[MrEdd]

Join the military.

Few things grind down a marriage like one partner being called up and sent far away much of the time.

[GatorGirl]

Cop out.

Too many military people get married too early and for the wrong reason (BAH w/dependents).

We have plenty of friends with strong military marriages. Both partners need to be mature and realistic. In some ways our marriages are better—we tend not to take each other for granted.

[askrenr]

Join the military.

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If you have the right spouse, it is not a problem. I spent 20 years in the US Army; was a Drill Sergeant twice, paratrooper 18 of those years; even spent time with 7th Group; lots of time with the 82nd and three years with 509th Airborne Battalion Combat Team. My wife and I have been married for 34 years now; she is an angel.