Posted on 12/28/2016 11:24:58 AM PST by rhett october
Does your wife yell, scream, and swear at you? Do you feel like you can’t talk to anyone about your relationship because they just wouldn’t understand? Is your relationship making you feel like you’re slowly going crazy?
If so, you’re probably involved with a woman who is an emotionally abusive bully. Most men don’t want to admit that they’re in an abusive relationship. They describe the relationship and their wife using other terms like crazy, emotional, controlling, bossy, domineering, constant conflict, or volatile. If you use words like this to describe your relationship, odds are you’re being emotionally abused.
Do you recognize any of the following behaviors?
1) Bullying. If she doesn’t get her way, there’s hell to pay. She wants to control you and resorts to emotional intimidation to do it. She uses verbal assaults and threats in order to get you to do what she wants. It makes her feel powerful to make you feel bad. People with a Narcissistic personality are often bullies.
Result: You lose your self-respect and feel outnumbered, sad, and alone. You develop a case of Stockholm Syndrome, in which you identify with the aggressor and actually defend her behavior to others.
2) Unreasonable expectations. No matter how hard you try and how much you give, it’s never enough. She expects you to drop whatever you’re doing and attend to her needs...
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It's Never Enough has become my philosophy of life, such as "It's Never Enough" when it comes to work, kids, relationship with God, your spouse, etc. What it means to me is you try to do your best everyday.
My wife's family is all about drama. Impossible to avoid, as she has six sisters, all of them fighting to be the matriarch of the family.
It's gotten to the point where my daughter confided in me that her mother was driving her nuts, as it pertains to our grandson. His parents split up a few years ago, and he splits time with them. Conflicts obviously arise around Christmas and other occasions, and they've done a pretty good job of it...except when "Nana" expects him to be at her family's gatherings.
My daughter even said she thinks my wife is more focused on "her family" rather than "our family". I could only shrug my shoulders. After 35 years, the tune's been played out. To mangle another metaphor, the cake's been baked.
This person gave rise to my invention: KuhRayZeeBitchitis...
The stuff i witnessed was consensual, and they had this thing called the “safe word” meaning “it hurts, stop”. Frat hazing stuff. The wife of our frat grandmaster was into this stuff...
Hey!! Don't go hijacking the thread. The myth that girls are sugar and spice and everything nice left out the "crazy" ingredient.
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Like: You just can’t put up with her shit, anymore...
When my wife is irritated with me, she reminds me she knows enough about plants to get a degree in botany, and has a lot of useful plants in the yard that will make a nice cup of tea for me.
Is that bullying?
I can’t help it - I’ve been binge-watching “Married With Children” ;’}
The psycho-b!tch I was married to probably exhibited seven of ten of these. I stuck it out until the boys were grown and the daughter was a teenager.
After all of the threats all of the years I turned the tables and dumped her. It has been open warfare for the last thirty-four years but not without a certain gratification.
Still, you do what you have to do.
I had a similar experience but ended up marrying her. She turned out to have insane jealousy toward anyone. I don’t know how she kept it bottled in but it all poured out on our wedding night and she had a psychotic break and ended up on the bedroom floor in the fetal position with her fingers and toes all knurled up. I was in a state of shock so I went to the ice machine and filled the tub full and put her in it!
We managed to stay together for 9 more years (got her on Zoloft about 4 months in and that helped with the PMS raging) until I could no longer take it and threw her out. I couldn’t talk about anything that happened during my day for fear of triggering her episodes.
There’s a new element on the periodic table and they are acting like they just found it.
I think they only now came up with a proper name : Bitchitium....
Advice I give to young men:
No matter how hot she looks, no matter how much you want her, there’s some guy tired of putting up with her crap.
Mine too!
I am so sorry all that happened to you.
I know in the early days of my marriage I had some of these traits. It was the fallout from the repressed anger of what I saw growing up. My husband is so patient and loving. I wish I could talk to young men and women and tell them all that anger is effective for one thing only: pushing people out of your life.
I came to Jesus in 1998. I now thank the Lord for my husband.
I hope you haven’t soured on all women although I could understand if you did. Many women have experienced the same and feel the same too. It’s such a colossal waste of time and life is too short. May you find peace and happiness.
I vowed that I would never let another man raise my kids, and I've stuck to it. My parents divorced when I was six, and they played my sister and I like ping pong balls. Fortunately, my stepfather was a great influence on me.
My newfound interest in wine and viticulture has become an escape valve. Not because of the alcohol, but because I can get out of the house if I need to, and whether it's a winery or a wine bar, there's almost always someone to strike up a conversation with.
I'm extroverted in that regard, and I've learned that my daughter and grandson are like me.
There are times when my wife will join me, and she enjoys a good glass of wine, too. It puts us in a nonthreatening location, and enables us to change the conversation.
One bit of advice: be leery of middle aged women who've preceded you to that location by an hour or more. After their second bottle, they can become very "friendly." lol
True fact: there are at least four men that got tired of putting up with Christie Brinkley's crap. lol
Women don’t have a monopoly on being a-holes...and neither do men.
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