Posted on 12/13/2023 6:14:15 AM PST by Rummyfan
A woman said she felt “betrayed by feminism” after deciding she wanted to settle down, have a family and a husband as she approached 39th birthday. At one point during the interview with Fox News Digital, she broke down crying describing how she feared she would end up alone and childless.
Melissa Persling recently wrote an essay for Business Insider titled, “I’m 38 and single, and I recently realized I want a child. I’m terrified I’ve missed my opportunity.” She said after it went viral in November, hate began to pour in from men telling her that she’s lived a selfish life. Persling has a much different account of her story.
When Persling was 22, she married a traditional man and moved to a rural community in Coeur d’Alene, Idaho, where she grew up.
“He wanted a simple life with children and home-cooked meals,” she said. However, Persling – despite coming from a religious Christian background – made it clear to her husband-to-be that she did not want children.
“At that time I felt very strongly I did not want children, that I wasn’t going to be like the traditional housewife. I knew I did want to pursue a career,” she told Fox News Digital in an interview. “And I felt very strongly that that would never change. And I guess I was wrong.”
Persling said both her and her ex thought that love could conquer everything, but after 10 years, it was clear their differences in life goals were irreconcilable. Persling said she became resentful when he would ask for dinner or for his laundry to be done.
“I did little to hide my disdain for our small-town life. He was a good and hardworking man, but I don’t think I made him feel that way,” she said.
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Not all of them. If you want to know why Russian men are so busy drinking themselves to death, marry a Russian woman
LOL
“I feel like I’m in such a different place now. And I’m so ready for that now. I understand what the sacrifice of marriage is and what the beauty of marriage is now, and I don’t think I appreciated what family means for a long time. I don’t think I truly understood,” she said during the interview. “I don’t care if I ever put on heels and go to a fancy dinner again. That stuff does not matter. I promise you young women it will never make you happy.”
*** I’ve seen this often with Baby Boomer women. What they said they really wanted was a man who would work all day and then come home and share the household chores. They on the other hand wanted to have their careers and not be bothered with kids. After a while, when they are in their late 20’s or early 30’s, they get tired of their ‘house husband’ equal partner and file for divorce so they can have some space to pursue their careers and grow as a person. Then after polishing the resume’ and dating around as the clock ticks, they come to the realization that they are looking at a long, lonely life as they near 40. They have no husband, no kids, and many of their old friends and partying buddies do have these things and are therefore not really compatible anymore. They realize they were sold a bill of goods by the feminists, and they get angry and sad. Those women are now in their 60’s-70’s. ***
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I don’t doubt that they’re out there, but I don’t know a single solitary woman who fits this description. Anyone who is without a man at this age is either widowed, or has kids and her husband divorced her looking for a younger piece of meat.
I will admit to being particularly blessed to not know any such as you have described. Perhaps because of my life choices of marriage and family first, I tend to hang around those with similar values.
Which one of us hasn’t screwed up at some point in our lives and made some bad choices?
She sounds like she learned her lesson, so I wish her well.
“Young men: Go abroad.”
That mindset makes me ill. Each time one of those unions occurs, America is weakened. There’s a reason God warned against marrying “strange” (foreign) wives. The wives have great influence over the husband and household.
Cultural fundamentals are different. Children are confused. One bad apple DOES spoil the bunch. This kind of diversity has put this country in its death throes.
Of course if a guy’s sole goal is to find a woman to dominate (and it sound like that’s the case), by all means, he should “go abroad” . And live THERE. Change his citizenship. America is too important to dilute with “strange” spouses — husbands or wives.
“ No sympathy from me. She made her bed (as they say).”
Nothing wrong with some empathy for someone who has changed and realize they were wrong .
She can warn others .
>>>That mindset makes me ill. Each time one of those unions occurs, America is weakened. There’s a reason God warned against marrying “strange” (foreign) wives. The wives have great influence over the husband and household.<<<
America is already fooked. Look at what has happened since Roe V Wade was overturned. Ballot initiatives in purple or red states show majorities for killing babies. Couple that with gay marriage, divorce culture, hookup culture and other acceptance of various evils clearly shows to me that God’s wrath will inevitably be poured out on our country.
There is nothing to save. Enjoy the decline until you can’t is about the best anyone can do. And please don’t tell me to suck it up and get an American wife. I myself got a woman from the Philippines. it’s a Christian country so I’m not exactly sure what strange influence she has over me. It’s a simple fact that a guy can go abroad and get himself a pretty woman who will treat him well. And if you’re an older guy, wow it’s an even better deal. 50 year old men with 25 year old women is pretty routine. Ofc that assumes a 50 year old man wants to start a family at his age!
