Posted on 08/02/2016 10:56:43 AM PDT by Scythian_Reborn
I've been married 25 years, I'm not going to go into the reasons but I just need to file for divorce, we have three kids, youngest is in high school. Love them more than I can say, to live in a different house than them is the most terrible thing I can imagine.
Already my heart is breaking just thinking about it but there's no saving this marriage. Have any of you been through such a thing? How did you cope with the loneliness. I am not a drinker and don't have a lot of friends.
Do any of you regret it terribly, I need to know ...
I concur with this assessment.
MGTOW.com - It saves men's lives and reveals some parts of human nature that you need to know and society doesn't want you to know. You will become very familiar with the term AWALT - All Women Are Like That. Most marriages are not worth the risk these days. And before anyone flames me for this or tries to claim misogyny, I say this as a Christian. It saddens me that society has broken down to this point, but marriage is a horrible survival move for men with society such as it is.
There are good women out there, but they all change over time and there is no way to really tell how they will turn out. Keep in mind that marriages fail on average about 50% of the time and that on average 70%+ of these divorces are initiated by women. Marriage is a rigged game and is akin to playing Russian Roulette with half of the chambers loaded.
+2.
First, I went through this anguish in 2006, and posted on here to cope with the loneliness.
My thread was linked to a bunch of rabid leftist sites, and word spread fast as some loser conservative who had his heart broken.
Someone to be laughed at and ridiculed.
It also got around to my ex.
Please use caution about what you say here.
Just a word of advice, FRiend.
Don’t let these people get under your skin. I always find it fascinating to listen to their experiences. I must have been one dumb woman because I never saw one penny from my husband after he left me for a younger woman, she was 22 and I was 32. I raised our 4 children by myself, worked 40 to 60 hours a week , and sent them all to private school. We did without heat, food, and a car but we made it. Some of us women have known our share of hardship.
If you haven’t already, find a church hone and become active.
I saw a therapist for about three sessions. They can help you with the anxiety you are most likely experiencing. They can also help you understand you’re “new normal”.
Finally, visit with your doctor about medication on dealing with your anxiety. Many men loose their jobs going through a divorce. The medication will help you stay focused on your job.
Hang in there. It’s going to take time to get your head wrapped around it all.
Ok, I now understand your situation. My apologies. Being an alcoholic, taking the kids to a bar and moving away to be with a girlfriend to me are all indicators of ‘it’s-me-before-the-kids’. The hallmark of bad parenting. But sometimes a bad parent is better than no parent. Other than his moving away he was still a potentially good example to his children. How so? Well, a bad example is sometimes a good example if the children learn the consequences of bad behavior. Yet, if a parent isn’t there there is nothing to be learned but that which is not.
If we don’t find a way to right things in this country....the Muzzies will take advantage and put woman back into the state they’ve generally been in for 6000 years; women will only wish that they could go back to how it was for women in this country for the first 200 years!(which in general was a lot better than many women of the world then and now had it and have it now!)
Actually there is good news in that 50 per cent number. They actually find that about less than a third of marriages fail but second or more marriages tend to fail at rates of 65 per cent or above...there bye skewing the over all divorce rate! The 50 per cent number is often quoted by progressive leftists seeking to destroy our Judeo Christian world view on marriage and families. Lying...it’s what leftists do! Still 33 per cent of first marriages fail and that’s still way too high!
And you are a conservative on FR...well God Bless you! A bouquet of daisies to ya and an atta girl for your fine work as a mom!
We are at 27 years now...Amen to what you said!
Congratulations on making it through those times, and your children no doubt learned a great deal about hard work and sacrifice.
Oh, my issue happened on 2006.
I’m now happily married again with full custody of my Sons, living in the same house.
My ex and I are great friends, and she’s also happily married.
I was just remarking about how there’s librat punks who stalk FReepers here, and like kicking us when we’re down.
I truly believe Islam’s treatment of women is the worst of any of the three so called “great” religions- Judaism, Christianity and Islam.
However, let’s be honest... The right to vote was not given to women until 1920. They had no voice. To say otherwise is a lie. And to not have a voice for the first 200 hundred years in our beautiful country-the U.S., is not to have a life.
There is truth in that statement. The 50% number I stated is an average of all marriages and the divorce rate goes higher with any marriage after the first. However, the fact that 70%+ are initiated by women and generally for reasons of "irreconcilable differences" is still very distressing. It is even worse if you consider that the rate goes to upwards of 90% if she has a college degree or better (just keep in mind that I mention this purely for statistical purposes).
Marriages can work, especially for people with strong moral and/or religious leanings, along with being able to properly pair bond if they haven't had too many other sexual partners in their lifetimes before they get married, but the game is still strongly rigged against men.
Ask yourself this, would you sign a contractual agreement that allows someone to break their end at any time, for any reason or no reason at all, and then be able to extract half or more of your current and future life earnings?
That’s pretty much every woman once you leave the dating stage and move to committed relationship. They think being exclusive is a license to gain 25-30 lbs.
You have such a open mind... please stay away from any relationship, male or female...
“hard work and sacrifice”
Yes, exactly I couldn’t be more proud of them.
Yes.
feedback ..., Twinkie wrote:
Fang and I have been married 52, almost 53 years (in
September). - Yeah. You get bored with each other.
You’ll get bored with the next one that comes along.
When you start getting OLD, you both NEED each other to
help each other shoulder the burdens in life. (And -
OLD comes earlier than some might imagine!)
Sex (with anyone) eventually gets boring and old. Just
give it a rest for a while and quit thinking you have to
be a soap opera “hunk”.
Fang has had a very serious condition for many years.
(Remember the part about “in sickness & in health)?
Well, you both are human beings and may well need each
other to SERVE one another at those times. This may
include sleeping in a recliner for long periods of time
after surgeries. (A new “sweetie” who would not like to do
that may not be your “new dream sweetie” after all.)
Neither she, nor you, have ANY guarantees in this life.
All sorts of crap happens; but then all sorts of blessings
happen, too!
Love ain’t always a “warm and fuzzy feeling”. Sometimes it’s
just the satisfaction of living up to
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A beautiful and TRUTHFUL post...
Marriages mostly fail because the one who quits is a big, fat, baby!
HE’s stating reality. I guy nees to check out the mother, if she is ship shape you are good to go.
Concur with this; hoping the best for you.
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