How to apologize to a feminist He wasn't very clever. He wasn't very nice. And he's been trying to make it up to a certain red-haired columnist ever since. MAUREEN DOWD doesn't like me. This is not unusual. But unlike a lot of people, the New York Times columnist has a good reason. Despite her new book, "Are Men Necessary?" it's not just because I'm male. And I have no argument with her book, either. The way I see it, perhaps men aren't necessary, but we are very entertaining.