Well, I just know that every time I used it or looked at it I'd think of the crappy way they treated me and how they think they can just toss a washer/dryer at me and all is well.
My best friend's mom died. I think I've mentioned her...she was very kind to me...lived across the street and was my refuge growing up. Anyway, she grew old and died this past week. I really loved her...she was very good to me when I was growing up.
Anyway, she was an artist and painted the most beautiful rose painting just for me. I got it for a birthday. I had it hanging in my room all while I was growing up, remember opening it and being amazed that someone had made something so pretty just for me. Gosh, I was maybe 8 years old?
My mom won't give it to me...she says it's hers and I only thought it was mine. Also, a little girl's purse...my neighbor painted a little wooden purse with roses all over it and that was another gift...but again, I am mistaken. Why would my neighbor paint my mother a little girl's wooden purse?
They're very pretty and I think she intends to give them to my nieces.
I'd rather have those two items and my Vietnamese doll my cousin brought me from the war...but I guarantee I'll never see them again. They're my belongings but they're valuable and I'm not worthy...so you watch, they'll go to my nieces.
My potential granddaughters should have them.
No, I don't want no w/d from them.
I think you need to stop worrying about who sent it, and be in thanksgiving that you received it. When you use it, say a prayer for whoever sent it. Who knows, your prayers could be something that person would need right at that minute.
2J, family relationships are very complex and I can't pretend to understand yours. But I get a very bad visceral reaction when I read you speak about your parents this way. It's wrong. I spoke with you first privately about this, and only reply publicly now because you are saying the same things here.
It's wrong. To think and talk this way is wrong. You've taken something that was given to you today and turned it into something ugly.
It's wrong and I can't help saying so.
And this really doesn't have anything to do with the fact that some of us would give our eye teeth to have another chance to be nitpicked and irritated by our mothers. It's a basic belief that of all people you have no choice but to forgive and respect, it's your mother. As a mother, I'd think you'd understand that.
I'm sorry, but I think I'd be a poor friend to not try to keep you from heading down this road.