Dulcie has a DNR, so we know she doesn’t want extraordinary measures taken. They have given us morphine drops and Lorazepam. We haven’t had to give them to her since early yesterday afternoon. She is in total sleep mode, no response, no eyes openinf. Her arms are very limp and cool.
She is still with us at this time. She reacted a bit when i put water on her tongue and lips with the little sponges on a stick that they provided us. Slow, shallow breathing. I was so relieved. I want her to be at peace, but we also don’t want her to leave us. Selfish, I know.
We had morphine as well. You can only try to reach the pain, even tho you don’t know from where it is coming. We doubled it immediately.
I so wish we could have gotten hospice weeks before she passed, but you need a doctor to refer you, and they wanted to see her. Not happening.
You have a wonderful hospice option and a visiting nurse is invaluable. Suzye, for us, was a saint with her experience.
In the last couple weeks my Mom would sleep for three days and wake up saying she was hungry.
I’m glad Dulcie has her DNR in place. As hard as it is to let go, I think she is letting you know she is ready. And she knows you are there and that she is loved.
Minute-to-minute....prayers of peace for all of you. ((HUGS))