Posted on 07/24/2018 11:14:28 AM PDT by servo1969
I love women. Not in the social justice warrioresque "We must praise women as strong, capable CEOS and STEM graduates who can do anything men can do, but in heels" way, but in an old-school way. It's easy to respect a mother who watches out for her children, a wife who is loyal to her husband, or a sister who cares for her brother. I love a beautiful woman. I love a sexy woman. I love a woman who gives off that amazing feminine energy. As a man, being around a woman like that is just good for your spirit.
All that being said, this is not about the more wonderful traits of women. To the contrary, it's the kind of warning about women that fathers used to give their sons, but that's frowned upon today. You see, in our society we can hammer home the faults of men until they become stereotypes, but we're not supposed to point out the similarly damaging, but often very different flaws of women that young men need to worry about.
I think lions are extraordinarily beautiful and powerful creatures, but I also know if you make a wrong move around one, you can lose an arm. Women are much the same. They are magnificent but dangerous and since men pursue them, they need to understand what they're getting into.
Men don't like to admit this, but the first thing they think about when it comes to women is beauty. Not only are we drawn to it, but it's a status symbol. When a man has an attractive woman, other men think more of him. In fact, it can become such a powerful draw that some men put beauty first and second -- and whatever comes third doesn't matter. This is a mistake if you plan to be with her beyond a date or three because beauty fades for all of us, but it fades faster and harder for women. Moreover, beauty in and of itself only attracts for so long. As the old saying goes, "No matter how good she looks, someone out there is tired of her sh*t." Point being, make sure you judge a woman on a lot more than beauty alone because the time is going to come when one way or the other, that beauty is going to fade in your eyes.
Men tend to be famously ruthless about relationships a few dates in when women fall for them way too early and the men only care about sex. On the other hand, women tend to be much more ruthless than men when a relationship is ending. This is hard for a lot of men to believe because they can't imagine the sweet, uplifting, nurturing woman they were in a relationship with is taking them to the cleaners in divorce court or using their kids as a bargaining chip after the divorce.
Women tend to put the same kind of emphasis on status that men put on beauty. That doesn't mean it's the end all and be all of everything, but it does mean status is a lot more important to women than it is to men. What that means is that as a man, if you ever stop performing at the level your woman is accustomed to, you may lose her regardless of everything else. Lose your job, get demoted, take a big pay cut, lose your moxie somehow and women are much more likely to walk away than a man would be with a woman in the same situation. That doesn't mean it's a given, but it does mean that going backward in status as a man risks your relationship with a woman.
There are exceptions to every rule, but the most stable woman is as emotional as an unstable guy. Women are more emotional, more hormonal than men. Women are, at best, more tolerant of drama than men and at worst, they seek it out. They will become upset for no good reason, act irrationally, and are more prone to things like anxiety than men. The point of this is not "women are unstable and bad," it's that women are very different in this area and you need to be ready to deal with it. At times there's going to be crying, no matter what you do. At times, your girlfriend / lover / wife is going to become angry at you even though you've done nothing wrong. Wise men learn that there are times to ignore things women say rather than get in a fight because ten minutes later, their mood will improve. To men who aren't used to it, all of this can be freaky, but it can also help keep things fresh and exciting once you learn to navigate it.
If your woman is stronger than you, she may still date you. She may love you. She may even marry you one day. However, on a fundamental level, she will not be able to respect you if you are not strong and competent enough to lead her. Women don't want to be the ones who make all the decisions and wear the pants in the family and if you force her to do that, it will wear on her and she will come to resent you. How will that resentment play out? At best, probably unhappiness and at worst, cheating, divorce or contempt that's so bad that you wish you were divorced. I'm not telling you to be a jerk, but I am telling you that if you are not a stronger person than your woman, you will ultimately be sorry.
LOLOL!!!
That’s the IED that hit my marriage - menopause.
Bkmk
Is going bald considered aging like fine wine?
“Never trust a woman or an automatic pistol.” - John Dillinger
I don’t think there’s any doubt. In those circles, men seek beauty, women seek money, so it’s essentially a business transaction, it’s just not called that, outloud anyway.
