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Posted on 08/24/2005 9:50:25 PM PDT by HairOfTheDog
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Well, I just know that every time I used it or looked at it I'd think of the crappy way they treated me and how they think they can just toss a washer/dryer at me and all is well.
My best friend's mom died. I think I've mentioned her...she was very kind to me...lived across the street and was my refuge growing up. Anyway, she grew old and died this past week. I really loved her...she was very good to me when I was growing up.
Anyway, she was an artist and painted the most beautiful rose painting just for me. I got it for a birthday. I had it hanging in my room all while I was growing up, remember opening it and being amazed that someone had made something so pretty just for me. Gosh, I was maybe 8 years old?
My mom won't give it to me...she says it's hers and I only thought it was mine. Also, a little girl's purse...my neighbor painted a little wooden purse with roses all over it and that was another gift...but again, I am mistaken. Why would my neighbor paint my mother a little girl's wooden purse?
They're very pretty and I think she intends to give them to my nieces.
I'd rather have those two items and my Vietnamese doll my cousin brought me from the war...but I guarantee I'll never see them again. They're my belongings but they're valuable and I'm not worthy...so you watch, they'll go to my nieces.
My potential granddaughters should have them.
No, I don't want no w/d from them.
Amen, brother! It's time to put it to GOOD use!
I think you need to stop worrying about who sent it, and be in thanksgiving that you received it. When you use it, say a prayer for whoever sent it. Who knows, your prayers could be something that person would need right at that minute.
It's hard to explain and maybe I never will be able to...but I "sold my soul to the devil" so to speak, for so many years. I put up with so much, kept quiet and even allowed my family to suffer, because of "stuff"...not the things that really mattered, even my own special things, but stuff like second-hand clothes and cast-off furniture.
If this gift is from someone in my church or from someone here on FR (which wouldn't surprise me in the least, people are amazingly kind and generous here), then there isn't a more grateful person on this earth.
But if it's from my parents, I don't want them sitting around patting themselves on the back for how good they are to me. They treated me like crap. They told me to get out, I didn't leave on my own. They moved away and left me, I didn't move away and leave them. They took my most valuable belongings that I had given to them for safe-keeping, not to mention my cedar chest contents, and I doubt I'll ever see them again. If these appliances are from them, they likely think of it as quite the gift, quite the "reaching out". It's a worthless gesture to me.
I tell you, someone from this Hobbit Hole or from my church could give me a WASH BOARD and I'd be more grateful.
God help me.
Just ask Him. ;o)
2J, family relationships are very complex and I can't pretend to understand yours. But I get a very bad visceral reaction when I read you speak about your parents this way. It's wrong. I spoke with you first privately about this, and only reply publicly now because you are saying the same things here.
It's wrong. To think and talk this way is wrong. You've taken something that was given to you today and turned it into something ugly.
It's wrong and I can't help saying so.
And this really doesn't have anything to do with the fact that some of us would give our eye teeth to have another chance to be nitpicked and irritated by our mothers. It's a basic belief that of all people you have no choice but to forgive and respect, it's your mother. As a mother, I'd think you'd understand that.
I'm sorry, but I think I'd be a poor friend to not try to keep you from heading down this road.
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I woulda given my eye teeth to have been nitpicked and irritated by your mother. :-)
The paintings my mom took have a great deal of meaning to me because the woman that painted them for me loved me. From the time I was two years old, she loved me and treated me like her own. She was the closest thing I ever had to a mother.
Now she's gone...died in her home Friday. I can't even get my little paintings back that she made for me...just like the items my grandmother gave me...I'll likely never see them again.
I can't help it...those little paintings meant a lot to me. I've just about got over the hurt at not getting my grandmother's things...I'll get over this too in time.
But it sure puts a damper on the w/d...I can't help it.
2J.... I apologize for the harshness of that post above as I read it again. I really do. I don't mean to hurt you, but I did want to stop you from obsessing on that line of thought you were headed down. I'd pull it, but that would just hide it from everyone else and not you.
I really do have that strong of a visceral reaction to your problems with your mom, but I don't mean to be that harsh to you. Family stuff is hard, and I don't doubt you've tried to make things better in your long history with your mom.
But jeepers... Something cool happened to you today, and you are headed on a tangent that is not good, no matter whether it's an anonymous gift or whether it's from your parents.
~IF~ it came from your parents, it should be thought of as a nice gesture. And a smart and needed one. You did need it. And yes you can help it.
Well, I guess I could call Sears and find out...why work myself up in a lather if it's from Mel Gibson, eh?
I'm gonna say this once 2J and then let it go. You may ready the box fan.
It's just STUFF, and you need to get over it. No one is obsessing over this but YOU.
You can't control what people do to you. But you can control your reactions.
For your own health, mental AND physical, let it go.
If the gifter wanted you to know, it'd have been sent with a card.... I understand the curiosity, but you can't un-know it, if it turns out there's a reason for the secret.
Ok.
Check the zip on the postage. That should tell you the post office that was used.
I truly hope that is was not your mother, because of the past between you. However, this is a special gift.
God takes things even though meant for bad/harm and turns them for His purposes. It doesn't really matter who gave it or what their intentions were. God knows this is something you need, and spoke to someone's heart to give it to you.
Hey, different subject...Celeste brought some BA CHEF stuff by...banners and such, that the new support group doesn't need.
I asked her if she could...when she was over here the other day and she did!
Maybe Celeste bought the washer and dryer :~D
Heh! I doubt it...not on her own, anyways.
I can't figure the washer, though...we don't need a washer...
They're always bought as pairs. Good to have a matching pair.
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