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FREEPER FAMILY TABLE--Dear Abby
me | November 19, 2004 | grellis

Posted on 11/19/2004 6:32:14 AM PST by grellis

Since we have several new moms and dads at the table (remember--you are a new parent to each of your children!), I thought it might be nice if we helped them sift through the barrage of advice they are now facing. What is the best advice, with regard to becoming a parent, that you have ever heard? The worst? Most ridiculous? Most dangerous?


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To: annyokie

I think you're doing your best with the available options ... I just think you should have different options!


181 posted on 11/19/2004 4:40:35 PM PST by Tax-chick (The whole world has gone crazy. Their beebers are stuned and there's no turning back.)
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To: annyokie

LOL - the Jersey Shore (Ocean City) was whereall my mom's extended family went in the summer. My great-aunt owned a big house there, and on summer weekends there might be 40 people sleeping on the floors and taking numbers for the bathrooom. Sorta like Dad's in deer season!


182 posted on 11/19/2004 4:44:40 PM PST by Tax-chick (The whole world has gone crazy. Their beebers are stuned and there's no turning back.)
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To: annyokie; Tax-chick; Aquinasfan

I have to agree with Annyokie - I'm not saying that either of you have ever attempted to force me to your way of thinking about schooling, but others have.

I've stayed out of today's thread, although I've been reading it all day, but I only have the one child, and at 44, with a 6 year old, I'm not planning on anymore, as didn't feel I had much to contribute. I have learned much from the good advice and tips on bad advice from all you moms of more than one, and I appreciate the lessons I have been learning.

I have all the respect in the world for those who homeschool, and I applaud and support them how I can - but it is not for my household. I tried "official" homeschooling and learned before she was 4 that it wasn't for me, and therefore not for her.

Finding a good school for our daughter was one of the major reasons we moved from Delaware to Virginia. It is far from easy for us because there is no work here for me.


183 posted on 11/19/2004 4:49:12 PM PST by Gabz (Thank a Veteran today............and every day)
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To: StarCMC

Wow! I'm excited to find Freeper Family Table cohort right here in the metro area!

Congratulations, btw, on your newest little blessing, he is a very handsome little guy!


184 posted on 11/19/2004 4:56:55 PM PST by BizzeeMom ("We cannot do great things. We can only do small things with great love" Bl. Teresa of Calcutta)
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To: BizzeeMom

Ditto that!! :o) And thanks!!


185 posted on 11/19/2004 5:02:20 PM PST by StarCMC (It's God's job to forgive Bin Laden; it's our job to arrange the meeting.)
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To: grellis
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186 posted on 11/19/2004 5:12:34 PM PST by grellis ("If ketchup tasted like chocolate sprinkles, would you put it on ice cream?"--Shryke)
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To: BizzeeMom; StarCMC; Gabz; Tax-chick

Lookylookylooky what I did! I did it! I posted a link woooohoooooooooooo!


187 posted on 11/19/2004 5:14:08 PM PST by grellis ("If ketchup tasted like chocolate sprinkles, would you put it on ice cream?"--Shryke)
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To: grellis

Buffalo is an ok place to live, although I am not from here. The people are very friendly, and we live in the northtowns (north of Buffalo) so we are not located within the snowbelt where we are constantly white all winter!! The only drawback with the cold winters (besides the obvious) is that I've gained like 20 pounds in the 3 years I've lived here because there's so much eating, drinking and partying that goes on here!! I just joined a gym though, so I don't make the same sedentary mistakes I've made every winter so far!! We'll see how it goes.

My best friend lives in Hamburg, which is in the snowbelt- what a difference from our weather to theirs!! And as a matter of fact, I am lending her my Bundle Me because she has a 7-week old daughter!! Those thigs are great, you just put the baby in the seat and zip him or her right in and they're comfy warm!


188 posted on 11/19/2004 5:17:07 PM PST by rocky88 ("This is the best election night in history." --DNC chairman Terry McAuliffe, 11/2/04 at 8pm EST)
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To: grellis

Good job! :)


189 posted on 11/19/2004 5:19:38 PM PST by BizzeeMom ("We cannot do great things. We can only do small things with great love" Bl. Teresa of Calcutta)
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To: Quilla
Right now I could use a bit of advice. My children are teenagers (daugher 18, son 17). They drive to school, drive to friend's homes, drive to nearby colleges for weekend football games, shoot, they drive everywhere. I am a nervous wreck when they are on the road. I have a fair amount of trust in their driving abilities; however, it's the other folks I the road I am most worry about. How do I get over this apprehension? I literally stay awake at night until they are home. Do parents ever stop worrying?

My son is 28 now and lives down in Texas. He lived with us until he finished college at age 22. I didn't stop listening for the sound of his vehicle until the day he moved into his own place. I don't know if you will ever be able to get over the apprehension while they're still under your roof.

Even now, if he doesn't update his blog on a daily basis or if I don't see him posting on his own bbs I worry a little, just not like I used to when he lived at home. He's still single so is out in the evenings more than he probably would be if he was in a relationship. However, I expect he'll be spending more time at home since he's signed up recently to take additional college courses online.