“and to handle the bills, and and and-”
Well, part of the reason I’m getting divorced is because I turned over all the bills, and 90% of my paycheck, to the soon-to-be-ex.
This was 6 or 7 years into our marriage. She’s got business degrees, I never went to college.
Here is it, 7 or 8 years later, and one credit card (of mine) has charged off for non-payment a few years ago - she never told me about it. The mortgage on the house (titled and mortgaged in my name only) was 6 months overdue, and was in the process of being foreclosed on, which would have sucked since my cousin is the sheriff’s deputy that would have been out to the house to lock it up and remove my family and stuff. This on top of the fact that she literally does not lift a finger to do any cleaning. I did the laundry, vacuuming, etc. My dad moved in with us 5-6 years ago, and he does the cooking. He and I split the dishes, when possible. I was the kids taxi service for church, school, choir, scouts, friends sleep-over, birthday parties, etc.
So, NO, I will NEVER turn over bills to someone else again.
That’s a feature, not a penalty.
I don’t think his wives showing their age was the problem. Ivana reportedly filed for divorce after she discovered he was having an affair with Marla Maples. He was wrong to commit adultery. No idea if Ivana was adulterous. She’s been married 4 times. Unlucky in love. And he did not divorce Marla to marry another. She was reportedly having an affair with one of Trump’s guards. (When you marry someone else’s husband, you just may cheat on him, too.)
No argument that Trump was a playboy. He seems to have settled down, though. I don’t believe all the crap about affairs while married to Melania, but even if they were true, that was then, and this is now.
I actually don't care about that.
HE'S NOT HILLARY.
He's also not some paragon of virtue. He's a President, not a "role model".
Same happened to me. Caught my ex cheating and she bailed for her highschool sweetheart. Is what it is. Thankfully we have shared 50/50 custody and we get along. I took the brunt of it but I made good decisions and took care of myself.
This YouTube channel should be mandatory for all men and boys
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuKqtwPO5ci5_KoZGbfl33g
I’m 39 and have been single two years. I have little to no interest in dating, especially the women my age. Most are either in the process of dumping their husbands for a bigger better deal, they are single craving children and have slept around for over a decade, or they are single moms with too much baggage and little to offer.
Never settle! Never. Work on yourself and be the best version of yourself you can build. Settling is only setting yourself up for failure later. Be realistic, but worry about YOU (and your kids) first.
Celibacy is preferable to a lifetime of female nagging and yelling.
I have a consistent record of failure with women — despite the fact that I’m neither deformed, demented, or destitute. But at least I’ve never been hauled into family court and had half my assets taken away.
Three Chinese cheers for American women: Phoeey! Phooey! Phooey!
Same basic place you are. Working on myself and my kids. My kids are 17 and 15. Trying to get the two 17’s into good vocational certificate programs. Once they are there I will be able to relax a little.
My wife can be deadly and beautiful at the same time. My wife really hit me hard when she caught me (when I was about 55) admiring a woman walking down the street. She said, she could be your granddaughter (18+18+18=54). Direct hit. That was a very low blow to my ego.
Wait til he has ED.
Lube is going to be the least of his problems.
Lube doesn’t matter if nothing works in the first place.
He can take a Viagra pill. But there is no pill that stops female meanness.
When they say stuff like “that could be your daughter”, or “that could be your granddaughter”, you can shut them down by saying, “yeahhhhhh... but she’s not”.
:)
In a rare burst of wisdom during my teen years, I decided that any attached men were off limits to me.
I figured that any man who would cheat on his wife with me, would cheat on me with another woman.
I have no respect for that kind of lack of integrity.
My sister dated a man for a while who had been divorced, and of course, it was his wife’s fault.
But as the relationship went on, she said something didn’t feel right and they finally broke up, with him giving her some really lame excuse.
Makes his wife have a lot more credibility. He could paint her as the bad guy, but considering the way he was, she was probably a saint to put up with him as long as she did.But of course, he was the victim in it all.
It wasn’t about meanness.
It was about dry skin.
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