Posted on 09/27/2009 11:57:42 AM PDT by Yorlik803
With the holidays fast approaching, is the "Singles Thread" coming back. It was a good thread with a lot of interesting people. What say we bring it back???
Still single for the moment, unemployed and not too happy right now....and today I turn 42.
No dates to speak of lately, BUT I DID enjoy a nice time out recently with my best friend Laurie, back a few weeks ago.(And Laurie HAS ‘been there’ for me recently—like NO ONE else has, during this hard time for me...)
Not long ago, we had a breakfast together and saw a movie(that she had a part in),—JUST the two of us- together for over 4 hours on a Saturday earlier this month. Her husband WAS aware of things, and evidently did NOT mind, as he knew “nothing would happen” between us....and of course nothing did “happen”—just two Christian, caring, VERY close friends spending some meaningful time out together.
Nonetheless...it was the NICEST time I have EVER had with ANY woman I have ever did something together with. The few dates I have been on with women were NOWHERE NEAR as enjoyable or meaningful as our time together. and..RIGHT after that happened...I WAS able to sleep pretty normally again...after a MONTH of not being able to sleep, after the mess with my job last month.
And she has since taken me and my sister out with her a couple of Fridays ago, to play pool and arcade games together.
I DID “speak” with a couple of women on-line at Eharmony, but it NEVER has “gone anywhere. Few, if ANY other women out there, who are even reasonably attractive and moral and intelligent,and single—see me as Laurie does, or are willing to “put up with me or try and understand me” so...I am still alone, but NOT as alone As I used to be...
I AM on facebook, under my own name, and I am as “popular there” with my “old crowd from school” as I was before—which is to say STILL the outcast...as I figured WOULD be the case. Laurie has warned me NOT to “say too much” there...as it could “haunt me”.
Yah, if there are some other old folks like myself. I always feel like I’m intruding when all the other members are young. Not that I don’t have anything to offer, I just don’t have much to offer. :o)
I found Free Republic the day after Drudge hit enter and introduced Monica to the world. I didn't register on FR until recently.
To the lurkers out there, take the plunge and register on FR, then go find us on Facebook.
I am looking forward to new FR/FB friends.
I love it....”Fringles”.
Note to self: no posting of comments before I have had a sufficient amount of coffee.
I have resisted for years joining facebook. Years I tell ya!
:-)
RS
“Singles Thread coming back soon???”
Awww, here I went & got engaged!
Regarding older women, I have mixed feelings. I've known some very nice older women, but most have been married or much older than I'd prefer for a romantic relationship. I never had any good relationships when I was younger, so I wouldn't mind dating someone much younger as a chance to capture a little bit of what I never had. At times, I've been pretty insistent that a potential romantic partner be much younger. At other times, I have been willing to consider older women.
The odd thing is that most of my experiences with slightly older women end up reinforcing my desire for younger women. When I was in my 30's, a couple of women in their late 40's tried to manipulate me into relationships that really weren't healthy for either of us. Another relationship in my 30's was with a woman who was just a year or two older. When I met her, I at first thought that the difference was irrelevant and that insistence on someone younger than I am would be silly. She ended up being very dishonest with me.
Just recently, a woman on Match.com clicked the button saying that she was interested in me. She was a year older, but she seemed to be a great match. Again, I decided that I would be crazy to turn down the chance of a match that seemed that good just because she was a little older. She ended up being rude and insulting. I've had a couple of people review the communications, and they've said that they see no reason for her to act as she did.
My sample size is too small to generalize about older women/younger men combinations either for myself or others. On the other hand, I'd approach the possibility of one of these relationships with a little more caution now for the next few months. I'll likely go back to wanting someone younger but being open to someone slightly older, but my history with these is not encouraging.
Well Bill, I can see where you’re coming from but in my mind, rude is rude whether the woman is older or younger. Would you give up on dating much younger women if you met/dated one that was rude? That said, I can understand your hesitancy to date older women since you’ve had less than stellar experiences with them! We’re not all bad I assure you!
Actually, if I ran into a series of three or four younger women of a particular age who were all rude, I'd become hesitant about women of that age.
Having said that, your point is still correct. Three or four bad apples don't really mean that all women of a particular age are bad news, but in the back of my mind, that doubt nags at me a bit. I know that judging one individual by how others have acted is wrong, and I try very hard not to let that prejudice guide my actions. I believe that I would see the next one as an individual rather than a representative of a demographic, but the discussion of age and its impact reminded me of that this doubt is in the back of my mind.
I mention the doubt because several people have suggested that my "target demographic" should be women slightly older than myself. I look older than my 46 years, and some people think that even women in their early 40's just aren't going to see themselves going out with me. I'm on Match.com, and they send an e-mail every day that includes a few profiles of "matches that we've selected for you." Typically, these are women who are older than I am. Intellectually, I may know that there are some great individuals in that age range, but I cringe when someone suggests that my "profile" match should be someone in that age range.
I sometimes see articles claiming how wonderful women become after they turn 40. The articles almost seem to be saying that most of what could be wrong with a woman's character is suddenly cured during a few years in her early 40's. That whole idea goes against my beliefs and my experiences. All wise people learn as they grow, but for both women and men, a quality person at 40 or 50 years of age was likely a quality person at 20 or 30. I've met plenty of young people (of both sexes) who are very impressive in their character. I've met plenty of people (of both sexes) in their 40's or 50's who still haven't grown up and are never going to grow up. I guess I make an issue of the error of those kinds of articles because I feel that some people have pushed me towards a demographic that has at best never been any better for me and occasionally has been much worse.
Calling all Singles Ping List’rs!
A Windows update nuked my system and all of it’s data. Upon fixing, it hooked into my webmail and wiped it all out.
Thus, I am asking you all to verify whether or not you are on this ping list, and possibly call whoever else I missed, so I can get it back.
Highly appreciative thanks to all!
I HATE when that happens!
Yup, still single, still lookin’ (kinda)
Same here.
Thanks for your help.
oh dang.. sorry about your computer..they are like cars.. work nicely or a Pain in butt..
my former pings lists for the singles group are on my tower that died about a year ago. I keep hoping I will be able to access the hard drive material
others possibly: DaveLoneRanger; BigSkyFreeper; snugs; silent_jonny; LucyJo; proud Yank;
so many I cant recall if they are still unttached
Thank you so much, DollyCali.
Yeah, it was an auto-update that did it, too. Had to deal with, “Mister India,” to get what I could back.
Folks, if you’re still on my FReeper Singles list, please chime in. Thank you all.
Love y’all for thinking of me; but I must be on one of your other lists...hmmm, that doesn’t sound quite right...good lists I hope! Ha!
Hubby isn’t quite ready to kick me to the curb just yet, so I’m still attached as of this writing! ; )
Okay. Thank you.
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