Posted on 12/13/2023 6:14:15 AM PST by Rummyfan
There is no “average” man.
Some are jerks who just want to use women.
Some want to settle down, get married and have kids—and be faithful to their wives.
Women need the street smarts to be able to tell the difference—admittedly easier said than done.
Persling said both her she and her ex thought that love could conquer everything, but after 10 years, it was clear their differences in life goals were irreconcilable.
So-called "journalists!"
Regards,
This woman can still have children if she can find the right guy. I will say a prayer for her.
I agree. My mom was 40, pushing 41, when she had my brother. The odds are against this lady having children, even more against her having healthy children, but they are not 0. I'll pray for her as well.
I'm a retiree, overweight, never exercised a day in my life, a real "couch potato" - and recently realized that I want to be an Olympic gold medalist.
Where's my sympathy?
Regards,
groupthink much?
A woman having her second or third child at 43 is not so astounding. (Congrats, by the way!)
A woman having her very first child at 43 is another thing entirely.
Regards,
First thing I was thinking as well. If you want to raise children there are plenty that need raising.
I sympathize with her and wish her the best, but it wouldn't be the way I'd bet. While it's difficult to judge from a small set of published and edited comments, it still appears she regards her man as a means to an end. He can make her happy - can she make him happy? The first try wasn't very encouraging.
My own late Mother embarked on a successful nursing career after raising five children. She put it this way: "Sure you can have it all, but you can't have it all at once."
Still, 38 is not too late but she has to realize that chasing little ones around at 40 is a different proposition from doing so at 20. If it doesn't work out biologically, and for many women it simply doesn't, then a call from a couple to an adoption agency might just be what the good Lord had in mind for her from the beginning.
And if you're a man, learn how to take out the garbage, unclog the toilet, and change the car's oil.
(Actually, regardless of sex, and regardless of marital plans, everyone should learn these things.)
Regards,
adoption is not always the answer.
It is not the same as one’s own.
X-ray vision, huh?
Regards,
My dog takes out our garbage.
I just hang on for dear life.
;-)
Women need the street smarts to be able to tell the difference—admittedly easier said than done.
But sending mixed messages is itself a red flag in either sex. At best it shows the person is not yet mature enough to know what s/he wants. At worst it is downright manipulative. Like most conservative women, I want to make my man happy. But in order to do that I need a blueprint, preferably one that is less complicated than my tax returns.
Dating Asian men is just easier than dating American men. There is no pressure to put out by the third date, none of the "alpha male" malarkey young men here seem to swallow hook, line, and sinker, and they don't ask what your pronouns are. They also tend to have higher IQs, lower BMIs, and lower rates of alcoholism and violent crime than white men. Plus more Asian men chasing white women than white women chasing Asian men is how a fit but average-looking gal like me ends up with a guy who looks like a model.
I'm sorry if this offends anybody, but it is just plain easier to find a high-quality Asian man than a high-quality white American man. I am a simple woman. I take the easier path unless there is some compelling reason to take the hard path.
groupthink much?
I'm not sure what you mean by that. AMWW pairings are relatively uncommon, so I don't see how my decision to marry an Asian guy was the product of groupthink.
My mother was 42 when I was born. It was a squeaker, but I made it. That was about 60 years ago.
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Those are my sentiments. When we ridicule those that express regret, we only harden the hearts of those that are still in the game and silence the testimonies of others.
do it wrong once, and it’s game over.
Every day you drive anywhere, you make simple life or death decisions at every stop sign. You don’t have to stop if you choose not to, and you may not even crash, but if you choose to drive through without stopping, you may die.
Sad fat tears. Sour looking.
An out-of-shape man well into his thirties can still hit the gym, diet, etc. and recover (or attain, assuming he never had one) a good-looking physique and high level of physical attractiveness. (Sadly, hair-loss is more or less untreatable, except through extraordinary technical means.) A little gray at the temples looks sexy. A few wrinkles add character to his face.
A 38-year-old woman can get into shape, eat sensibly, etc. - but still can't fool anyone into believing that she hasn't already squandered two full decades of sexual appeal and fertility. Given the choice between dating her present self as opposed to her 18-year-old self, the vast majority of eligible bachelors will have absolutely no difficulty is deciding.
You're alone because the gals who looked like Farah Fawcett wouldn't go out with you.
The statistics clearly indicate that women have a totally skewed perception of male physical beauty; when polled, they routinely rate about 80% of all men as being "below average" in the looks dept. (= mathematically impossible). Whereas men's perceptions closely follow a classic (Gaussian) Bell Curve.
Your reference to "rejecting" women who look(ed) like Farah Fawcett is totally fallacious; men tend to be far more "forgiving" of deficits in the "looks dept." - but not when it comes to "problems" (excessive girth, diminishing fertility, previous children, etc.) that reflect on her poor decision-making skills, lack of self-control, and/or point to her now merely wishing to "settle."
The only time I ever flat-out rejected a woman who approached me was because she was a good friend's fiancée.
At age 38, I met the love of my life (16 years my junior), and it's been smooth sailing ever since.
Regards,
Dogs and cats go to a veterinary hospital for care. “Fur babies” do too, but get charged more.
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