190 posted on 11/19/2004 5:27:12 PM PST by Sally'sConcerns (It's painless to be a monthly donor!)
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To: Tax-chick; Gabz
We used to do Stone Harbor, a lovely place, but a nightmare for me when the kids were small. Rickety cribs and electric tiny stoves. Tin pan alley cookware. Sheesh! Other than the tan I could catch when I wasn't working on my other chores, I hated it.

You know I love you. I am not making a slight about your choice to homeschool your children. It justs frosts me that so many of the homeschoolers want to assume that I and others are the antichrist because we do not for many reasons, wish to homeschool. I'll save the hate for you next time. You would be "stuned" by the would be "Christians" and their tone. Mon dieu!
191 posted on 11/19/2004 5:30:44 PM PST by annyokie (If the shoe fits, put 'em both on!)
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To: WV Mountain Mama
My main worry is for my 15 month old. I feel so guilty because I don't hold him as much anymore.

I meant to reply to this earlier but today has been one Mommy Mission after another (well, you know how it goes...)

First, one thing I was totally unprepared for as a new parent--and its still true today--was the tremendous amount of guilt I had (and still have) about EVERYTHING! What is up with that??? Seriously!

Second, and more to the point, the fact that you are aware that you don't have as much alone time with your 15 month old leads me to believe its not a problem at all. I would be far more worried about a mother who was in any way cavalier on the issue. I think that 15 months is a good, healthy age for a young child to be encouraged to play more independently--not unsupervised, obviously, but independently. My oldest two are 20 months apart. When I was chained to the couch with #2 (David) while he was nursing, Josh, my oldest, would be happy just to hang out in the same room and play with his Fisher Price gang. I think he kinda liked the fact that I wasn't constantly interfering with his play. And just think--in one short year (and they are short at that age, aren't they?) your one-year old and your 2.25 year old will be shooing you out of the room so they can do Bad Things!

192 posted on 11/19/2004 5:33:50 PM PST by grellis ("If ketchup tasted like chocolate sprinkles, would you put it on ice cream?"--Shryke)
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To: grellis

LOL!!! congrats.


193 posted on 11/19/2004 5:35:27 PM PST by Gabz (Thank a Veteran today............and every day)
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To: BizzeeMom

IIRC, the thread I linked is hysterical. I pulled it from my bookmarks...an oldie but a real gem.


194 posted on 11/19/2004 5:36:13 PM PST by grellis ("If ketchup tasted like chocolate sprinkles, would you put it on ice cream?"--Shryke)
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To: Sally'sConcerns; Quilla
My Mom told me she actuallly worried less about me after I moved out of the house. She would stay awake until I got home too.

We have a few years yet before our boys start driving and I am dreading it.

195 posted on 11/19/2004 5:38:35 PM PST by wisconsinconservative ("It isn't that they can't see the solution. It is that they can't see the problem.")
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To: grellis
Wow! Good for you! And you're right, that thread is a hoot!

I can do pictures but I haven't attempted a link yet.

196 posted on 11/19/2004 5:41:04 PM PST by wisconsinconservative ("It isn't that they can't see the solution. It is that they can't see the problem.")
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To: annyokie; Tax-chick

Vacation? What's that?

Last time was 2 weeks in California in 2000.......thankfully we spent most of it with a fellow FReeper and her family - I could only take so much of the leftwing socialists that make up hubby's California family members. YIKES

That was worse than travelling with a 2 year old, especially when most of the left-wing whacko stuff was directed at how I should be raising my child. I had always been a Republican, and fairly conservative, but that trip turned me totally right-wing!!!!!


197 posted on 11/19/2004 5:42:29 PM PST by Gabz (Thank a Veteran today............and every day)
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To: wisconsinconservative

I reread it briefly just a moment ago...any thread that has the opening comment "You're a looser, pal" is going to be ten kinds of fun. Classic!


198 posted on 11/19/2004 5:44:11 PM PST by grellis ("If ketchup tasted like chocolate sprinkles, would you put it on ice cream?"--Shryke)
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To: Gabz

My former (now deceased) FIL used to rent a beach cottage that was one of three. The landlady lived in the middle unit. My former SIL used to chastise us all to ponyup a certain sum then challenge everyone to pick a week. It was a nightmare from the get go.

Either you picked a week and then got trumped by one of the older siblings (there were ten kids and ex was the 9th of ten) or you got a week following one of the cheap chumps who stole every crumb out of the fridge. We got lucky once with the sister who left a whole box of wine and cold cuts, too.


199 posted on 11/19/2004 5:50:46 PM PST by annyokie (If the shoe fits, put 'em both on!)
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To: grellis
I told my children early on not to beg for items in the store, especially at the checkout counter. I told them no matter if they screamed and threw themselves down on the floor I wouldn't buy it.

They never threw a fit in the store.

200 posted on 11/19/2004 5:55:11 PM PST by Vicki (Truth and Reality)
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