Spiting their pretty faces

World Net Daily ^ | February 3, 2003 | Vox Day

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A recent story floating around the variety section of a newspaper I still read occasionally reminded me of a conversation I had with a college girlfriend about six months ago. She's a pretty woman – slender, petite, well-educated and intelligent. She has an excellent, high-paying job and even owns her own house.

She is, in short, the epitome of feminist success. And yet, she is profoundly disappointed with her life. She has, in her own words, continued to stumble upwards while somehow missing out on the only thing she truly wanted – a husband and a family.

Nor is she alone, in anecdotal or statistical terms. Not only do the majority of women who were in our college social circle remain unmarried, but according Barbara Dafoe Whitehead, author of "Why There Are No Good Men Left: The Romantic Plight of the New Single Woman," a 30-something woman is three times more likely to be unmarried than her 1970's counterpart. While some might argue that this is a good thing, most demographics experts would disagree, as would, it appears, an awful lot of those 30-something single women.

While Whitehead correctly identifies the general problem, she is as clueless as the next feminist as to how to go about solving it. Instead of recommending that individuals change the one thing within their power – namely, their behavior – she advocates altering the entire system of courtship. Given this typically fascistic feminist approach, I am, of course, shocked that her six 30-something daughters and nieces all remain available.

But, as I told my friend, the root of the problem is that the kind of man she wants is precisely the man who is smart enough to stay away from her. Smart, educated women aren't willing to date down on the social scale, so the higher they rise, the more they cut down on their available pool of men. Furthermore, the smarter a man is, the more he is likely to realize that being romantically involved with an intelligent, educated, upper-middle-class American woman steeped in 20 years of feminist indoctrination is about as desirable as being flayed alive and rolled in salt.

Consider the premarital professions of the women in my social circle, all of whom are now stay-at-home moms happily married to intelligent, successful men: Farmgirl. Nanny. Teacher. Office manager. Nanny. Pipeline worker. Professional student. Church volunteer. That's eight quality men who won't be marrying a high-powered career girl right there.

The advice I gave my friend was succinct: In any given dating situation, think about what your instincts are telling you – then do the opposite. It's like football … if the run is getting stuffed, then throw the darn ball.

So, in the unlikely event there happens to be a 30-something single woman reading this, here are a few pointers which might be helpful while you wait for Ms. Dafoe Whitehead and company to change the dating culture:

1. Your rights are delineated in the Constitution. Everything else is a privilege.

2. Your family has to put up with you. For everyone else, it's optional.

3. Southern belles always get what they want. Watch and learn, grasshopper.

4. Sex as an incentive is fair enough. Using its deprivation as a punishment will backfire hideously.

5. Mocking your man in public creates a no-win situation. He can either slice and dice you verbally, which is no fun for you, or keep his mouth shut and look like an idiot. In the case of the latter, it doesn't mean that you've won, or that he's forgotten.

6. Men love happy women. Act happy and you may discover how to be happy.

7. If there's a doubt, choose the most optimistic interpretation. That's what he meant.

8. Honey, honey, honey – a thousand times honey. Never vinegar.

9. Conflict is not passion. It isn't any fun, either.

10. Limit yourself to five complaints and demands a day. If you're not counting, you're over the limit.

11. If no one ever taught you the traditional arts, find an older woman to be your mentor.

12. Your feelings and objectively verifiable facts may be different. Learn to distinguish between them.

Now, I'm not saying that applying these principles to your dating scene will turn frogs into princes or anything, but they will get you in the game. And if all else fails, just tell your next first date that you're thinking of quitting your job and returning to your former career as an aerobics instructor. He'll be intrigued, trust me.

[Age of Reason]

I'm serious!

Then you are a true woman.

My compliments.

[Terriergal]

I said to myself MOM AND DAD ARE RIGHT.

You sound like me and my mom and dad. But dadgum if I was gonna tell THEM that out loud until I was older. ;-)

[apackof2]

You are probably wasting your time here

Save your wisdom for someone who is open to learning
When you play in the dirt you think everyone else is dirty too

[ggekko]

College-eduated American women have been sold a terrificly bad bill of goods by a bunch of chronically unhappy man-haters in the feminist movement.

The undeniable truth is that "you can't have it all" and this is particularly true for women because of the biological imperatives involved with child bearing.

The author of the piece (Vox Day) was reacting to a book by Barbara Dafoe Whitehead. This book was notable for the complete superficiality of its analysis as Ms. Whitehead missed the most important factor behind the rise in the number of singles: the escalating financial and psychological risk of divorce.

