I am LDS, and I am fairly well acquainted with our standard works (the Bible, Book of Mormon, Doctrine & Covenants, and the Pearl of Great Price). I have not found in them any hint that a man can determine whether his wife is resurrected.
If you have found such a doctrine in the LDS scriptures, please provide a reference.
I don’t want to bore everyone here with a complete posting of the temple ritual of marriage which then gets into the resurrection part so here’s a good start. Read the paragraph halfway down.
http://www.utlm.org/onlineresources/resurrectwife.htm
I have not found in them any hint that a man can determine whether his wife is resurrected.
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Temple rituals (which aren’t in the LDS scriptures either).
I can post a link to the text if you would like?