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My Niece is Scheduled to Have an Abortion Today
Skooz
| 1.30.2003
| Skooz
Posted on 01/30/2003 5:06:38 AM PST by Skooz
Please forgive the vanity.
I received this email from my mom yesterday morning. Amanda is my niece. She is 18 years old and she lives with my parents. She just started college on a full paid academic scholarship:
Hi, Just wanted to fill you in on the latest around here. Miss Amanda is dropping school because she's...............................are you ready................ take a breath....................pregnant. She's going with her boyfriend tomorrow for counseling before having an abortion. His folks told him that unless she has an abortion he can never see her again. She wants him more than anything, so that's probably what she'll do. It's been a bad few days around here. She was going to wait until the end of the quarter (March) to tell us, but she got real sick a few weeks ago and came home. I think part of it was the flu, and part "baby" sickness. She still doesn't feel well. One of the worse things is he won't be 17 until April. So anyway.......I thought I'd give you a little shock to have with your coffee. I'll keep you updated.
Of course, we are stunned. I am really seeking some advice about what I can do or say. My entire family (except for Amanda) is staunchly pro-life. Her mother is beside herself.
Oh, and how about the "His folks told him that unless she has an abortion he can never see her again" thing? How about it pro-choicers? She is being coerced into having an abortion she doesn't really want. She has said (in other correspondence) that she wants to keep the baby. Her "choice" is being made by the father's parents, who want to be spared the embarassment.
She went to see a "counselor" at an abortion clinic yesterday, and they scheduled the "procedure" for today. Of course, the "counselor" at the abortuary is just a salesperson whose job it is to sell abortions.
Anyway, I have run out of options. I have prayed and will continue to do so. I have offered to adopt the baby and have referred her to a wonderful woman who has dedicated her life to finding good homes for children who would otherwise have been aborted, but my niece is not interested. She is ready to have her baby killed to make her boyfriend's parents happy.
I really don't know what else to say. God help us.
TOPICS: Culture/Society; Miscellaneous; Your Opinion/Questions
KEYWORDS: abortion; prayerrequest
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To: snowstorm12
Well, you'll be very pleased to hear that she went though with it. Her boyfriend's ghoulish parents paid to have the baby killed, and the little one was butchered yesterday at 1:00 pm CST.
I'm sure that will make your day.
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posted on
01/31/2003 3:30:12 AM PST
by
Skooz
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To: Skooz
Skooz, I'm so sorry. manna.
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posted on
01/31/2003 3:36:16 AM PST
by
manna
To: Skooz
Oh, Skooz, I am so sorry for you and your family, and for her, and especially for that little baby.
I know that you did your best to dissuade her.
There are some people that are bullheaded and cannot be persuaded. They have to learn things the hard way. I guess she's one of them.
But God's mercy is infinite.
To: Skooz
so sad ...
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posted on
01/31/2003 3:49:06 AM PST
by
fnord
(aint it just like the night to play tricks when you're tryin' to be so quiet?)
To: AnAmericanMother
There are some people that are bullheaded and cannot be persuaded. They have to learn things the hard way. I guess she's one of them. After Amanda left and things calmed down a bit, my mom turned to me and told me that Amanda has too much of me in her. She's too much like her uncle Skooz. That's true.
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posted on
01/31/2003 3:50:48 AM PST
by
Skooz
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To: Skooz
sad..
very sad..
and it's only happened 40,000,000 times in this country
That's the problem skooz. It's become so commonplace it's like taking out the laundry.
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posted on
01/31/2003 4:42:08 AM PST
by
evad
(so sad)
To: Skooz
I'd probably feel bad about it in the morning, but I'd have her stuff on the front step. If she values this boy and his parents opinon over her own parents, she can go be with them then. Tough love I guess, but she is 18, no long legally their responsibility. But then again, like I said, I'd probably feel bad about it after the shock and anger wore off. Two wrongs really don't make a right.
Best wishes. I hope she sees the light about him and his family before this happens again or a rift forms. Maybe this one incident will straighten her out.
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posted on
01/31/2003 5:17:59 AM PST
by
cdefreese
(I'll pray and hope for the best. Sometimes that is all you can do.)
To: don-o
Please, are you saying that there is nothing wrong in this; that the woman should go ahead and kill the baby - per boyfriend's parents ultimatum? No I'm saying that a parent can't say "never again" to a 16 year old. In 2 years he will be 18. I'm also saying that the parents are monsters in the first place for saying that. I made a post earlier where I expressed my feelings about marriage for them too.
To: Skooz
Skooz, I'm so sorry for your family, for Amanda, and for her dear baby. Unfortunately, her decision reflects the culture in which she lives, her family's efforts notwithstanding. I'm sorry she didn't have the strength to resist the pressure of her boyfriend's parents; it's a hard thing for such a young woman to withstand. I fear she has more pain ahead. It strengthens my resolve to address this with our own sons as they come into adolescence and adulthood. We wouldn't want them to create life until they are ready to nurture a family. This is a tragic outcome.
To: Skooz
The little one resides in Heaven now. Let my tears serve as the baby's mermorial.
To: ThinkingMan
Thank you. We are all deeply upset right now. It's been a bad week for all of us, including my niece. We have never dealt with anything like this before.
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posted on
01/31/2003 7:51:45 AM PST
by
Skooz
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To: Skooz
I cannot even begin to imagine your pain. Remember that God has a plan for each of us and it is beyond our abilities to understand His plan. He will carry you and yours through this difficult time if He is allowed to. I will pray for his peace and love to blanket your family.
To: Skooz
I'm so sorry for you and for her, she'll suffer the rest of her life for a bit of convenience. I hope she is able to turn to the mercy of God when she realizes what she has done.
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posted on
01/31/2003 8:12:58 AM PST
by
pbear8
( sed libera nos a malo)
To: Skooz
I'm so sorry, Skooz.
At least you know that you all really tried to save that baby. God bless you for that.
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posted on
01/31/2003 8:14:00 AM PST
by
Artist
To: Skooz
I'm sorry to hear that. Make sure she gets some counseling.
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posted on
01/31/2003 8:14:33 AM PST
by
AppyPappy
(Will Code COBOL For Food)
To: Skooz
I am so sorry, sounds like you did everything you could. I agree with AppyPappy. Some counseling would probably help. Too bad she wouldn't go before the abortion.
I just don't understand the reasoning behind Amanda's saying she would rather have an abortion than give the baby up for adoption. So many good families are waiting and waiting for years to have what she just threw away.
I also hope the boyfirned doesn't dump her now, although with his parents being like that it would probably be a blessing in the long run. We'll keep you all in our prayers. Time will heal - somewhat.
To: Skooz
I am so sorry.
To: Skooz
Skooz--
I've never corresponded with you, but I was so sorry to hear your story. Your pain and fear were palpable, and I hope you received some measure of comfort from your friends here.
Trust that your niece's baby is in a much better place than this world, where she never had a chance.
And trust also that the poor child has already forgiven your niece.
To: Skooz
I'm so very sorry. I pray that God will somehow be able to make some good come from this.
I also hope that young Amanda will be consolable when she and her despicable little "man" separate in a few months.
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posted on
01/31/2003 8:49:45 AM PST
by
r9etb
To: snowstorm12
You disgust me.
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posted on
01/31/2003 8:50:46 AM PST
by
r9etb
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