The tag is; “Christ the victim, Christ the priest.” BOTH offerER and offerED. Is that less intolerable?
Not really. If you're saying it in the sense that our sinful ways made Him our victim, I don't see it as something to celebrate, so asking us to join in it again along with Mary makes NO sense. That He suffered at our hands, no doubt, but seeing Him as our victim because of it, like I said, it's giving us too much power.