[Libloather]

"I don't think he should carry on too much about it."

He should get everything back - with interest.

[RightOnline]

That's nothing. There have been numerous cases where men have proven that they weren't the fathers of the children involved.........and have still been socked with child support.

[mhking]

"Hold muh beer 'n watch this!" PING....

If you want on or off this list, please let me know!
This has come about after much badgering by you, my friends and extended family...

[DainBramage]

I've actually thought about what I would do if my kids were to turn out to be
fathered by someone else, and easily decided I would just let it be. In my case
the benefits I have received from them far outweigh the money.

Of course, I have great kids, and 13 years under my belt.

[dennisw]

"partner"? girlfriend? wife?

[Pippin]

This is sick!

It's not the little girl's fault she's not his daughter, so why should she be made to basically regret all the good times she's had with the man she regarded as her father?

[FormerLurker]

At least there he doesn't have to pay child support for a kid that's been proven not to be his. Here, he'd be screwed for at least 18 years...

[End The Hypocrisy]

Agreed. Freepers discussed "paternity fraud" very extensively with a victim, at the following highly popular thread:

http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/news/768909/posts

[muir_redwoods]

There's a little girl imvolved here. From the sound of the parents, the little girl is not the only child involved.

I've raised three daughters and nothing could make me behave like these clods. Biology is important but not paramount. Somebody needs to do some serious growing up.

[VOA]

"I don't think he should carry on too much about it...

Like he really shouldn't be upset at being defrauded, maybe having plenty of
"lost opportunity costs" in case he wanted to move on and maybe get married and
start a more traditional family, not alone mention cause her daughter some distress...

The guy is not totally on the side of the angels. But when the one party that can really
know "who's poppa" decides to play a cheatin' game that involves a third party (the child)...
that's at least morally criminal.

[2timothy3.16]

The price a man pays for being promiscuous. Keep your zipper up and pay only for your own kids, let your zipper down for every two bit harlot on the streets and you'll pay through the nose.

[VOA]

The claims...(big snip)...child support payments.

Hopefully, in the not too distant future, every legal proceeding regarding paternity
will make DNA testing mandatory.
Just so everyone knows the deal at the start of the proceeding...and nobody goes
on for year, decades in a haze of deceit.

[Jaidyn]

Did the mother know the truth all along? If so, I agree with you. I assume the mother could support her daughter without help since she evidently has the means to repay it so wonder what her real reasons for socking it to the man were? Whatever happens, the daughter is not to blame and the man shouldn't be judged for being so angry. In his case, time might heal the wounds and most likely he and the daughter can come to friendly terms. It is the mother, if she knowingly put her daughter and the man in this situation who is at fault. I do know of a similar situation and I am angry at the mother for putting so many people in the middle of what could have been avoided in the beginning had only she been honest. This isn't just about the three reported but families, including the real father and his family. The woman needs punished if this was a deliberate act of deceit.

[Dustbunny]

I'll bet she knew all along that he was not the father.

[Cvengr]

"She had a good time with him that's the main thing,"...she said

The main thing in parenting is frequently the righteous loving guidance during times of discipline and hardship,....not just having a good time.

Perhaps both share mutual liability. A good reason not to promote premarital sex.

[laredo44]

The woman in this story is despicable.

The man in this story is despicable.

[Minutes]

The claims include take-away McDonald's food over five years, four visits to an amusement park, three Barbie dolls, a Pooh Bear play tent, a day of skating....

Get over it buddy. You didn't exactly break the bank for this kid over 5 years, even when you thought she was yours. I've bought more stuff than that for friends kids over 5 years just because I liked the little person and hoped I was giving the child some enjoyment.

Then, what happens? I get mad at the mother and want all my 'Happy Meals' back? My little short person buddy doesn't deserve that oh-so-expensive Barbie Doll, now?

What a loser this guy is

[FITZ]

his former partner

Maybe he should get his money but this woman wasn't his wife, what did he think she was doing? It's not like they were married and made vows to be loyal. She could sue him to be paid for all the sex they had.

[mickie]

In Pa. if the wife has a child, the husband must support the child until 18 even if it isn't his.
A relative (very close) had a visectomy(sp) when a young man.....he loved running around and wanted no children. After several years of marriage they separated for awhile.
She got pregnant......and after he went to his lawyers was informed that Too Bad....he had to pay support.
All ended well as they got back together and the daughter is the love of his life.
I'll never tell!

[TamiPie]

You play, you pay. Maybe if this buffoon stopped messing around with numerous women, this paternity mess wouldn't of happened.

[PeterPrinciple]

"the man, who can't be identified for legal reasons, said. "

tthis is interesting, why would he not be identified? civil suit would be public?