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How to Stay Sane While Black
New York Times ^ | 11/20/2016 | Morgan Parker

Posted on 11/21/2016 9:06:21 AM PST by ErikJohnsky

I wish I could point to the moment when I first understood I was a thing to be hated. The first “I’m just not attracted to black girls.” The first “Do you work here?”

When I was 15, I was told I have major anxiety disorder and moderate-to-severe depressive disorder.

“Black people don’t go to therapy,” my dad said.

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TOPICS: Culture/Society; News/Current Events; Politics/Elections
KEYWORDS: affirmativeaction; blacks; pantsupdontshoot; psychology; racepimping; racialism
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To: MountainWalker

Exactly. Most of the slights she blames on racism- people bumping into her, flinging their wet hair on her, confusing her with other people; these things happen to me, and people of all races.

If you spend all of your time looking for slights, you will find them no matter who you are. Those looking for racism 24/7 are destined to find what they see as racism.


21 posted on 11/21/2016 9:48:08 AM PST by Tammy8 (Please be a regular supporter of Free Republic !)
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To: Baynative

This is actually great. A perfect illustration of how deleterious liberalism is to the mental health of black people in America!


22 posted on 11/21/2016 9:49:51 AM PST by Behind the Blue Wall
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To: rbg81

Yes. When someone bumps into me I don’t think they just don’t like country people...people just bump into each other occasionally and some people don’t pay attention. It happens, seldom is there any meaning in it.


23 posted on 11/21/2016 9:50:18 AM PST by Tammy8 (Please be a regular supporter of Free Republic !)
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To: leaning conservative
You are so adorable!
Come here and give me a big smooch.

24 posted on 11/21/2016 9:53:27 AM PST by BenLurkin (The above is not a statement of fact. It is either satire or opinion. Or both.)
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To: pierrem15

My dad, an Army combat veteran of WWII in N. Africa, Italy
& Germany spoke of seeing a stack of dead bodies TEN FEET
HIGH for a span of an eighth of a mile at one of the camps
they liberated. The NAZIS had skedaddled too fast to
“process” the bodies when they heard the American tanks
rumbling and the American feet marching toward their camps.
- The generals made a big mistake “sparing” the delicate
sensibilities of the public from seeing the results of
allowing such a one as HITLER to seize power and disarm
the regular citizen.


25 posted on 11/21/2016 10:22:58 AM PST by Twinkie (John 3:16)
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To: Baynative

I read the WHOLE thing. She never gets around to explaining how to stay sane ergo she is insane. I see many beautiful black women and I have never met any other man who could not find a pretty women in any of the races. I am certain that manhood trumps race every time. But it doesn’t always trump an ugly mind. No matter her looks, race, or religion she is ugly.


26 posted on 11/21/2016 10:35:29 AM PST by FreedomNotSafety
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To: Gil4

“She sounds like the least qualified person in the world to give the answers promised in the title.”

I was thinking the same thing. This woman is by no means sane, and unfortunately she is not unusal. The DemocRATS have broken black people by constantly harping about racism. It seems to saturate Black culture and fills them with paranoia and self hatred.


27 posted on 11/21/2016 10:36:09 AM PST by Brooklyn Attitude (The first step in ending the War on White People, is to recognize it exists.)
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To: A_Former_Democrat

She expects white people to “step down and make room” for blacks at the top of business and academia.
There just aren’t, and can’t possibly be, any blacks who have excelled in business and academia by working their way up on their own merits, or even by starting their own businesses and colleges.
Oh wait. There are?
But they’re just a bunch of Uncle Toms! /s


28 posted on 11/21/2016 10:36:32 AM PST by mumblypeg (They've summoned up a thundercloud/ and they're going to hear from me. (Anthem-Leonard Cohen))
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To: BenLurkin

My post was aimed at the NYT’s writer, not your comment. ; )


29 posted on 11/21/2016 10:51:05 AM PST by leaning conservative (snow coming, school cancelled, yayyyyyyyyy!!!!!!!!!!!)
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To: Baynative

If you go looking for offense, you’re going to find it. If you’re perpetually looking for offense, you’re perpetually offended. No one likes being around such people, it’s miserable. But, it’s a self-perpetuating cycle for the perpetually aggrieved. They perceive this discomfort surrounding them as yet more evidence of racism, since that’s their mission in life, to find it, identify it and denounce it.

How about listening to what Martin Luther King actually said and just go into any given situation with your head up and your mind open, civil, polite and engaging? Wouldn’t that be a much more pleasant life?

