting old electronic items.

But I would NOT have changed my moral stance- Not at ALL!! So......I am content as I can be at the moment, in the way things are. Some here and on CM and other places have told me it is too late for me. Maybe so........But maybe not, if God wants it to be different!!

PLEASE do not allow yourslef to become bitter at God due to the fact that you are still single....Perhaps you have been spared some VERY painful times, such as being married to someone who would make you wish you WERE still single!!

[Victoria Delsoul]

LOL, my profile page is a reflection of what I like and nothing else, and many who have visited my page told me how much they enjoyed it. By the way, my latest pic there is from Christmas 2005.

Here is a poem I like:

Remember my Name

Call out my name on the soft summer air,
Murmur it soft and low,
Carve it on trees and whisper where
Fast running rivers flow.

Call it aloud by sweet meadowflowers,
Sing it to birds in the sky,
Cherish it kindly through long youthful hours
as time speeds relentlessly by.

Names can't break bones but it's nonsense to say
They have no power to offend.
They can bitterly wound and eternally stay
Forever, in time without end.

So Victoria is my name please remember it well,
And whether I'm good or I'm not,
Use it to praise or chastise me and tell
The world that you love me a lot.

~ Victoria Tadd

And speaking of songs, hope you like this one...

[Majie Purple]

Thanks for the ping to Corinthians 13 : 4 - 8
scripture!

[Maximus_Ridiculousness]

Hey, whats wrong with poerty? I like it a lot. In fact, as I always say, a song is a poem that likes to dance!

Hey, if poetry works for you, great! If you find that most women respond positively to poetry in your profile, then GREAT! Keep it up!! And if you enjoy poetry in a woman's profile, then that's great too!!

All I'm saying is that, over the last 10 years, most women that I've spoken to about online dating do not respond very positively to most men's attempts at poetry. If you write good poetry and you get positive responses, then you are doing just fine! Don't change what you are doing.

[proud_yank]

I reckon ya fixed up the mess? If ya need any help, weins'll help ya out.

[HitmanLV]

Thanks for sharing that fine poem! As for Gloria Estefan, I am not a fan but in Winter 1989/Spring 1990 I was working at an arena where her people rented it out to rehearse their upcoming concert tour. They were nice, respectful people and on their last day they did a run-though of the concert and we all had a private performance! Lots of fun and wonderful folks!

[Victoria Delsoul]

She's pretty good – a fine entertainer. I was concerned after her accident, but she was able to keep performing as well as she did before.

Here is one more song before I say good night. I'm playing tennis tomorrow/later and swimming after that, hehe.

Nighty night.

[bannie]

Hot damn! A body ken't have too many friends what'll hep y' outta a fix! Y'all need to cetch the next train west! Ifn't y' kent getcherself a train ticket, hetch a ride with'n ona 'm trucks comin' west. They's a passle of 'em what get out here! I'll set out on my porch and a'wait for ya! Look for the cabin with all'a the dawgs under the porch.

(Try spell-checking THAT! HA!)

[pcottraux]

Anyone in the mood for talking to Pcottraux tonight?

[Nowhere Man]

Yeah...I know what you mean.............I am pretty much in the same boat. Pushing 40 now(39 in oct.), and facing a lifetime being alone. It was my own fault, I guess, for allowing a number of bad experiences to cause me to become disinterested in dating, and pursuing women, and also, figuring that "God would send one my way, when the time was right".

It is too late now.Due to my "lack of experience", I am in the postion where few, if any decent women, even Christians, would be willing to bother. This has been told to me here on FR, on CM and other places.

My only hope is that the younger guys here do NOT repeat my mistakes........it gets lonely at Christmas, V-day, and so on!!

And it is ironic, too.Now, I have a bit of money to spend on a woman....and none to spend it on!!

Well, let me jump in. First off wen I say that "God will send the right one to me or me to her," I always took it where when I'm ready for such a thing, it will happen. Also, I know God will help but I will have to do my share of the leg work or even most of it. I think there are some things to where if God helps you, you have to help yourself as well and/or be willing to. Until then, my soon to be 19 year old calico cat, Pansy, it my number one girl. B-D She is pestering me to feed her so that's what brought that on. B-D She goes for a checkup tomorrow, but she seems to be doing quite fine.

One word of advice, ignore the detractors. It is hard I know, but I just ignore them. If they get too out of hand, I just flip them "The Bird" or do it in such a way to where it doesn't look like I'm "flipping The Bird" directly but in a symbolic way. It is better to do the latter or just ignore them depending on the forum's rules you're on, why get "tombstoned" (banned) for something like that?

V-Day, hate it, will do so until such a time when things change. I don't quite have the finds for such an endeavour so women are not part of my life until I get my economy house in order but I'm on my way. Think of it this way, Art Bell, whom I'm listening to, he's 61 and got remarried, if an old coot like him can get married (again), I think it holds out hope for us. Then there is my Jewish great, great uncle from Russia (my great grandmother was a Russian Jew who suffered under the pogroms, she and her two brothers left Russia to escape them) who played the violin at a concert level (some say he did have a Stradavarius, he was successful for a while) if he can get married (again in his case) at 45 or so, then there is always hope and it ain't too late. Of course, in Art's case, it helps to be a talkshow host of big fame or having a matchmaker and the local Jewish communty helping you, ala "Fiddler on the Roof," as in the case of my great, great uncle, but never say, it is too late. I'm 40 myself.

Oh well.........More old Audio equipment, Tv's and radios, I guess!!

I knoe I have to don the asbestos underwear on this one but at least when you have a radio, stereo or TV, if they get on your nerves, you can at least shut those off, pull the plug, and/or yank out the batteries. B-) OK, I'm just joking!!! B-D