They still are in other cultures.
In China they're called Sheng nu 剩女 - leftover women.
In Japan a term is used for "Christmas Cake" because after the 25th it loses most of it's value. There's apparently the much harsher term for unmarried Japanese women over 30.
In parts of France they still celebrate on November 25th for "Saint Catherine". Women 25 years old or older and not being married are called "the Catherinettes" and people would pray 'for them finding a husband'. According to tradition, an unmarried woman under 25 may pray: “Give me, Lord, a well-placed husband. Let him be gentle, rich, generous and agreeable!” Once over the age of 25, they would say: “Lord, one who is bearable, or who can at least pass as bearable among others.” As they neared 30, they would pray: “Send who you like Lord, and I will be happy!”
I get it. A pretty, younger woman on your arm is more important than America. You kind of prove my point.
You haven't been watching the torrent of videos on TikTok where women describe how they left their husband, divorce-raped him in court, and are now "boss babes". A few weeks after the same women's early videos, they're back posting about the guys they thought they were monkey-branching up to turned out to be players using them for sex and now they're alone.
The worst thing that Modern Feminism could have done for women was to allow them to reveal their true nature.
Feminism was always about promoting Communism and destroying families.
We're witnessing the worldwide consequence of it that will span several generations.
Kudos to the woman in the video for sharing her revelation but the real question is "what is she going to do now to make sure younger women know how bad they're being lied to?" or is she going to turn so bitter that she'll lead younger women down the same path?
Yeah, the story does sort of read like the BB, doesn’t it.
Humans have biological bodies that they inhabit while navigating a world shaped and, increasingly, reshaped by human cultural activities. Biology is not (necessarily) destiny, to modify the old feminist war cry. But, biology is in the background of each person as they make individual life choices. Early on, it is not quite a zero sum game. Limited “do over’s” are possible but the time lost is unrecoverable. Later, you reach a point in your lifecycle where too late a start makes even a good, determined effort of diminished value/worth/benefit or, perhaps, not worth doing at all.
Depending on her specific reproductive status, biological children are not beyond the realm of possibility…yet.
My daughters are Millennials, both in their very early forties just now (2023). In 2020, we had no grandchildren. Now we have three. All normal and healthy. $$$$.
They both are very happy finally to be mothers. For one, it was ten years of trying before finally succeeding. For the other, it was career building at first and then, as she transited her 30s, finding the pool of marriageable men becoming smaller and smaller.
But being mothers so late in the biological cycle has costs that feminist sloganeering cannot negate. What they cannot get back is the natural energy and rapid recovery that younger mothers (20s and 30s) have. So, the infant/toddler stage - even with help from parents and friends - is proving to be pretty wearing. They both are looking forward to when their children start school full time.
If you don't get complaints about your cleaning skills from your dog, you're fine.
“independent woman, you do not need a man”
There are so many issues there—but one that gets my attention is women who live in dangerous urban areas and are out alone at night.
They might as well be playing Russian roulette.
You’re so right. I don’t watch TikTok videos at all. Nor Instagram, nor Facebook, nor whatever format of social media is prominent these days. I can’t imagine spending my time that way. There’s too much to do in my little life, especially at this time of year. Off to wrap a few more gifts and get them over to the post office.
Because like, parties, drinking, that’s where it’s at.....
I was never into parties or drinking, but in my experience being a traditional woman isn't the man magnet some on here think it is. Many (not all) American men say they want a tradwife who will stay home, but then call her a gold-digger when she does just that. They say they want a woman who dresses modestly and doesn't wear much makeup, but then chase the hard-partying clubbing types. Maybe after a few decades of this they decide they're ready to settle down, but by then their best years are behind them. They don't want to date a fat woman (which is a legitimate preference grounded in biology), but they themselves have a belly by 30. God forbid a woman want a man who is fitter than she is, the biological norm until the last few decades.
Ultimately I gave up on trying to figure out what American men want. They are enigma to me. Luckily Asian men don't give out these mixed messages.
Duped by her own failures
It is a biological fact that the female of the species has a expiration date as regards sexuality and sexual attractiveness.
Only the female of the species? I can't say I've seen too many male models with wrinkles, gray hair, and dad bods either.
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