Posted on 07/11/2025 4:38:34 PM PDT by E. Pluribus Unum
And how to bring them back.
In a recent New York Times article titled, “Men, Where Have You Gone? Please Come Back,” Rachel Drucker laments what she calls “a collective shift” in men, a “slow vanishing of presence.” So many single men, she writes, aren’t “sitting across from someone on a Saturday night, trying to connect.” Instead, they “have retreated from intimacy, hiding behind firewalls, filters and curated personas, dabbling and scrolling.” She adds, “We miss you.”
Ms. Drucker – a single, 54-year-old Chicagoan – hints that pornography is at least partly to blame for this state of affairs. She mentions that she herself spent years working in that field as the custodian of records for Playboy and its affiliated hardcore properties. She worked closely with marketing teams to understand “what cues tempt the average 18-to-36-year-old cis heterosexual man. What drew him in. What kept him coming back.” She learned that it wasn’t intimacy or mutuality, but “access to simulation.”
Now many men, she believes, have “quietly withdrawn from intimacy and vulnerability” into “indifference.” The sexes have moved, she observes, into an era when traditional courting has devolved into “directionless orbiting,” “men circling intimacy but never entering it… ‘seeing where it goes’ without ever going anywhere.” She even mourns the “unscripted contact” of one-night stands.
She concludes by pleading men, “You can still come back. We’re still here, those of us who are willing to cocreate something true… And we haven’t stopped hoping.”
The male retreat from the courting dance of days past is a tragedy, but so is Ms. Drucker’s obliviousness to the reasons for it. Yes, pornography is a huge factor; the ubiquitous availability of the most explicit imagery imaginable (and even unimaginable) to anyone with an internet connection is a terrible scourge in our society – and not...
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This topic has been talked to death.
Many men and women still find each other, court, marry and have families. Go to church, is where to find one.
Excellent advice, all around. Esp. the vocal suggestion. A sweet, feminine voice will draw me in faster than anything else. Rising inflection, with a vocal-fry tossed in? RUN!
Rather than “cis”, I suggest they use the term “normal”.
I have asked this over and over again. I have asked several feminists - including several in my family - if they would support a man's right to choose. That is, to legally sign away all paternal rights and responsibilities beyond half the cost of an abortion - in the name of equality.
I have yet to find a single feminist who would support a man's right to choose. Their answer is invariably a version of "he had a choice....to keep it in his pants"....yet they then get offended when I say "OK then she had a choice...to keep her knees in the same time zone".
Feminists claimed to support equality. They were lying. Their sole motivation was self interest. There is no higher principle (such as equality) that they subscribe to. There is no other conclusion.
Are you talking about the 10 percent of men that are sleeping with all of the women that are just giving it up? Those guys who are being shared among all those women?
They are taking advantage of what is on offer. Those male whores are fully aware that marriage today has literally zero advantages for men.
They are taking the path of least resistance until that path is no longer available or they end up boinking a woman willing to do whatever it takes to exact revenge.
I don’t ever have meetings with women without a recording or without someone else in the room. Accountability in women. Unless it returns or manifests itself the world is in serious trouble.
She’s right per crime and stupidity records 18-to-36-year-olds are the most dangetous.
Most of them age but never mature.
ER files stacked
“Go to church, is where to find one.”
That’s where I met my wife. We will be celebrating 30 years of marriage later this year.
Agreed. And I don’t get wearing jeans with worn-out areas. Who pays money for THAT?
Due to changes in the laws, even *that* isn’t going to be enough for a lot of men.
Not supported by government stats. The British recently found out that modern women are three times more likely to cheat than men.
That would be my 13-yearold teen granddaughter. Family staying at our home last week, on vacation from Iowa. She wore jeans with a large hole at a knee. Told her it matched my work jeans with a hole at the knee, from working in the garden digging. But she bought hers that way. My wife gets on my case for wearing worn-out clothing, says we can afford new ones, but I don't waste hard-earned money. However, I won't wear them in public!
Absolutely!
That wasn’t my point. I know that, unfortunately, many women commit adultery.
I was just objecting to the old double standard of calling women “whores” whilst praising men who are promiscuous.
You are very wise to refuse to be alone with a woman without a witness. Sadly, there are some demented women who make false accusations against men. I abhor those women.
I was just objecting to the old double standard by calling women “whores”, whilst praising promiscuous men.
I agree with your post.
What about when a man reaches fourty and realizes that he has “hit the wall”?
Elderly men are NOT attractive, despite some male FReepers claims. Men have a “sell by date”.
Sorry, but your quote about “keys” is disturbing because I have heard Muslim men utter that sexist quote. Do you want to sound like a Muslim male??
I agree that promiscuity isn’t attractive for women. But, promiscuity in a male also unattractive. One could use that Muslim “key” analogy for men.
I’m far from bitter. I’m fifty-four and people tell me I look much younger. Maybe it’s because I’m so petite.
Anyway, I’m fine with being single. I have a disabled elderly mother whom I care for and that takes up much of my time.
Have a nice weekend.
As I stated in my original post, I am not a feminist.I hate what leftism and radical feminism has done to American families.
What’s wrong with objecting to the childish and ridiculous double standards. Women are supposed to be pure, naive little virgins while men can sleep with the entire world, correct? Sounds like the Muslim mindset for which you are advocating.
Promiscuity is bad for women AND men. Women don’t want a man who has been whoring himself out to every woman he meets.
Sorry, but you will NEVER see me in a burqa, nor will I be in a polygamous “marriage”.
“””””What’s wrong with objecting to the childish and ridiculous double standards. Women are supposed to be pure, naive little virgins while men can sleep with the entire world, correct?”””””
And there it is again, the most damaging feminist lie of all.
“”””But, promiscuity in a male also unattractive.””””
Actually a man who is good with the ladies is admired by the ladies and the gentlemen both, and always has been.
A female who puts out easily is looked down upon by both the ladies and the gentlemen.
Plenty of women find his wallet handsome.
A farmer that seeds many fields is a successful farmer. A field that gets seeded by many farmers will not produce anything of value to any of the farmers.
The average male will produce roughly 525 billion sperm cells over a lifetime and shed at least one billion of them per month. A healthy adult male can release between 40 million and 1.2 billion sperm cells in a single ejaculation. Men produce sperm for their lifetime.
A woman has 300,000 to 500,000 eggs at puberty and will not regenerate any. By the time she reaches age 37, she has 27,000 or so eggs remaining.
It is what it is. Anyone's agreement or disagreement with it doesn't change reality.
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