Men are are not stupid and from a purely selfish perspective it is not smart for young men to get married today. In general it is possible to obtain sexual gratification these days outside marriage with very little of the social stigma this type activity used to impose. The social calculus is obvious: men are able to get sex and companionship without the risks of divorce. Why should they get married?

This state affairs is, of course, a disaster for society and for women. Women should thank the feminist leadership for giving them a society in which male sexual license has become the main organizing principle (greedy lawyers should also get an honorable mention).

[Terriergal]

Aint that SWEEEEEET! Makes me feel almost giddy inside to hear you rhapsodize about your younguns. I know I feel the same way when I look at my kids. (well--- sometimes it's hard to feel that way when they're going through that 3-6 stage...*sigh*)

[cyborg]

Children are a blessing to me... I'd adopt as much as God would let me have after I pop out twenty little ones of my own. And if I turn out to be barren, I'd go bananas and adopt forty! There's a couple that owns a big farm out midwest... she adopted all kinds of children because she couldn't have any of her own.. black, white, biracial, handicapped, 28 of them total.

[rintense]

I'm blushing. Really.

[ggekko]

College-eduated American women have been sold a terrificly bad bill of goods by a bunch of chronically unhappy man-haters in the feminist movement.

The undeniable truth is that "you can't have it all" and this is particularly true for women because of the biological imperatives involved with child bearing.

The author of the piece (Vox Day) was reacting to a book by Barbara Dafoe Whitehead. This book was notable for the complete superficiality of its analysis as Ms. Whitehead missed the most important factor behind the rise in the number of singles: the escalating financial and psychological risk of divorce.

Men are are not stupid and from a purely selfish perspective it is not smart for young men to get married today. In general it is possible to obtain sexual gratification these days outside marriage with very little of the social stigma this type activity used to impose. The social calculus is obvious: men are able to get sex and companionship without the risks of divorce. Why should they get married?

This state affairs is, of course, a disaster for society and for women. Women should thank the feminist leadership for giving them a society in which male sexual license has become the main organizing principle (greedy lawyers should also get an honorable mention).

[Terriergal]

Men are are not stupid and from a purely selfish perspective it is not smart for young men to get married today

That is true only if they don't know how to discern a wife of good character. Same is true for women.

[apackof2]

If the pickin's are slim, you've got to go to a field that's bountiful.

Amen Too many Chrisitan women just wait for God to
slip a man right under their nose!( I was guilty for awhile too)
Faith is active

[Woahhs]

Bummer... I'm such a bad wife...

No...a bad wife is one you can't teach to set up a cross-fire, or hang back and use cover effectively while playing "Halo." But I love her anyway...(sigh)

[Age of Reason]

That is true only if they don't know how to discern a wife of good character. Same is true for women

It's not enough.

You have to live in a society that has good character.

[cyborg]

:sigh: I'd marry Ted Nugent. It would be gun rack off roading marital bliss.. but I think he's married.

[Rollee]

What a shallow, juvenile remark. Have a little respect, please.

[Happygal]

So WHY do you think a pre-marital child is BAD?

[cyborg]

Oh no! FR is child's play compared to what I have to endure at my job... hour long discussions about masturbation... and all that from customers who try to ask me out. That's why that comment about masturbation didn't bother me none much.

The danger is getting prideful and self righteous. That's the original sin. " Vanity.. it's my favorite sin. "

[Mr_Magoo]

Well, I have high standards. Was not always that way, but I got burned big time. Been divorced 11 years now, and have not met a woman I felt was worth dating. Most have been too self centered, or think that fidelity is a cuss word.

I have reached the conclusion that a woman that would interest me does not exist. For one thing, I care for my Mother full time. Any person I get involved with must understand that Mom-in-law will be there until she dies. Period. She cared for me in my youth, and now it is my turn to return that care. Not to mention that I also have medical problems.

Not many women exist that are willing to get involved with that.

[Rollee]

Maybe she doesn't want a PRE-MARITAL child. Maybe she wants to find a good man, get married, then start the family. In that order. That is her CHOICE and she doesn't have to justify it to anyone.

[Diddle E. Squat]

Cleaning, cooking, etc. are viewed by all modern educated american women (again, politics aside) as being beneath them and shameful

I'm sorry, but as a whole I've seen very little evidence of that. Oh sure, there's a segment that think like that, but there are a lot of professional women who incorporate cleaning, cooking, etc. into their routines. Heck, they've taught me most of my recipes!

[Diddle E. Squat]

She can't be serious... who buys lunch from a vending machine today?

You'd be amazed. I've seen it all to often with my own 2 eyes. IMHO, about the same percentage who don't wash their hands.