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Why we can't forget the racism of this campaign - (South Carolina waiter called "boy")
cnn ^ | November 16, 2016 | Isaac Bailey

Posted on 11/29/2016 11:53:34 AM PST by re_tail20

I noticed the waiter lingering around my table a little more than usual. For the first time at this buffet-style restaurant, the waiter seemed agitated. Normally, he would be singing to mesmerized patrons in between busing tables and asking if customers needed any assistance in a place that is essentially self-serve.

"That man called me boy," he finally told me, unprompted, while pointing his eyes toward an older white gentleman in blue overalls.

"He said, 'boy, go get me some sweet tea,'" the waiter went on, mostly under his breath. He didn't want anyone else to hear.

"I'm a man! I'm a father," he told me. I could see that he was fighting back tears and the urge to show that man, in no uncertain terms, that he was no one's boy.

The waiter, a black man in his 30s, told his white supervisor about the incident but was told to just ignore it, that maybe the man didn't mean any harm.

But he couldn't -- it hurt too much -- and that's why he was standing at my table, commiserating with the only other black person in the restaurant. He had no other option. He couldn't confront the man directly without the potential of being called overly sensitive or, worse yet, losing his job.

I left him a larger-than-usual tip in hopes that gesture might provide some respite in an untenable situation. He needed the job. But he needed his dignity, too. He struggled, and in the end did what many had done before him -- swallowed hard and got back to work.

That was a few months ago. His was one of many stories that came back to me after election night, because it is illustrative of what many people of color are feeling as the words "President-elect...

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TOPICS: Culture/Society; US: South Carolina
KEYWORDS: fakenews; racecard; southcarolina
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To: re_tail20

Would he rather be called something else?


21 posted on 11/29/2016 12:05:24 PM PST by Senator Goldwater
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To: servantoftheservant

Yet they love being pandered to .... “I ain’t in no ways tired”....


22 posted on 11/29/2016 12:05:39 PM PST by tgusa (gun control: hitting your target.)
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To: re_tail20

Not one hint of a racist attitude from Donald Trump, yet the champion of all these people has made numerous, documented racist and bigoted statements over the years. What was the one about Obama serving them coffee? How about the anti-Semitic comments?

But no, they’re all distraught at the illusion of racism, not the real thing.


23 posted on 11/29/2016 12:07:33 PM PST by RegulatorCountry
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To: RegulatorCountry

Sounds like a fake news site!


24 posted on 11/29/2016 12:08:37 PM PST by KSCITYBOY (The media is corrupt)
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To: re_tail20

The kind of garbage we’ve come to expect from the Cheating News Network.


25 posted on 11/29/2016 12:08:45 PM PST by moovova
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To: marktwain

Only a dumbass Eastern would think this is a story at all. In the South just about everyone is “boy”. Any man younger than another could be called “boy” there are 50 yr olds who are called that. Then you have good ole boys of all ages.

Presumably, this victim would have preferred “hey you”.


26 posted on 11/29/2016 12:08:47 PM PST by arrogantsob (Nationalist, Patriot, Trumpman, Hater of the Media)
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To: re_tail20

I’m a white guy in his 50s, and I’ve been called ‘boy’ in public. As in, “Hey, boy, can you help me with this?”. Normally by someone even older than I am.

Even if it happened, I doubt it “happened”, so to speak.


27 posted on 11/29/2016 12:09:25 PM PST by Mr Rogers (We're a nation of infants, ruled by their emotion)
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To: re_tail20

I was called “Boy” while working a service job in the late ‘70s.

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I’m white.


28 posted on 11/29/2016 12:09:49 PM PST by Uncle Miltie (The Media were SuperPacs for Clinton. Throw them in prison.)
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To: re_tail20

Victims and the pretend world of horrors they live in.

Welcome to the Land of Make-Believe.


29 posted on 11/29/2016 12:11:21 PM PST by Roman_War_Criminal
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To: re_tail20

“Fake news” for drama queens.


30 posted on 11/29/2016 12:11:34 PM PST by VideoDoctor
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To: Genoa

So WHO was the older white gentlemen in blue overalls?

