2J, family relationships are very complex and I can't pretend to understand yours. But I get a very bad visceral reaction when I read you speak about your parents this way. It's wrong. I spoke with you first privately about this, and only reply publicly now because you are saying the same things here.
It's wrong. To think and talk this way is wrong. You've taken something that was given to you today and turned it into something ugly.
It's wrong and I can't help saying so.
And this really doesn't have anything to do with the fact that some of us would give our eye teeth to have another chance to be nitpicked and irritated by our mothers. It's a basic belief that of all people you have no choice but to forgive and respect, it's your mother. As a mother, I'd think you'd understand that.
I'm sorry, but I think I'd be a poor friend to not try to keep you from heading down this road.
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I woulda given my eye teeth to have been nitpicked and irritated by your mother. :-)
The paintings my mom took have a great deal of meaning to me because the woman that painted them for me loved me. From the time I was two years old, she loved me and treated me like her own. She was the closest thing I ever had to a mother.
Now she's gone...died in her home Friday. I can't even get my little paintings back that she made for me...just like the items my grandmother gave me...I'll likely never see them again.
I can't help it...those little paintings meant a lot to me. I've just about got over the hurt at not getting my grandmother's things...I'll get over this too in time.
But it sure puts a damper on the w/d...I can't help it.