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Socialization schmocialization: These teens tell it like it is
Enter Stage Right ^ | July 15, 2002 | Isabel Lyman

Posted on 07/18/2002 10:50:21 AM PDT by gordgekko

"School's out for summer," sang Alice Cooper, the shock-rocker. "School's out forever."

In the case of teenagers who are homeschooled, the latter statement is certainly true.

Meet four of them - three from Massachusetts and one from Oklahoma - who are among the growing number of American teens who have exchanged the dog-eat-dog world of high school and middle school to pursue academic excellence, entrepreneurial endeavors, travel, quality time with their families, and their dreams.

Here's how the four fared this past year.

Eighteen-year-old Naomi Haqq of Belchertown, Massachusetts is the kind of young woman that would make many parents proud.

She has strong moral convictions, is employed as a hotel front-desk clerk, and is following in her mother's footsteps by studying nursing. At age 16, she was accepted into the University of Massachusetts' (Amherst) dual-enrollment program and has accrued over thirty credits and earned a 3.69 grade point average.

Naomi's work ethic and faith were cultivated during the time she and her three younger siblings were schooled at home by her parents. While she holds to a philosophy that "homeschooling isn't for lazy people," she agrees that one of the advantages of the lifestyle is that it offers teenagers the flexibility to make their own schedule.

That flexibility, in fact, has tremendous appeal to Wid III, my number two son, who is sixteen.

This school year, Wid spent his mornings studying biology, grammar, Algebra II, and American literature with his father, Wid II. He often devoted his afternoons to snowboarding, motocross, ice hockey, or paintball. Some of his other extra-curricular experiences, however, have a more educational bent.

He helped a group of veterans hang up American flags in downtown Amherst, Massachusetts on 9-11-01. Wid has worked on a roofing crew and pumps gas at a service station. Twice he has driven cross-country with his dad visiting places such as Niagara Falls, the UP of Michigan, and Jackson Hole, Wyoming.

Naomi Haqq's learning experiences have had an international bent. As she did at age 14, she accompanied her father (Emmanuel Haqq) on a trip to India, where he engaged college-aged students in debates about science and Christianity. The endeavor fits his background; Dr. Haqq, a pastor, is a native of India with a doctorate in high energy physics from the University of Minnesota. On this trip, father and daughter also vacationed in Italy for a week.

During her high school years, Naomi attended youth group meetings, worked at a college dining hall, and played piano, but she didn't dance at a prom. Does she feel that she missed out on an adolescent rite of passage? Not really. "I went through a time when I wished I had more friends," Naomi admits. "But I played on a (public school) soccer team during my sophomore year and found the kids to be snobby and cliquish, even though I had been playing with many of them since seventh grade. Everybody seems to be the same in high school."

Wid would concur with that statement. This year, he had the opportunity to participate simultaneously on two sports teams in Bozeman, Montana. He was on a high school ice hockey team of which all his teammates attended public school, and he also participated on a high school basketball team of which all his teammates were homeschooled.

Of the compare-and-contrast experience he had this to say: "I liked hockey more because I am better at it, and my teammates were appreciative of my skills. But I prefer being with the basketball people, because I had more in common with them. They had cleaner language and more trustworthy behavior. The basketball team never had to apologize to any hotel staff." (This last statement is a reference to an episode in which several of his fellow skaters, attending an away game, threw plastic containers of cream into a hotel's swimming pool.)

Several of Wid's basketball teammates from Montana visited Massachusetts this summer. The homeschoolers attended a basketball camp with him at Amherst College and went deep-sea fishing in New Hampshire.

Miriam Anzovin, 17, is a self-motivated homeschooled student who also has a strong opinion about the negative encounters that pass as "socialization" in most modern schools. She has been a homeschooler for three years and previously attended both private and public schools. She lives in Amherst, Massachusetts.

"The mindless self-interest of some teenagers I've met, who attend high school, certainly does not make me want to go back. I found that when I was in school the cliques and social hierarchy bring out the worst in people. When I left school, it was as if somebody had yelled 'wake up already' at me. The things that get in the way of getting an education, like dating and parent bashing, were gone," notes Miriam.

Miriam is the middle child in a close-knit Jewish family. Her older brother, Raf Anzovin, who was also homeschooled, founded a computer animation studio during his teen years. In addition to applying herself to traditional high school subjects like biology and literature, Miriam is a serious student of Hebrew and Judaic studies.

"Homeschooling also allowed me to practice my religion unimpeded by school rules and ignorant faculty members," she says.

