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My Niece is Scheduled to Have an Abortion Today
Skooz
| 1.30.2003
| Skooz
Posted on 01/30/2003 5:06:38 AM PST by Skooz
Please forgive the vanity.
I received this email from my mom yesterday morning. Amanda is my niece. She is 18 years old and she lives with my parents. She just started college on a full paid academic scholarship:
Hi, Just wanted to fill you in on the latest around here. Miss Amanda is dropping school because she's...............................are you ready................ take a breath....................pregnant. She's going with her boyfriend tomorrow for counseling before having an abortion. His folks told him that unless she has an abortion he can never see her again. She wants him more than anything, so that's probably what she'll do. It's been a bad few days around here. She was going to wait until the end of the quarter (March) to tell us, but she got real sick a few weeks ago and came home. I think part of it was the flu, and part "baby" sickness. She still doesn't feel well. One of the worse things is he won't be 17 until April. So anyway.......I thought I'd give you a little shock to have with your coffee. I'll keep you updated.
Of course, we are stunned. I am really seeking some advice about what I can do or say. My entire family (except for Amanda) is staunchly pro-life. Her mother is beside herself.
Oh, and how about the "His folks told him that unless she has an abortion he can never see her again" thing? How about it pro-choicers? She is being coerced into having an abortion she doesn't really want. She has said (in other correspondence) that she wants to keep the baby. Her "choice" is being made by the father's parents, who want to be spared the embarassment.
She went to see a "counselor" at an abortion clinic yesterday, and they scheduled the "procedure" for today. Of course, the "counselor" at the abortuary is just a salesperson whose job it is to sell abortions.
Anyway, I have run out of options. I have prayed and will continue to do so. I have offered to adopt the baby and have referred her to a wonderful woman who has dedicated her life to finding good homes for children who would otherwise have been aborted, but my niece is not interested. She is ready to have her baby killed to make her boyfriend's parents happy.
I really don't know what else to say. God help us.
TOPICS: Culture/Society; Miscellaneous; Your Opinion/Questions
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To: Skooz
I am sorry to hear about your neice's situation.
One point, often the motivation for the parents of a would-be father are to make sure he doesn't get stuck with child-support payments for the next 20 years. That makes the demand for an abortion even more galling.
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posted on
01/30/2003 5:30:08 AM PST
by
mongrel
To: Skooz
I don't understand....why would you post something like this?
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posted on
01/30/2003 5:31:19 AM PST
by
sit-rep
To: Skooz
"His folks told him that unless she has an abortion he can never see her again."
I assume they mean, EXCLUDING child support and visitations, right?
To: Bloody Sam Roberts
His folks told him that unless she has an abortion he can never see her again. Perhaps I'm cynical, but I smell money at work here. It sounds like the boy is not old enough to be able to support a baby financially and his slimey parents probably don't want the burden. The lessons this boy is learning make me sick- the same lessons causing the rot the cities.
There has got to be a legal angle to this coercion. A good lawyer could probably make a case of it and get an injunction. Pressuring a young girl to undergo a dangerous procedure with long-term consequences (no to mention the death of a baby) in order to avoid the cost of child support is sleazy, wrong, and demands a day in court.
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posted on
01/30/2003 5:31:32 AM PST
by
Lil'freeper
(I amar prestar aen)
To: Alberta's Child
No problem. To a certain extent, you were right. She is one of those really gifted yet socially awkward types. She is borderline genius--one of the top academic acheivers in the state. She had planned on med school after college and was taking a science-heavy curriculum. But, she lacks the maturity of most 18 year-olds and is in no way ready for something like this.
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posted on
01/30/2003 5:32:56 AM PST
by
Skooz
(Tagline removed by moderator)
To: Skooz
I wish you could tell her the best thing for her to do, which is to have the baby and "abort" the boyfriend.
Since I used to be an 18 year old girl myself, sadly, I realize she probably won't listen.
