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I need to tell ya'll about my last 'date' (as of about 3 weeks ago).
There was this guy that I talked to on the phone about every other day during the month of August having to do with house stuff. He was funny, professional and took all the various snags with a sense of humor. We ended up chatting and we seemed to have a lot in common.
At one point, after he helped untangle a major financial snag, I said "What can I ever do to thank you!" He said "Meet me for lunch sometime." I thought, OK, so what the heck.
Turns out is office was less than 3 minutes from a satellite building I was going to be at the next day. So we agree to meet at a local watering hole.
He calls the next day, like 5 minutes to noon to make sure I'm going to be there (which I take as a good sign).
Anyhow, this cute as a button, Brad Pitt wannabee shows up and we start chatting up a storm! Whoo hoo!
UNTIL he reaches out for the menu and there it is---
A BIG OLE SHINY WEDDIN' BAND!
Nooooo, not some dainty, I'm tryin' to hide it little fella,
but it's one of those big, laser cut all over, part-of-the-weddingband-set-the-bride-picked kinda weddin' bands.
Yaknowaddamean. >:>
I glare at it,
His hand goes back in his lap.
Anyhow, I go from date mode to big sister mode in 3 seconds. So we had a decent lunch. We also closed a few business details, which was very good. I leave. REALLY miffed.
Oh yeah,
and he called me the next day, with a lame excuse about 'just checking to see if everything cleared at the bank'. Hrmpt.
Datin' ain't for sissies.
There is that fine line between friendship and dating. If he had told you about being married during the previous converstations and then suggested lunch, would you have done it? He may looked at as a friendship lunch or he may have been looking for more, who knows.
I've had that happen to me - but without the ring.
I've asked, "are you married" seven or eight times and they always somehow say, "no" and you find out later they are.
Makes me wanna say - make sure your hubby is wearing a ring. At least most of us will stop when we see that band.
Liars, cheaters and jerks.
Dating ain't for sissies.
His wearing that ring could have been the best thing for you. Maybe he was looking for friendship or a little afternoon delight. (Crap, now I have that song in my head. Where's the closest brick wall????)