Posted on 10/22/2002 11:24:51 AM PDT by shrinkermd
Another winner in the insightfulness column. Women always complained of inequality; that the male had all the power and control and that women were little more than slaves in the relationship. They did not understand that as women, they held all the power. They were 'the fair sex', the gentle, caring, compassionate and giving half of the arrangement, and privided a softness that was critical to the mix, for something that is formed in such a manner that there is only hardness in the mix is so hard it is brittle, and shatters rather easily. They forgot that they literally held a man's life in her hands when he commited to her, for he was giving her control of his life: his children.
A man does not of his own volition strive all his life merely to attain self-gratification as an end -at least, not once some maturity sets in. A man works to put food on the table, provide shelter, protect, and all in all be the shield, sword, and armour for the family!
He is trusting the female to raise and nurture the children in leiu of himself, who must be out there working to bring to the home those things they need to succeed in surviving. Women are the true power, for they are entrusted with bringing forth the next generation.
Yeh, well, in that situation it went in one ear and out the other. I got to spend time with the little one because of that one -and it backfired on the mom, since it got to the point where the baby would fret most of the day, and only quiet down and start smiling when I arrived at home. LOL!!
Hmmm. I think My previous post just before this one presents My position a bit better, and does not quite align with your postulations, unfortunately. Still, perhaps it is merely a matter of perception. Let Me respond to some mail first, and then I will attempt to address your posting more attentively. Perhaps there is hope for you yet. :)
I disagree with both of those statements. The "failed system of patriarchy" is nothing of the sort. Look all over the world and you will find by far the vast majority of the populace lives within a patriarchy. Does this truly equate to a failure to you?
If you are referring to the current situation in this country, it came about not because of a 'failure of the patriarchy', but because the males in the generation of the NOW nags buckled to their complaints. The results are a continual decline in the numbers of the normal nuclear family, and an increasing number of children raised in a single-parent family. The resulting lack of valid role-models and valid instruction in acceptable societal behaviours in the affected generations are producing ever-increasing numbers of individuals whose only concern is for themselves, and view the opposite sex as little more than competition or potential victims. An attitude directly attributable to the active alienation and hostility the custodial parent invariably displays towards the absent one. This is the only thing the children see, and thus they learn to act in only that manner as they gather in the years.
As for the "equality of honor to both the female's role as well as the male's", males have always honored the female of the species, for the reasons I expressed in My previous posting on this matter.
In this we are in agreement. However, in harmony with the theme running throughout this thread, women must understand that they have only themselves to blame for so many males feeling it necessary to insist upon the female's signature on a legal document essentially stating that they will not attempt to gut him if the marriage fails. And they get offended?
That being said, those PNA's are only valid until too many males are using them, and the lawyers decide that they are losing money on the deal. Once that happens, the courts will begin invalidating them on a systematic basis, most judges being attorneys or ex-attorneys themselves.
*Sigh* If I actually believed that was going to happen, I would be much more enthusiastic about the prospect of matrimony. Unfortunately, it has not been My experience that women are willing to relinquish such a power; the lure of it is too strong.
Referring back to My previous post where I remenisced upon My experiences in a "FAMILY COURT", I rarely, rarely saw a woman who expressed any reluctance to do so. I really dislike mentioning it, but I too have an 'ex' who literally took everything from Me. I count Myself fortunate, however. She put the poor sod who came after Me as the next in a relationship with her in jail. I could see it happening from afar, and wanted to warn him, but he believed her rants concerning Me so...
In a little cell he sits.
So true. And they never change. I believe I am one of those 'nice guys', but I am at a stage in My life where the prospect of matrimony is a tentative goal at best, and selectivity and the need to make a decision of quality are paramount in that matter. I find, however, that those women with whom I most pointedly (but in a gentlemanly manner) mention other women I associate with, and am less than certain to show up where they invite Me (those times where they corner Me into responding that I might show up) are the ones who keep going out of their way to come by, or stop Me on the street, or offer cookies or brownies or perhaps a place to sleep...
Bother! I mean I like women, but the more I hint to them I am not interested the more interested they become. Where can a poor mate like Me find a nice, conservative, homekeeper-type lass to settle down with? Someone who believes in the traditional values, to spend a quiet evening at home simply talking about life, and friends and family?
A foreign country. Though you would do well to recognize bringing her back here would open her to the same infection the indigenous women suffer from...unless she also happens to be VERY well educated.
Personally, I find that mindset just as offensive. My problem is the female mindset that assumes males are suppose to do or perform anything the woman wants done, but doesn't want to do herself. That, and the assumption that she gets to dictate what is "enough." (i.e. wants help with housework, but also wants to say what's clean enough.) You can ask me for help, or you can tell me what you want done...you can't have both.
I can live without a woman, and I don't want a woman who can't live without me.
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