Posted on 11/29/2018 12:54:27 PM PST by Tolerance Sucks Rocks
Every Wednesday, the second hour of my national radio show is the “Male/Female Hour.” A few weeks ago, a woman named Jennifer called in.
For reasons of space, I have somewhat shortened her comments. Every young woman should read them. This is precisely what she said:
“Dennis, I want to get right to it. I’m 50 years old with four college degrees. I was raised by a feminist mother with no father in the home. My mother told me get an education to the maximum level so that you can get out in the world, make a lot of money. And that’s the path I followed. I make adequate money. I don’t make a ton of money. But I do make enough to support my own household.
“I want to tell women in their 20s: Do not follow the path that I followed. You are leading yourself to a life of loneliness. All of your friends will be getting married and having children, and you’re working to compete in the world, and what you’re doing is competing with men. Men don’t like competitors. Men want a partner. It took me until my late 40s to realize this.
“And by the time you have your own household with all your own bills, you can’t get off that track, because now you’ve got to make the money to pay your bills. It’s hard to find a partner in your late 40s to date because you also start losing self-confidence about your looks, your body. It’s not the same as it was in your 20s. You try to do what you can to make your life fulfilling. I have cats and dogs. But it’s lonely when you see your friends having children, going on vacations, planning the lives of their children, and you don’t do anything at night but come home to your cats and dogs. I don’t want other women to do what I have done.”
I asked, “Was it hard for you to make this call?”
She responded: “It was. I want to be anonymous because I don’t want people that I know to really know my true feelings. Because you do act like ‘My career is everything. I love working.’ But it’s a lie on the inside for me. It’s unfortunate. I didn’t realize this until it’s too late. I don’t know if it’s too late. I would like to find somebody to go on vacation with.
“You have other concerns when you get older and you live alone. Who’s going to take you to your medical appointments? If something should happen to you, there’s no other income there to help you. These are things you don’t understand when you’re in your 20s because you don’t think you’ll ever get old and have health problems.
“I’m stuck now because I go to work every day. I smile like I love it, but it’s very painful to not plan a vacation with someone. It’s painful to not have a Thanksgiving dinner with someone. You sit home alone and you do nothing. I avoid my friends now that have children because I have nothing in common with them.
“Somebody asked me the other day, ‘Why did you stay single and never have kids?’ There’s answers: Because I was brainwashed by my mother into this. But it’s hard and it’s shameful to tell people, ‘I don’t know. I ran out of time.’
“There’s not a good answer for it except: ‘I was programmed to get into the workforce, compete with men, and make money.’ Supposedly, that would be a fulfilling life. But I was told that by a feminist mother who was divorced, who hated her husband—my father.
“She tried to steer me on what she thought was the right path, but feminism is a lie. That’s what I want women to know.
“I didn’t realize this until late in life. I want to tell women: Find someone in your 20s. That’s when you’re still very cute. That’s when you’re still amiable to working out problems with someone. It’s harder in your 50s, when you’ve lived alone, to compromise with someone, to have someone in your home and every little thing about them annoys you because you’re so used to being alone. It’s hard to undo that, so don’t do what I did. Find someone in your 20s.”
I said, “I’m thinking of transcribing your call and making it a column.”
“Do that, Dennis. I want to help whoever I can,” she said.
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I'm a Cali boy. Found me a traditional woman from the hollers of backwoods Virginia.
Kinda felt like 'looking abroad' at the time ;-)
Why is a woman considered a competitor just because they get an education?
Women initiate 80% of divorces. A woman who knows that the family-court will favor her, and knows that she will come out OK, is more likely to pull the trigger on divorce.
A competitor is an evaluation of ones perspective of another.
If it acts like a duck . . .
If your significant other stands next to you and unzips their fly, well . . .
Please help, what is it that is wrong with the sentence that makes you think her degree was not in English?
You do realize this is a transcript of a call? She didn’t write it.
I just have one, and she doesn’t complain nearly as much as the guys around here seem to be doing.
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Just one cat? You should get another so it has a buddy, one not so bitter. Embrace your self-fulfilling prophecy. I’m sure in no time you could work your way up to a dozen or so. Maybe practice hoarding on the side. Ya know, like in the corner of the kitchen ... just for fun. Get your feet wet, so to speak.
Obviously English wasn't one of her degrees.
i know the English wasn't correct, but we all know what she was trying to say.
Having married for the only time in my life at age 60 to a woman who was 35 (her only marriage too), i can identify with this statement.
Both my wife and i struggle with this every day. It's probably much harder for us than it would be for those in their 20's who can still bend a bit, because we are both at an age where we know what works, and what doesn't work for each of us.
Hint: What works for her doesn't work for me, and visa versa.
Yes, they can be difficult to train at that age.
a woman who was 35
Yes, they can be difficult to train at that age.
Two words: Shock Collar ... it’s so cute when they jump.
I have three degrees. Got the first two, BS and Masters. Then I quit work once I gave birth to my son. I got my third to get back into the job market once he was in high school.
I would not trade that time raising our son, home room mom, den Mom, Little League, etc for all the money or materialistic crap in the world. I can’t imagine the regrets this person must feel. She is warning others that there is no replacement for a family, children and a loving, wonderful husband.
It doesn’t just happen. It takes hard work, respect, compromise and Faith, none of which is in abundance at a youthful age when femnazis are brainwashing everyone.
I have found that my worst coworkers tend to be older women with no husbands and no children. They are just bitter and unhappy. Their feminism is a poor comfort at night.
She's 50 now, she probably said the same thing you just said when she was 38. Just saying...
Interesting, this.
I’m happily married to my second wife after loosing the first one to cancer. I married the second wife when she was in her late 40s. She had never been married. She experienced each and every thing mentioned in this article. Actually she did want a partner, but she was cursed with being successful and very smart (the two are not necessariy correlated - see Moochelle and the Hillabeast). As such, men avoided her. I did not, and was amply rewarded. Why men avoided an intelligent attractive woman is beyond me.
We are both very happy after over 12 years of marriage and both of us are very glad we have each other for support for all thing involved with life.
I pity the feminists (radical ones, that is) for so many reasons.
But, that’s their probem, not ours.
Its different for men, It really is no comparison.
And I am very happy for you for your children and your husband. I have nothing against marriage; my parents have been married over 50 years and my sister over 20. I have nothing against children; I have three nephews and nieces who I'm crazy about. I have nothing against women who are stay-at-home moms; on the contrary I have nothing but respect who choose to do that. All I'm saying is that those things are not for everyone. And I freely admit that the choices I've made for my life are not for everyone either. But I'm not trying to force them on anyone.
Probably not.
I had two, they were litter mates. I lost the male about three years ago.
Embrace your self-fulfilling prophecy. I’m sure in no time you could work your way up to a dozen or so. Maybe practice hoarding on the side. Ya know, like in the corner of the kitchen ... just for fun. Get your feet wet, so to speak.
LOL! I always find it amusing when guys like you claim that I need to partner up with guys like you in order for my life to be complete. No lack of ego on your part, is there?
Actually, if you read it, that is EXACTLY what she said...but hey, its your life!
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