Posted on 10/01/2005 7:36:14 AM PDT by teldon30
PS-
I need to tell ya'll about my last 'date' (as of about 3 weeks ago).
There was this guy that I talked to on the phone about every other day during the month of August having to do with house stuff. He was funny, professional and took all the various snags with a sense of humor. We ended up chatting and we seemed to have a lot in common.
At one point, after he helped untangle a major financial snag, I said "What can I ever do to thank you!" He said "Meet me for lunch sometime." I thought, OK, so what the heck.
Turns out is office was less than 3 minutes from a satellite building I was going to be at the next day. So we agree to meet at a local watering hole.
He calls the next day, like 5 minutes to noon to make sure I'm going to be there (which I take as a good sign).
Anyhow, this cute as a button, Brad Pitt wannabee shows up and we start chatting up a storm! Whoo hoo!
UNTIL he reaches out for the menu and there it is---
A BIG OLE SHINY WEDDIN' BAND!
Nooooo, not some dainty, I'm tryin' to hide it little fella,
but it's one of those big, laser cut all over, part-of-the-weddingband-set-the-bride-picked kinda weddin' bands.
Yaknowaddamean. >:>
I glare at it,
His hand goes back in his lap.
Anyhow, I go from date mode to big sister mode in 3 seconds. So we had a decent lunch. We also closed a few business details, which was very good. I leave. REALLY miffed.
Oh yeah,
and he called me the next day, with a lame excuse about 'just checking to see if everything cleared at the bank'. Hrmpt.
Datin' ain't for sissies.
There is that fine line between friendship and dating. If he had told you about being married during the previous converstations and then suggested lunch, would you have done it? He may looked at as a friendship lunch or he may have been looking for more, who knows.
I've had that happen to me - but without the ring.
I've asked, "are you married" seven or eight times and they always somehow say, "no" and you find out later they are.
Makes me wanna say - make sure your hubby is wearing a ring. At least most of us will stop when we see that band.
Liars, cheaters and jerks.
Dating ain't for sissies.
His wearing that ring could have been the best thing for you. Maybe he was looking for friendship or a little afternoon delight. (Crap, now I have that song in my head. Where's the closest brick wall????)
Gonna find my baby, gonna hold her tight
Gonna grab some afternoon delight
My motto's always been 'when it's right, it's right'
Why wait until the middle of a cold dark night?
When everything's a little clearer in the light of day
And we know the night is always gonna be there any way
Thinkin' of you's workin' up my appetite
Looking forward to a little afternoon delight
Rubbin' sticks and stones together makes the sparks ingite
And the thought of lovin' you is getting so exciting
Sky rockets in flight
Afternoon delight
Afternoon delight
Afternoon delight
You know, if he'd mentioned his wife earlier in conversations, then suggested meeting for lunch to finalize business, I would have been OK with it. I wouldn't have been in 'date' mode but in 'geez, I hate all this bank crap' mode.
We are both do-it-yourselfers, so he talked a lot about the things he'd done to his home too. We compared war stories. Not once did he imply that someone ELSE lived in that house with him. Which I think you would do if you were married. Especially during a 'no-kitchen for 3 months' renovation.
Hrmpt.
And Millee,
Tenjewberrymuds,
I now have "Afternoon Delight" running through my head too!
Yeah, you're right. He had something else in mind.
BTW, I'm a huge DIY as well. I was watching TOH with Bob Villa before it became cool and remember Norm Abrams when he could barely stand to be on camera.
Oh, I need to clarify my last post...
My wife and I are huge DIY's.
(adjusting collar..looking slying around) You're not doing your Al Jolson voice are you??
Do you know how to repair wood awning windows?
Do it yourself. There is a DIY channel on cable now. 24/7 of "how to" stuff.
Amen to that. I've got my kids, my work, and my hobbies. That's enough for me.
No, Barry White voice.
I've had lunch with female business associates a lot. I think its become more acceptable in business these days. Keep in mind, when I set these up I always invite others in their firm but if she shows up alone, I don't take it as a signal that she is looking for anything. Now, if she starts rubbing her foot against my leg....
Actually, that has never happened. My wife as asked before if I've ever been approached when I'm traveling (like you see on TV all the time) and I sadly say no. I travel a lot and honestly it has never happened. For one, I wear my ring. For another I guess I don't frequent those types of places but you would think that in 15 years of travel I would at least get approached just once. Just once!! Please, for my own ego, someone approach me!!!!!
Cute story, and entirely believable. My sons call the type "psycho-women"
A loan?
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