I've learned how to deal with the handholding. I bow my head, close my eyes, and fold my hands in prayer, often wrapping my rosary around my hands. Works every time.
Agreed. I have simply folded my hands in prayer and the gesture is understood.
That's what I do, too, but to show you how far this has gone, about two months ago, I was at Sunday Mass in my NO church and said the Our Father in my usual way (as you have described). Then came the dread handshake of peace, which I really dislike but which I obediently do anyway - and the lady who was in my pew (the only other person in the pew) refused to shake my hand. She said, "well, if you didn't want to hold hands with me at the Our Father, I guess I don't want to shake your hand now." I was dumbfounded. So much for "peace!"
It just shows you what a completely distorted idea of this "Our Father" moment most people have gotten. And I have yet to hear the clergy say anything about it.