She is learning Filipino martial arts and American kenpo karate, and plans to begin training in Krav Maga, the Israeli system of self-defense. Miriam would like to become Hollywood's first "Orthodox Jewish fight choreographer." She directed, edited, and starred in "Sisters of Fury," a short action film in which two warriors battle for a priceless artifact, and is currently at work on a second film. Miriam's older brother, Raf Anzovin, founded a computer animation studio when he was sixteen years old and counts Apple Computer among his clients.

Kyle Williams, age 13, resides in Guthrie, Oklahoma. He is a political columnist for WorldNetDaily, an Internet news site. His weekly commentary is titled "Veritas." He has written about the issue of socialization and made this observation: "Maybe if public schools learned from homeschoolers and focused less on socializing in class and focused more on learning, the average test score for public school students might be greater than 50 percent."

Kyle is the third of three children and is taught by his mother, Debbie Williams. This year, he began his lessons around 8:30 a.m. and studied constitutional law, earth science, economics, pre-algebra, grammar, and composition. The afternoons were spent playing sports, going to church activities, and catching up on current events.

"I was dying to get published in print or on a popular web site. I e-mailed my stuff to (editor) Joseph Farah with no expectations of being a columnist. But we talked for several days, and then I talked with the commentary editor. The rest is history," explains Kyle of how he became the site's youngest writer.

In addition to penning opinions, Kyle recently signed his first book contract with Thomas Nelson Publishers and WorldNetDaily. His topic? The culture wars.

Kyle, who traveled to Washington, D.C. last year to deliver a speech before the National Press Club, thinks that homeschooling has broadened him as a person. "I'm able to communicate better with adults and children, learn necessary life skills, and become closer to my family." He says that apart from the responsibility of "having to cook my own lunch," he is quite content to learn at home. His future goals include attending law school after he earns a degree in journalism.

No doubt about it. These homeschooled teens are gung-ho about what they are doing, and, come fall, poised for another round of adventures in education. They are also preparing themselves, early in life, for adulthood. As Miriam puts it, "I think that high school just puts off the inevitable in terms of organizing your life, being responsible, and learning how to be self-directed."

Isabel Lyman, author of The Homeschooling Revolution, can be reached at ilyman7449@aol.com. She lives in western Massachusetts.


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Editorial
KEYWORDS: education; homeschooling; homeschoollist; kylewilliams; teens
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1 posted on 07/18/2002 10:50:21 AM PDT by gordgekko
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To: gordgekko
Naomi Haqq's learning experiences have had an international bent. As she did at age 14, she accompanied her father (Emmanuel Haqq) on a trip to India, where he engaged college-aged students in debates about science and Christianity. The endeavor fits his background; Dr. Haqq, a pastor, is a native of India with a doctorate in high energy physics from the University of Minnesota. On this trip, father and daughter also vacationed in Italy for a week.
An example of how even newer Americans can represent everything that's right about this Nation. Let's just hope Naomi and her father don't fly on any planes with TIPS-program wannabes like the Indian actors did the other day.

-Eric

2 posted on 07/18/2002 10:54:33 AM PDT by E Rocc
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To: gordgekko
Here's one for ya - here in Nashville, parents who homeschool their kids must, nonetheless, present the Metro Schools with VACCINATION CERTIFICATES, despite the fact that these homeschoolers will never darken the door of any Metro School. In today's Tennessean.

Michael

3 posted on 07/18/2002 10:55:36 AM PDT by Wright is right!
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To: E Rocc
Hooray for all of them. Hooray for being an achiever instead of a loser.
4 posted on 07/18/2002 10:58:55 AM PDT by Skwidd
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To: Skwidd
I don't think I would go hoorah for all of them. I think the kids at waco were more or less home schooled. Not only that, they were home schooled with religion, maybe not the best religion, but a type of religion.
5 posted on 07/18/2002 11:05:33 AM PDT by staytrue
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To: staytrue
Yeah, but it looks like it was done right in this case. Believe me, I've seen the fundy-religious wacko home-schooled, and it shows in their every action.

At any rate, it is up to you to teach your younger relatives (children, nieces and nephews, etc.) what they really need to know, because they aren't going to learn it in the crap-spew that is the public school system.

6 posted on 07/18/2002 11:29:32 AM PDT by Skwidd
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To: gordgekko
I remember waaaaaay back in college, a psychology professor telling the class we should expect more studies comming out which espouse the notion that day care was good for children for socialization. His opinion was that this defied common sense and was geared toward encouraging more women to dump children "somewhere" and join the workforce. (i did say this was waaaaaaay back). I think the current home school movement has the right idea.

I also am shocked that teachers are not trying to "reverse engineer" what is right with what is being done for these kids. They obviously have no social suffering, communicate on a higher level than their peers, (no surprise if you are always around adults) and are not missing out on being a kid.

