Posted on 09/25/2014 8:25:58 AM PDT by Morgana
1. The reasons pornography is not wrong.
Pornography isn’t wrong because sex is bad or the body shameful. It's wrong because sex is good and the body magnificent! As Christians we must never forget whose idea sex was in the first place. It was not thought up by Hugh Hefner or by Cosmopolitan magazine but by God! In fact, God's very first commandment to humanity in the Bible is to “be fruitful and multiply” (Gen 1:28)! And as philosopher Dr. Peter Kreeft noted, “I do not think he meant for us to grow oranges and invent calculators.”
Pornography is wrong because it removes sexual intimacy from its natural context, turning it into a commodity to be bought and sold. It has been rightly said that the problem with porn is not that it shows too much but that it shows too little—too little of the human person.
Pornography reduces the mystery and beauty of a man or woman to a collection of body parts to be used rather than recognizing them as persons to be loved. It reduces the great mystery and sanctity of human sexuality to a trivial activity that need not be of any real importance.
2. Pornography is not just a man’s issue.
While it is certainly true that men have cornered the market on visual pornography, it’s not true that women don’t also struggle. One survey revealed that 34 percent of female subscribers of Today’s Christian Woman online newsletter admitted to intentionally accessing Internet porn.
Because pornography is predominantly consumed by men, many women who struggle with pornography feel an even greater sense of shame and isolation. One young woman I know put it this way:
For over seven years, I was addicted to hardcore pornography, masturbation, and lust—and I am a woman. Often we hear that women may struggle with fantasy and romance novels, but porn—porn is a guy thing. One of the most shaming statements I ever heard was, "Women just don’t have this problem." I started to lose hope after I heard that. How do you argue with the ‘fact’ that only men struggle with porn? It is sad, because this mindset is causing so much damage to women. It causes many women to question their sexuality and wonder if they are homosexual because they are involved in a sin "only men" get caught up in. It isolates them, silences them, keeps them trapped in this sin and drives them further away from freedom and into the darkness.
If you or a woman you know struggles with pornography, be assured that you are not alone. Help is available, and healing is possible. You might begin by visiting the website Beggar's Daughter.
3. Porn stars don’t enjoy what they do.
When I inquired of a friend of mine, a former porn star, if this was the case, she said, “Well, there are several reasons why girls get into the porn industry, but a hardcore sex drive isn’t one of them. I know, because that’s what I used to tell people in interviews.” Another former porn star put it this way:
Sex-packed porn films featuring freshly dyed blondes whose evocative eyes say ‘I want you’ is quite possibly one of the greatest deceptions of all time. Trust me, I know. I did it all the time, and I did it for the lust of power and the love of money. I never liked sex. I never wanted sex, and in fact I was more apt to spend time with Jack Daniels than some of the studs I was paid to fake it with. That’s right—none of us freshly dyed blondes like doing porn. In fact, we hate it. We hate being touched by strangers who care nothing about us. . . . Some women hate it so much you can hear them vomiting in the bathroom between scenes. Others can be found outside smoking an endless chain of Marlboro Lights. . . . But the porn industry wants YOU to think we porn actresses love sex. They want you to think we enjoy being degraded by all kinds of repulsive acts.
Pornography “immerses all who are involved in the illusion of a fantasy world” (CCC 2354). One such illusion is that the women in the porn industry enjoy making pornography. While this may be a convenient illusion for those seeking to justify their pornography use, the reality behind the fantasy is another story entirely.
For an eye-opening and detailed insight into the world of pornography, get my two-CD set, The Ugly Truth. On the first CD I interview a former porn star, on the second a former Playboy producer. I truly believe that anyone who listens to this with an open mind will never be able to truly justify pornography again.
I wish you well and hope it goes somewhere for you.
Didn’t you think it was rather strange that LaHaye put a great deal of emphasis on needed a sturdy footboard on a bed for good intercourse? I mean, that is weird. He wrote as if there was a specific Biblical way to engage in sex. It was written in a rather mundane clinical style that really didn’t pay enough attention the the beauty and fun aspects of sex.
It will eventually. The hard part is keeping it funny without letting it get too political.
I usually had an SLR (way back when) or DSLR when they came around. Nothing even close to that ever happened to me.
I prefer video since I am an ex TV guy. Every now and then I hired a model though and all things kept strictly professional. All said and done, I rather work with machines, animals, food, and objects in general. I’ve had the best success with that.
Sometimes I go with my wife to her 5Ks and other torture to me events. Some good candids come from those.
What irks me is people who look right at you and seem oblivious or downright ignorant and have to walk right in front. Can’t or won’t go around. They seem to be the dominant type. A considerate person is rare these days.
That is me as well and there are few of me and I try to keep it that way.
No, I didn’t notice that.
Yes, it is clinical - basically a how to manual.
I was under the impression that the purpose of the book was to deal with the mechanics of sex (for lack of a better way of describing it) so that the couple could get the most out of it, both the man and the woman.
I just kind of figured that it was up to the couple after that to explore the beauty and fun of the rest of it themselves.
Is that really the worst criticism people came up with for that book?
I don’t care how many copies were sold, and o bought one myself when it came out, it was poorly written and not really all that informative.
Of all the Christian books on marital sex, it’s near the bottom of the list. The books I mentioned in an earlier post are far better.
I don’t care how many copies were sold either. I don’t recall mentioning that either.
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