Not that I was ever in this situation myself, but between the ages of 15 and maybe 23, my parents and some other wise adults gave me good advice, and I knew what they were telling me was true, but I just didn't listen.
One thing that might help is to GET A GIRL HER OWN AGE TO TALK TO HER!!! MAYBE SOMEONE WHO HAS EITHER HAD A BABY, OR HAD AN ABORTION THAT SHE REGRETS. That might be the only thing that will work!
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posted on
01/30/2003 5:33:32 AM PST
by
wimpycat
(US: The masters of our domain...France: Morally bankrupt "old Europe")
To: AppyPappy
LOL. It's easy to get carried away on a sensitive subject like this.
To: Skooz
What about suggesting they talk to a Crisis Pregnancy center (not the abortion ones, the ones who help save the child) to get a "second opinion" or to see both sides of the issue? I wouldn't know what you could do....show them shock value pics? I dont think that will work. Buy the baby a gift and deliver it right away before the procedure? I'll be praying a hedge for her.
To: Skooz
Please keep us updated on this situation with a bump to this thread over the next couple of days. I've already bookmarked it.
To: Skooz
Do you know if anyone has considered adoption?
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posted on
01/30/2003 5:34:26 AM PST
by
Hillary's Lovely Legs
(Happy people live longer. I plan on living forever)
To: Skooz
I have long held the opinion that the most passionate pro-aborts are men seeking to escape responsibility for their sexuality. What promise does this girl have that these parents will not see that she's abandoned after the aboriton?
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posted on
01/30/2003 5:34:38 AM PST
by
Mamzelle
To: Skooz
Will she consider adoption?
To: Skooz
If you can find an 18-21 yr old girl who had a baby and gave it up for adoption, that would be ideal. Find someone near her own age that she can "identify" with; someone who has "been there".
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posted on
01/30/2003 5:36:00 AM PST
by
wimpycat
(US: The masters of our domain...France: Morally bankrupt "old Europe")
To: Skooz
It is very sad.
I have been in a similar situation. Sometimes individuals are powerless to resist great evil.
You any your family are in our prayers.
To: All
And at the center of it all, hidden in illusory safety, a little, inconvenient, expensive child, just about to die.
God have mercy. I will shed the tears that the heartless young man's parents won't, as they pressure to have their grandchild killed.
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posted on
01/30/2003 5:36:51 AM PST
by
Judith Anne
(This space for office use only.)
To: Alberta's Child
To: Skooz
One last option...contact the boy's parents and at least let them know that this is something that more than two people know about.
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posted on
01/30/2003 5:38:15 AM PST
by
Mamzelle
To: Skooz
I work with a guy whose daughter was in exactly the same situation, as your neice, about 5 years ago. His pro-life family stood by her and encouraged her to give the baby up for adoption.
The baby was born healthy and given to loving parents.
Sure, she may forever wonder what happened to her baby, but she will never have to face the regret of having killed a baby. Her unselfish act made at least 3 people in the world happy beyond description.
She got married to a fine guy last summer.
To: Bloody Sam Roberts
Will do. Actually, I was beginning a 6 week hiatus from FR (I have to do that from time-to-time, just to get something done around here) but felt compelled to post this here this morning. Freepers are among the wisest people I know and this is a great place to seek wise counsel.
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posted on
01/30/2003 5:40:23 AM PST
by
Skooz
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To: Skooz
I once worked for a guy whose kid set a record for absenteeism in his high school. The kid barely made it out of school, and ended up working in a gas station on the overnight shift at the age of 18.
One night he was held up at gunpoint. He was not harmed, but he suddenly got the fear of God in him and came home and told his parents that he had to do something else. His father had recognized early on that the kid had some good mechanical skills, so he helped him get enrolled in an airplane mechanic's program.
But that only lasted about 6 months, because the kid was capable of far more than that. He ended up going to school for avionics and aeronautical engineering, and the last time I heard of him he was the top avionics expert (at the age of 30) for one of the major airlines.
Maybe it takes the grace of God, but sometimes these things just end up working out in the long run.
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