Was it Donald Trump? Somehow I don’t think so.

So what chain of logic ties this back to Trump? I do not follow.


31 posted on 11/29/2016 12:11:48 PM PST by alloysteel (Je suis deplorable.)
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To: re_tail20

1. I’ve been called “boy” decades ago, when I worked in a restaurant, and I’m white. In response, I gave the best possible service to people who called me that, and to just about everyone else. It was my job to make them feel special.

2. I have very serious doubts whether any of this actually happened to the reporter or to the person he claims to have talked with.

3. I don’t struggle to hold back tears when life is imperfect. Death is worth tears. Cancer and other serious diseases are worth tears. Hurt feelings? Nope. If I told my life story, I could easily have listeners in tears because of the almost indescribably bad things I’ve been through. But why would I focus on those parts of my life instead of all the blessings God has given my, my family, and my country. Why would I give a total stranger, no matter how rude, power over my life that lasted even one second, the way this hypothetical waiter is reported to have fought back tears?


32 posted on 11/29/2016 12:11:49 PM PST by Pollster1 ("Governments derive their just powers from the consent of the governed")
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To: re_tail20

Now I am reconsidering my terms of endearment!!!!

I call contractors, black, white, Hispanic et.al. ‘sweetheart’ or ‘honey’. Don’t know why that is, I can only believe it is because that is what I call my sons when they accomplish a task for me.

Or, perhaps because I am getting old, I can’t remember their names;).


33 posted on 11/29/2016 12:12:58 PM PST by sodpoodle (Life is prickly - carry tweezers.)
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To: re_tail20
Lol! Having worked in a restaurant in my younger days, the first thing I thought was that routine was probably this waiters racket, he identifies some liberal wracked by white guilt (maybe by their “I'm with her” t-shirt). Then he gives the ol’ “You see that guy, he called me boy...” routine and out roles the huge “tip”. He probably manages to pull it of several times a day...
34 posted on 11/29/2016 12:13:06 PM PST by apillar
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To: re_tail20

The French sometimes call waiters Garçon, which means boy.


35 posted on 11/29/2016 12:13:28 PM PST by luvbach1 (I hope Trump runs roughshod over the inevitable obstuctionists, Dems, progs, libs, or RINOs!)
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To: re_tail20

Oh boy!!!!

OOPS, THERE I GO AGAIN!!!

Let me get this straight.

The libs object to somebody being called “boy” by somebody who may or may not have actually said this.

But they have NO PROBLEM with a bunch of fanatics who burn people alive, crucify people, cut off hands and legs, flog and stone women, etc. and they EULOGIZE a tyrant and dictator 90 miles off our coast who tortured, murdered and incarcerated thousands of his own people, turned his country into a third world nightmare and lived like a Roman Emperor in a secured palace?


36 posted on 11/29/2016 12:13:39 PM PST by ZULU (We are freedom's safest place!!!! #BOYCOTT HAMILTON!!! #BOYCOTT NEW YORK CITY!!!!!!!)
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To: alexander_busek

Bingo.

It takes a special kind of “victim” to project indigence with an outstretched hand.


37 posted on 11/29/2016 12:14:09 PM PST by ConservativeWarrior (Fall down 7 times, stand up 8. - Japanese proverb)
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To: re_tail20

Who cares


38 posted on 11/29/2016 12:15:17 PM PST by Altura Ct.
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To: re_tail20

Cow pucks. Video or it didn’t happen. Can the author possibly fill the story with any more cliches?


39 posted on 11/29/2016 12:17:10 PM PST by CaptainPhilFan
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To: Arm_Bears

I am over 60, and sometimes my elders call me ‘child’, ‘girl’ ‘miss’...

Get over your self!! Use some humor...”I’ll get your tea for you young man, have a seat right over here...”and park him next to the highchairs and seat elevators for children, or offer him a highchair or seat elevator at his table... Come on folks, this is more than over the top foolishness.


40 posted on 11/29/2016 12:18:38 PM PST by PrairieLady2
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