I asked one of the few Calvinists who has actually demonstrated a desire for rational, calm conversation. Do you actually think I'll get away without a smart-ass response from the swarm?
The verses you quoted are concerned with overall conduct, first to God, and then to others. TULIP is dealing with doctrine. As such, they are two different things.
Precisely the answer I predicted. What that says to me is that TULIP is an entire belief system that ignores what Jesus said was the greatest commandment.
I think you're reading too much (or not enough, as the case may be) into what I said. TULIP is an explanation of certain defined principles of Christianity. No one is saying that it is the whole of Christianity, except you, by the statement you just made. I'm not saying that to be a smart-ass or to put you down. I'm simply pointing out that you're taking the part and calling it the whole, and then condemning it for not including something else.
I think that's an unfair assertion. The doctrines of TULIP deal with the mechanics of the redemptive process from election through glorification. The doctrine is by no means in conflict with or incompatible with Jesus' words regarding love. These words would apply and are relevant whether you believe in the Calvinist election or the Arminian election. Paul's words are applicable...if we speak with the tongue of angels but have not love, we are just a resounding noise. Certainly it would do us all well to remember this. It's not our doctrine that saves us, it's our faith in the Risen Christ, and that should be manifest in our interaction with each other. Its absence does not necessarily indicate a lack of that faith, but it does show a need for improvement.
That being said, love does not necessarily mean being heavy on the saccarine.
Anyway, I think your assessment of Calvinism in relation to the Lord's commandments is not valid. Making such an assessment of Calvinists would be a different matter, but that goes both ways :)