How would you answer the IRKSOME Q: "So when are you getting married??"

me | 21 Nov 2001 | me

[k2blader]

"So when are you getting married???"

Recently, I've been hit with this IRKSOME Q three times over two consecutive days. I'm not even engaged yet!!

Wondering if any of you have suggestions on how to answer?

Many Thanks. :)

[ahariail]

You might want to try: As soon as they legalize same sex marriage.

It might not be true, but I guarantee you it will shut them up

[rebdov]

Make a very serious face and say: I am waiting for world peace.

[Khepera]

I know I'm stupid but what does Vermont and Hawaii have to do with it?

I think a good response would be. (and you can quote me on this) "I don't know"

[Phantom Lord]

Same Sex Marriages

[Dust in the Wind]

1 Cor 7:27 Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.

Neither may fit your circumstance, but . . .

[mdwakeup]

I find that the following works very well for almost any irksome question: "Why do you ask?"

[Victoria Delsoul]

LOL!!

[Maceman]

Just say: "Marriage is so-o-o-o bourgeois."

[CaptRon]

Been there, done that, she got the t-shirt.

[Bob Buchholz]

"Soon's I figger out which one is the father."

[FourPeas]

Hmmmm, how about:

I'll make sure I let you know, when and if I decide to.

~or~

So, when are you getting your nose done?

~or~

Why do you ask?

~or~

I can't imagine why you'd say such a rude thing.

~or~

Yes, it is a lovely day.

HTH

FP

[JHENN22499]

My favorite response was: "When are you going to lose that extra weight?" That usually ends it!

[null and void]

WHAT!?!?!!?

And ruin a perfectly good relationship???

(WORST kid name, for a boy, Bruthie...)

[mlocher]

answer to irksome question

if you are dating someone, in the 'in-your-face' spirit of this web site, i would tell them exactly how you feel about their question, with appropriate portions of tact.

if you are living together -- i suggest that the reason the question is irksome is because you are feeling guilt. in this case the situation is under your control

if you already married and you reveal this fact, prepare yourself for the question, "when are you going to have kids"

[Phantom Lord]

if you already married and you reveal this fact, prepare yourself for the question, "when are you going to have kids"

See my post #30

[mlocher]

LOL!!!

i wish i had seen this post 15 years ago!

[ArGee]

Wondering if any of you have suggestions on how to answer?

That depends on whether you want to maintain a friendship with the person asking the question. If you don't care, answer "When they change the stupid laws around here so I can marry my sister." That should shut up anybody within earshot. If it a friend you might just try, "Are you suggesting that a person isn't complete if he is single?"

Substitute genders as appropriate.

Shalom.

[Khepera]

Ewwwwwwwww

Marriage is a Holy institution and what you are suggesting would be blasphemy. I spit that out.

[ArGee]

This is just the beginning. There is always a question. After 16 1/2 years of marriage, I'm still getting asked on almost a daily basis, "When are you going to have children?"

That one's almost too easy.

"I don't believe people should have children until they are mature enough to raise them.

Shalom.

[Humidston]

I can't give you an answer you haven't already heard, but I do have a great retort for someone who keeps bugging childless couples to have a baby...

My friend (female) is a married lawyer with no children. Mother in Law kept bugging her about getting pg.... Finally one day my friend looked her dead in the eye and responded, "Your son has a little problem that we're trying to get worked out."

Mother in Law never brought the subject up again, LOL!