Posted on 02/02/2015 4:42:01 AM PST by servo1969
Sounds like our household.
And my husband is the best husband in the world.
It's disconcerting to see a man teaching his son to hate women, that they're all just out for money. There are bad men and there are bad women but most are good I think. I love my husband dearly and I see many women on here who do. They have mutually beneficial relationships, just as it should be. They are helpmates to one another.
I’m actually not teaching him to HATE women; I’m teaching him to AVOID entanglements with women.
I don’t HATE rattlesnakes or cottonmouths (in fact in 2012 I liberated a cottonmouth that was caught in some poultry netting and would have died) but I do try to AVOID poisonous snakes.
First of all, I honor and salute you for your plan to fight those filthy, demonic savages. But for the love of all that’s holy, please don’t go into it with a fatalistic, what-do-I-have-to-live-for mindset. You truly never know what God has in store for you.
I don’t dispute that the courts and society in general are set up to favor women. But family behavior patterns can be broken.
My husband grew up in a broken home. After his parents’ divorce when he was eleven years old, his mother married a man who was abusive-—mainly verbal, but occasionally physical-—to husband and his siblings. His childhood was not an easy one.
The father, for some unfathomable decision, considered himself divorced from his children as well as their mother. He has rebuffed efforts by his kids to reconcile.
My husband’s family is filled with divorce-—in fact, the only couple to stay together was his grandparents. And us.
He didn’t let what he witnessed sour him on marriage, but he did know that he would do it once, and do it right...which dovetails exactly with my own point of view. We’ve been together for twenty years, and married for eighteen. Divorce is not an option for us.
There ARE good women out there (and good men).
Yes, it is very sad, isn’t it?
I learned from the first Lexus commercial that Lexus is a car for black people.
I thought Buick and Mitsubishi had the black market for cars.
And may the Lord answer your prayers. You sound like the kind of girl I was praying for many years ago.
To wit: Pray, but don’t spend your life waiting for Mr. (or in my case) Ms. Right to show up at your door.
Or spend your life telling yourself that you’ll move back home to (state) someday where you grew up and find some high school sweetheart. Trust me, that one doesn’t work out so well after all either.
Best wishes.
They are also taught, whether they realize it or not, that unless the man fulfills every want/need [esp. emotional] that they aren't good
— there was one lady at my church who, relating a story about spiritual growth, told about how God was working on her in relation to her husband and there was a breakthrough moment when she realized that she had been resenting the husband for not meeting her every emotional need/want and God brought it to her realization that He had provided the friends/emotional-support she needed and that her husband (a) loved her, and (b) was doing the best as he could.
This kind of also fits into the societal ideology where masculine traits
are dismissed as useless — a good example here would be logic in the legal-system. (Look at how soundly rejected an argument based on the Constitution is; even among conservatives
, just lay out that the Constitution needed amending to allow the federal government the power to do prohibition, but no such amendment exists for the War on Drugs and watch the emotional knee-jerk response.)
I can only imagine how much worse it is for women who are steeped and marinated
in feminist ideology.
HA...My mother was married 4 times (I only knew 3 of them, my father was the 2nd)...my husband’s parents were married near 60 years, and I think they hated each other more every year ...in other words...neither of us have had good role models...both of us had one divorce, and swore we would never do it again....and haven’t...but, it is NOT easy....it’s COMMITTMENT with some love and understanding thrown in. (30+ years here). I learned how NOT to do divorce from my parents .... and how NOT to parent also, altho I can’t say I was the greatest, but I was better than they were...
BUT, you are right...today’s culture has made marriage (especially non religious) a passing fad...something easy to get in and out of, with women getting the financial fruits in most cases. It is nasty out there, unfortunately, for those looking for marriage. I have merely tried to be a role model for my son...and he is a great Dad and husband....luckily. Doing that seems to be the best thing a parent can do.
I find it to be very relaxing.
> The Biblical admonitions are:
> 1) Husband, love your wife.
> 2) Wife, respect your husband.
>
> Result? Happy marriage.
This is very true, it also seems to me that both the husband and wife get the “harder job”. (It’s very easy for women not to show respect or disrespect, and it’s very easy for men to not show their love or cut it off.)
In a sense you're right; but instead of bred it's an all-pervasive taught.
It's a sort of learned-helplessness — society has for years been undermining the masculine traits
, just look at the low regard for logic in the legal system, there's a great emphasis on the emotional instead of building a logical argument from first-principles [Constitutions and the actual laws] — in short, everything that a male (boy, young man, man) does is either wrong or useless according to what society teaches.
That too...I simply love mowing.
I like watching girls mow the grass! :p
Two words: “Modern Family”
Even the gay fathers are idiots in that show. Every male in it is a buffoon.
That’s a hit show.
(Pv 18:21)How many women do you know that speak life, rather than death? To wit: How many are tearing down their man?
The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.(Pv 14:1)
The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.
There aren’t very many female CEOs around right now showing the men how its done. Rometti’s a bust. Fiorina should be in jail, Mayer at Yahoo can’t hack it. GM’s CEO is up to her panties in recall suits.
I can think of one CEO that actually did a great job. EBay’s old CEO. I think she’s trying to run HP right now.
The world was supposed to be this grand and glorious place once women were put in charge of things.
Not seeing it.
I’ll say it - the world was better off when men were running it.
In WA state - nothing is done. Everything is studied to death. It’s not that they want to make an informed decision - they don’t want to make any decision at all. That’s one of the biggest vestiges of feminism - the avoidance of accountability.
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