Posted on 12/29/2016 11:31:21 AM PST by ChicagoConservative27
In recent years, somewhere between endless Tinder swipes and countless OkCupid matches, the dinner date has fallen by the wayside.
As online dating surges in popularity, few millennials have the time, money, or desire to sit with a stranger over a long meal. Only 7 in 10,000 messages in a recent OkCupid IAC survey suggested “grabbing some dinner” and a somewhat less scientific survey this reporter conducted of several dozen actively dating 20-somethings found that dinner has become a highly taboo first date. Last month, Moody’s Investors Service slashed its operating-profit growth forecast for the restaurant sector. (This appears to complement another trend noted by market researcher NPD Group that suggests 57 percent of meals in the US are eaten alone.)
There’s good reason why people don’t want to sit through a meal with a stranger for an hour, or often longer. One singleton this reporter spoke to called it her “worst nightmare,” and another said the idea of sitting through an unspecified number of hours of food, drinks or dessert makes her anxious. A recent article in Cosmopolitan detailed “Why First-Date Dinners Suck,” listing similar reasons: The date category is antiquated, the time frame of the event is too long if there is no chemistry, and eating is too “intimate.”
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“eating is too intimate.”
what a joke, they will hook up with strangers.
“Given the likelihood an individual online date will not lead to a long-term relationship, this does not seem surprising.”
In many cases this is true. However, my wife & I have been together for 20 years. We met in a IRC chatroom in the Windows 3.11 days. We married in 1997. We have a dear friend who met his wife online as well. Folks can & do meet their spouse online.
not necessarily. many will not get married. less mismatched marriages will lead to less divorce.
This has nothing to do with boredom and everything to do with the massive cost of eating out.
If you go to a decent place, order for two, drinks, tips, taxes, you don’t leave without spending $75 to $125 dollars.
Try adding up the cost of dating someone these days. It’s downright prohibitive.
My eldest nephew just turned 30. He’s had one short-term girlfriend in his life, and not because he’s homosexual or ugly. He’s got a good personality, but gives off a sort of “don’t expect anything of me, I’m not really mate material” vibe. Stunted somewhere in his teens, it seems. Pretty sad.
No sense of adventure huh?
Yes. It sounds quite sad. Apparently there’s a lot like him too
Coffee date is the best way to go. No more than a 45 minute commitment, cheap, and easy to depart. If you click, you can make plans from there. If you don’t click, you have a ‘prior commitment.’
These Millenials will never cut it in business.
I’ve lost track of how many dinners I’ve eaten with clients and potential customers whom I didn’t even like.
According to princess riverdawg, the whole concept of a one-on-one dinner date is an anachronism. Dinners are now almost entirely group events comprised of approximately equal numbers of the opposite sex, with perhaps some (and maybe none) of the opposite-sex pairs attracted romantically. And Dutch treat is the rule. Times have certainly changed since my dating days.
Plenty of sense of adventure. No desire to spend money to lie to somebody for 2 hours hoping for sex afterwards. Two people pretending to be somebody they’re not is simply no way to figure out if they’ll like each other.
Dating now means screwing. So dinner is optional.
Disagree. It looks like this article only interviewed women in New York City. Add to that the fact that they are women using online dating sites and that means they are the most stuck-up, pickiest women in the world. As they say in the article, they don’t want to waste 5 minutes of their life with a guy who isn’t their perfect ideal mate. Most women on online dating sites think they’re God’s gift to men and are looking only for an ideal of perfection that does not exist and would not want to be with them if it did.
The online dating “hook up culture” doesn’t exist. Online dating is 99 men searching for the proverbial hook-up for every 1 woman who is searching for a billionaire who looks like Brad Pitt to cater to her every need.
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