So, if a parent with the lack of a multi billion dollar budget and without three administrator to guide them can out perform public schools. What are public schools going to do with the competition?

Taken to a ridiculous extreme, would an employer favor a home schooled candidate vs a public school candidate? (here is a hint: the homeschooler will have better people skills)
7 posted on 07/18/2002 11:33:57 AM PDT by Greeklawyer
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To: *Homeschool_list
Index Bump
8 posted on 07/18/2002 11:37:32 AM PDT by Free the USA
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To: gordgekko
Miriam is a bright girl to learn Krav Maga. Now if any punk pulls out a knife or even possibly a gun on her she can disarm him. It is a very good, common sense, type of self defense.
9 posted on 07/18/2002 11:37:33 AM PDT by ChicagoRepublican
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To: gordgekko
Good thing my wife is an educator...hopefully our child will not fall in with the UN-ification of the other children.

10 posted on 07/18/2002 11:43:38 AM PDT by MD_Willington_1976
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To: SpookBrat; Brad's Gramma; 2Jedismom
ping and SHAMELESS HOMESCHOOL BUMP
11 posted on 07/18/2002 11:45:50 AM PDT by homeschool mama
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To: Greeklawyer
I remember waaaaaay back in college, a psychology professor telling the class we should expect more studies comming out which espouse the notion that day care was good for children for socialization.

It must've been way back, because from what I hear it would be well-nigh impossible for anyone with those views to get a job in a psychology dept. today.

12 posted on 07/18/2002 11:46:13 AM PDT by untenured
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To: untenured
1. Yes, waaay back
2. He had tenure
3. It was not an introductory class and was relativly small. He was offended by the politicizing of scientific experiments. But that is for another day. You are right about anyone who openly is non leftist.
13 posted on 07/18/2002 11:50:13 AM PDT by Greeklawyer
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To: E Rocc
Let's just hope Naomi and her father don't fly on any planes with TIPS-program wannabes like the Indian actors did the other day.

Hey, those people were, like, suspiciously reading and writing, and stuff! Plus this girl's dad has a Ph.D. in "high energy physics" which makes me think of nuke-you-lar bombs because I'm a friggin' moron. So I think these swarthy people need to be rounded up, beaten, questioned and returned to wherever they come from! (/idiocy)

14 posted on 07/18/2002 11:51:33 AM PDT by Sloth
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To: gordgekko

No doubt about it. These homeschooled teens are gung-ho about what they are doing, and, come fall, poised for another round of adventures in education. They are also preparing themselves, early in life, for adulthood. As Miriam puts it, "I think that high school just puts off the inevitable in terms of organizing your life, being responsible, and learning how to be self-directed."

The government facilitates that with public schools and the end result is worse than just putting of organizing ones life. It weakens people to indoctrinated mush which makes it easy to lead them around. The market creates the textbooks to suit the government and they overflow into the private schools as does the general curriculum.

15 posted on 07/18/2002 12:37:20 PM PDT by Zon
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To: gordgekko
I attended public school, but I consider myself to have been home-schooled. I reguarly zoned out during lectures at school, and did all my learning on my own. I wish I had been home-schooled from the beginning. Then I might have been able to leverage my genetic gifts better (music, writing, mathematics, and logical ability). Instead I felt frozen out socially because I refused to dumb myself down to fit in.

Even in the gifted program I was enrolled in, I felt like an outsider. The other students in the gifted program were elitist, whereas I felt that my innate intelligence was merely an attribute, and that how one uses what one is given in life is the true measure of success and worth. As a result, I was ostracized by my supposed peers. It's always been a mystery to me why smart and/or so-called good-looking people consider themselves better than others. Maybe that's a sign that I was raised right.

I may as well have been home-schooled, because the only lesson I learned from public school were how much I hated public school.

16 posted on 07/18/2002 12:42:38 PM PDT by TrappedInLiberalHell
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To: TrappedInLiberalHell
That should read 'was' in the last line. I was originally going to list multiple reasons, thus the apparent subject-verb disagreement. I hate seeing mistakes in my own writing, and am quick to jump on them before someone else does.
17 posted on 07/18/2002 12:45:53 PM PDT by TrappedInLiberalHell
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To: Skwidd
Thank GOD!
18 posted on 07/18/2002 12:50:30 PM PDT by Khepera
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To: christine11
ping
19 posted on 07/18/2002 12:59:23 PM PDT by Kwilliams
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To: Lizavetta; wasp69; cantfindagoodscreenname; BallandPowder; wyopa; joathome; Momto2; RipeforTruth; ..
Bump and ping!
20 posted on 07/18/2002 1:00:53 PM PDT by 2Jedismom
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