Man Sues After Finding Girl Not His Daughter

Yahoo News ^ | 11/01/02

[Libloather]

Man Sues After Finding Girl Not His Daughter
Fri Nov 1,10:43 AM ET

MELBOURNE (Reuters) - An Australian man is suing his former partner to recover more than $10,000 he spent on a little girl, for things such as presents, zoo trips and meals, after discovering she was not his daughter, a newspaper said on Friday.

"I want it all back -- every cent for every toy, every blanket, every bit of food," the man, who can't be identified for legal reasons, said.

"I wouldn't have spent all that money had I known five years ago she wasn't my kid," he was quoted saying by the Herald-Sun.

The claims include take-away McDonald's food over five years, four visits to an amusement park, three Barbie dolls, a Pooh Bear play tent, a day of skating, and child support payments.

The Herald-Sun said the man took the action after DNA tests found the girl was not his daughter.

The girl's mother said she was willing to repay the child support payments but that she should not have to pay back anything else.

"She had a good time with him that's the main thing," she was quoted as saying. "I don't think he should carry on too much about it. He should treat it like doing something nice with a friend."

[laredo44]

Wow, that is some very profound screwed up logic.

I'm certain that was his point.

[SunnyUsa]

"I've actually thought about what I would do if my kids were to turn out to be fathered by someone else, ..."

This might be due to your "dain" condition ---pondering such thoughts! Is it when they're being really loud a/o misbehaving? (lol)

"....and easily decided I would just let it be"

That's the right attitude!
This is what this guy suing is lacking in his life, maturity and basic compassion, imagine the pain for this little girl?

[FITZ]

his former partner

Maybe he should get his money but this woman wasn't his wife, what did he think she was doing? It's not like they were married and made vows to be loyal. She could sue him to be paid for all the sex they had.

[mickie]

In Pa. if the wife has a child, the husband must support the child until 18 even if it isn't his.
A relative (very close) had a visectomy(sp) when a young man.....he loved running around and wanted no children. After several years of marriage they separated for awhile.
She got pregnant......and after he went to his lawyers was informed that Too Bad....he had to pay support.
All ended well as they got back together and the daughter is the love of his life.
I'll never tell!

[DainBramage]

Is it when they're being really loud a/o misbehaving?

No, it's when my wife comes home on Wednesdays smelling like booze and her blouse unevenly buttoned..

[William Terrell]

Huh? If you steal a car, you are a thief! What about the person who owns the car? Somebody worked to buy it. Your analogy doesn't fit the situation or if it does, please explain it to us.

The poor woman is like the child, the victim of the theft is like the man and the one who stole it from him is like the mother. Fraud is theft because the gaining of someone's property by fraud and deceit is no less than if you took it from him outright. Should stolen property not be returned to the victim because it may cause hardship to the innocent one who ended up with it (the child)?

Let's suppose that you had been conned into giving $10,000 to a confidence man and found that he had turn given it to his starving mother. Would you just forget the whole thing because it went for a worthy cause and would harm the starving mother if it were returned?

The mother didn't con it out of you, and she will abe starving again if you take it back.

[TamiPie]

You play, you pay. Maybe if this buffoon stopped messing around with numerous women, this paternity mess wouldn't of happened.

[PeterPrinciple]

"the man, who can't be identified for legal reasons, said. "

tthis is interesting, why would he not be identified? civil suit would be public?

[William Terrell]

I'm certain that was his point.

No, it wasn't. I used an example that was exactly the same except missing the emotion reflex caused by there being a child involved. If you think my example wasn't the same, would you point out to me where it's not?

[FITZ]

Only the woman's at fault in this one...

It's not like the woman committed to the man in marriage. If there was no committment, why did he assume in the first place the child was his? Five years later he gets the DNA test?

[laredo44]

Actually, the teachings of Christian sexual ethics are now, always have been and always will be a solution.

You misunderstood my post. My point was not whether the guy in the story might not have benefitted had he applied Christian sexual ethics to his relationship. It was that the poster's "holier-than-thou" attitude represents that Christain sexual ethics is the solution. While it may be "a" solution, it isn't "the" solution and implying otherwise adds to the problem.

[William Terrell]

This is what this guy suing is lacking in his life, maturity and basic compassion, imagine the pain for this little girl?

Maybe we should let all con men (and women) go free if there was an innocent child that benefited from the fraud, and would be hurt if the fraud were prosecuted?

[William Terrell]

It's not like they were married and made vows to be loyal. She could sue him to be paid for all the sex they had.

Maybe so, but if that were the case then the money recovered could only be said to have been the fees for prostitution. Are there any states where prostitution is legal?

[BuddhaBoy]

Reading the responses on this thread really bring the point home that men should avoid marrying women and having children with them until attitudes change.

I find it amazing how many people here are willing to excuse outright fraud in the interests of a child, as if somehow a childs life is more valuable than the life of the adult who was defrauded out of his time, money and options.

In this case there was one villian and two victims. The man should be refunded EVERY DIME, no matter how trivial, because his CHOICE was taken from him, and years that he will never get back. Who knows what honest woman might have come into his life while he was busy taking care of another man's offspring?

His motives should not be questioned, it really is like asking a rape victim whether or not she should have worn a sexy dress. It just goes to prove that some women, liberal or conservative, are willing to devalue a man's life over the interests of someone else.

Men have to be nuts to consider marrying and having children with a woman these days, when there is a 1 in 10 chance that the children he is raising are not his own.

[laredo44]

I agree totally with your analogy. The poster accused you of twisted logic and I agreed. I felt you were using twisted logic to expose twisted logic. Not that you employed twisted logic out of your own irrationality.

[razorback-bert]

saying that fraud is not as bad as outright theft?

Is this a Martha Steward Enron question?

[Freeper 007]

the right of the kid (who in any event has done nothing wrong) to a family.

There is no such right.

[BuddhaBoy]

You play, you pay. Maybe if this buffoon stopped messing around with numerous women, this paternity mess wouldn't of happened.

Every man should understand that this incredibly stupid statement is the default position of women who think fraud and theft is warrented and justified simply by a man daring to have sex with a woman.

Your crazy attitude is the very reason why men should start avoiding commitment like the plague. Thank you for the clear example of what men face from brainwashed women.

[William Terrell]

Thanks for the clarification. I get lots of flames from people who would see the entire basis of the law that made our civilization great tossed out if any child is involved. In my opinion, this "it's for the children" principle is going to accompany our culture to the trash heap of history.

[Freeper 007]

He's letting his anger at the woman's duplicity govern his feelings towards the daughter who is an innocent bystander in this and is too young to understand what is happening.

He doesn't have a daughter.