Sure, there are assholes in the world, who will judge you wrongly. That happens to everybody. Dismiss them, put them out of your mind. Associate with those who respond well to you, and you to them. Live your life. Associate freely. Pursue your happiness. It’s what this country was built upon.


30 posted on 11/21/2016 10:56:36 AM PST by RegulatorCountry
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To: Baynative

Why doesn’t she just move to Capetown——they’d love her there.

Lordy.the whining is tiresome.

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31 posted on 11/21/2016 10:57:48 AM PST by Mears
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To: wardaddy

My wife says no....:)


32 posted on 11/21/2016 11:07:46 AM PST by TheErnFormerlyKnownAsBig (Repeal & replace Obamacare, tax reform, fix infrastructure, fixin military, Israel, kill enemies)
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To: Baynative
I wish I could point to the moment when I first understood I was a thing to be hated. The first “I’m just not attracted to black girls.” The first “Do you work here?”

These aren't examples of hatred. The first is an example of personal preference. For example, the Kardashian sisters seem to exclusively prefer black men - this does not mean they therefore hate all other races. The second is an example of a mistake - I was asked this same question recently at my local Home Depot. I didn't feel hated - I just said no and pointed the lady to the gardening department, which she was looking for.

One of the problems in America today is the incredible touchiness shown by just about everyone, due to liberal encouragement of personal sensitivity. We're raising multiple generations of buttercups who would shrivel up and wilt if they every encountered real hatred, let alone real oppression.
33 posted on 11/21/2016 11:10:09 AM PST by AnotherUnixGeek
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To: Baynative

This is a case of what is going on in his head has to be the fault of and blamed on others.

I’m not pure white but have never spent time in my life dwelling on the color of my skin or cultivating the fantasy that everyone else was out to get me just because I do not look like they do. I was too busy working and figuring out how to succeed in the real world. I did not blame others for my failures and I take credit for my accomplishments. To be blunt about it, no one can make you equal. This is something you have to believe and establish for yourself.

If I do not like the conversation I have with myself then it is up to me to change the situation and the conversation. No one else can do that for you.

The difference between this guy and a hundred million successful people is that we take responsibility for ourselves and our actions. He made the choice, and it was a choice, long ago to be a helpless victim. He has succeeded in his goal.


34 posted on 11/21/2016 11:10:24 AM PST by oldenuff35
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To: Twinkie
My grandfather said that there was never any question as to going off to war, but that after he visited a recently liberated camp, he knew exactly why he was there.

Only talked about it one time. I wish that I had listened more, and talked less, but when I was 15 or 16 Grandpa would be around forever, and there would always be second chances.

35 posted on 11/21/2016 11:11:18 AM PST by wbill
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To: Baynative

Staying sane is easier when you realize the world doesn’t revolve around you.


36 posted on 11/21/2016 11:11:32 AM PST by b4me (If Jesus came to set us free, why are so many professed Believers still in chains?)
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To: BenLurkin
This piece is different than similar ones I have read in that the author seems sincerely wounded in ways that are linked to her being a black girl. Undeniably true are that many black boys/men prefer white girls, and that among black people, historically there has been a caste system that rates lighter skin and whiter features as better than dark skin and black features. In addition, white women generally are much more open to dating black men than white men are to dating black women. I understand how painful it would be to grow up in a world that seems to deem you as less desirable. This author's pain is palpable. The problem is that there is nothing the state or the government can do about it, and people who egg her on with talk of “reparations” are doing her a disservice. Life is unfair; that's just the way it is. She just has to do what people of all races always have done: the best she can with the one and only life she has.
37 posted on 11/21/2016 11:16:09 AM PST by utahagen
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To: Baynative

Median IQ:

Asians, 110
Whites, 100
Blacks, 85

As long as it is forbidden to talk about median IQ, the disparities in income, wealth, and accomplishment will be blamed—as in this article—on white racism or “white supremacism.”

The law should insist on equality of opportunity and equality of rights.


38 posted on 11/21/2016 11:36:47 AM PST by Arthur McGowan (https://youtu.be/IYUYya6bPGw)
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To: Baynative

Poor poor pitiful me.


39 posted on 11/21/2016 11:40:14 AM PST by Altura Ct.
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To: A_Former_Democrat

Thinking of some black women who didn’t let setbacks stop their ultimate success in life, or from just living a sane, fulfilled life of accomplishment:

1. Harriet Tubman
2. Sojourner Truth
3. Coretta Scott King
4. Diana Ross
5. Tina Turner
6. Oprah Winfrey
7. Ella Fitzgerald


40 posted on 11/21/2016 11:52:24 AM PST by Cecily
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