good points in what you say, but however, I think you said you (or was it some other poster — I apologize if it was someone else) don’t believe in hyper-Calvinism, but you believe that we all have free will for everything except the act of choosing God?
I don't know how many ways to say this, "free will" is a myth, a lie, bogus...
We are slaves to sin or slaves to righteousness. We are not free. The Son sets us free from being slaves to sin. However, when He does so we WANT to do the things that are good. How many of us truly want to exercise our "free will" against God?